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ExH kissing DD15 on the lips

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noodella · 10/08/2017 21:19

I know there's been a lot in the press recently about "celebs" kissing their young children on the lips, but what about older teenagers?
ExH turned up to pick up DD15 yesterday and kissed her on the lips as they walked to the car. The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I am with it. I love my Dad with all my heart, but kissing him on the lips would just seem wrong.
AIBU to think it's weird or is it quite normal?

OP posts:
PigletWasPoohsFriend · 10/08/2017 21:48

Normal

Frillyhorseyknickers · 10/08/2017 21:49

I kiss my dad on the lips and I'm 37. Am I weird?

Incredibly.

rascallyrascal · 10/08/2017 21:50

I'm 35. Still kiss my lovely dad on the lips.

Kpo58 · 10/08/2017 21:51

I'd find it odd and rather creepy (what else do they get up to behind closed doors?). I don't know anyone who kisses people apart from their partner on the lips.

BitOutOfPractice · 10/08/2017 21:51

You find it odd. They don't. Some people find it odd. Others don't. YABU

PovertyPain · 10/08/2017 21:54

I think it depends on when it started. If they have always done this, then that's fine, but if this has only recently started, then that would make me uncomfortable.

Hulababy · 10/08/2017 21:55

Not off at all if it's just a normal quick kiss, and both are comfortable/happy to do so.
I know many people who kiss their parents and/it their children (of varying ages) on the lips. Totally normal.

WhamBarsArentAsFizzyAsTheyWere · 10/08/2017 21:56

what else do they get up to behind closed doors

As someone who's 15yo will kiss me on the lips, I can tell you that behind closed doors we get up to lots of things, board games, cooking, me telling him to tidy his room, chatting about random things, homework.. ... y'know all the usual parenting things because I'm his mum.

There are some seriously odd views on this thread Hmm

Miserylovescompany2 · 10/08/2017 21:56

Does it bother her? If not - what's the problem?

If the kiss was open mouthed with additional tongue action - VERY wrong!

CosmicPineapple · 10/08/2017 21:56

Odd posting history OP. Hmm

EveryDayANewName · 10/08/2017 21:57

It's normal for me. I still give my Dad a kiss on the lips and I'm in my fifties. I like it, it's sweet. He doesn't kiss my adult DDs or DSs though.

they are both convinced the other is wrong. weird. uptight. perverted. wrong. odd. unloving. etc etc.

I don't think that's true. I literally don't care whether other Dads kiss their DDs on the lips or not. My DH doesn't kiss our DDs on the lips and it's never crossed my mind that it's odd. 🤷🏻‍♀️💋💋💋

Orangebird69 · 10/08/2017 21:57

I kiss both my parents on the lips. I'm 42. Yabu.

troodiedoo · 10/08/2017 21:57

To me it's weird, creepy and inappropriate. But if you've always done that then I guess it's OK as long as the child is fine with it.

MagicMoneyTree · 10/08/2017 21:58

what else do they get up to behind closed doors

Bloody hell- yes if it's kisses on the lips in public then it goes without saying that he must be abusing his own kid behind closed doors! Is that what you're implying??! Christ.

kali110 · 10/08/2017 21:58

*I kiss my dad on the lips and I'm 37. Am I weird?

Incredibly.*

How dare you say that Hmm
Just because you find it weird, doesn't make it so.

If you dont want to kiss your dd on the lips op then don't, but don't put your views on your dd.
I still kissed my ddad on the lips when i was in my 20's.

kali110 · 10/08/2017 21:59

what else do they get up to behind closed door
Omg, how disgusting Shock

LoyaltyAndLobster · 10/08/2017 21:59

YANBU - I find that really inappropriate!

Nocabbageinmyeye · 10/08/2017 22:00

Kissing your mil on the lips is very fucking weird Shock

Kids and parents I think each to their own but your mil Confused my aunt always tries to lob the gob on everyone, it's a running joke at this stage

steff13 · 10/08/2017 22:00

If you're genuine, it really only matters how she feels about it.

Voice0fReason · 10/08/2017 22:01

Not odd or creepy. For some people, it would feel uncomfortable, but it's not for you to feel anything at all about it. Your opinion is irrelevant.
All that matters is how your DD feels about it and whether she is able to express to her dad how she feels. If she's ok about it, it's lovely.

RebelRogue · 10/08/2017 22:01

I'd find it odd and rather creepy (what else do they get up to behind closed doors?). I don't know anyone who kisses people apart from their partner on the lips.

Out of all the "wrong" comments this one definitely takes the biscuit.

mycatdoesntlovemeanymore · 10/08/2017 22:02

YABU, it's not odd. I find it odd that you're sexualising it, unless there are other things that concern you also?

squoosh · 10/08/2017 22:03

If your daughter's okay with it then it's okay. I'd rather walk naked down the street whilst whistling Yankee Doodle Dandy than kiss my dad on the lips but that's because hugging is our thing.

Starlight2345 · 10/08/2017 22:04

I kiss my 10 year old on the lips except ( firstly in public because he considers it uncool) and if ill..He hates it when we kiss on cheeks when one of us is ill.

There is a huge difference between a smooch and a kiss on the lips.

mineofuselessinformation · 10/08/2017 22:04

As someone who kissed my DF on the lips (and elsewhere on his face) when I knew he was dying, YABU.
That's emotive, and I know it is.
BUT, unless either of the people involved are uncomfortable, it's ok.
Kissing on the lips doesn't have to mean anything sexual.

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