ExH kissing DD15 on the lips

[noodella]

I know there's been a lot in the press recently about "celebs" kissing their young children on the lips, but what about older teenagers?
ExH turned up to pick up DD15 yesterday and kissed her on the lips as they walked to the car. The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I am with it. I love my Dad with all my heart, but kissing him on the lips would just seem wrong.
AIBU to think it's weird or is it quite normal?

Well this has been eye opening ! Guess it's down to culture and conditioning. I'm not going to call anybody else gross. But I wouldn't be at all comfortable lip kissing anyone but romantic partner and small pre pubescent child. Just like there's nothing necessarily inherently sexual about, say, walking around nekkid in front of family I would feel very uncomfortable doing so. Just down to social conditioning i suppose. I come from a stand offish culture , whereas my Italian friend kisses his son and father

It's each persons choice

It's not odd. We normally kiss on the cheeks, but have the odd one on the lips. It's family... There's nothing creepy about it

TurquoiseOwl "It's not odd. We normally kiss on the cheeks, but have the odd one on the lips"

Oh, so you do think the ones on the lips are odd! That was a quick change of mind.

I think it depends on what you grew up with. In my family it has always been a peck on the lips (dry). I'm 35 and my dad is 65.

I do the same with my children but would stop if they didn't want to in the same way that I don't give DD a kiss outside school any more as she'd be embarrassed whereas DS doesn't yet care.

I miss both my parents on the lips I always have and I'm 27 I still kiss my grandparents on the lips does that make me weird.

I'm 45 and still kiss my 85 year old mum and 89 year old dad on the lips. So does DD (12). I don't kiss MIL or FIL but that's because neither of them can even cope with a hug, not even off their own children - I find that far more sad.

So long as she's comfortable with it then I can't see it's a problem.

Onceagain, look again now that you are looking for it. You have seen it, but just never registered it among the hundreds of other details your brain was processing in the scene because it was so normal

Depends on what's normal for your family. I would.

Not a popular opinion on here but I don't kiss anyone but my husband on the lips, I think it's weird, it would feel weird. Each to their own but it's not for me.

However, if your husband and daughter see no weirdness in it, then let them be. Everyone is different.

I'm in my 40's and kiss both my parents on the lips. Always have, always will.

Until I came on mumsnet I had no idea that a world existed where people thought this was not right.

Onceandneveragain
I find it very odd that you take that much interest in other people kissing!

Flipping eck YABU I'm 34 and have always give my dad a pec on the lips when I greet him

Not a popular opinion on here but I don't kiss anyone but my husband on the lips,

I am the same, although I wouldn't suggest it is weird if anyone else does it.

Someone suggested nudity- I think that's a good comparison. We don't wander around nude at home, the children saw us nude as toddlers, but never since.
For some families nudity is OK, others not.

It's culture, upbringing and personality.

Huge online debate about the subject- surprised you have missed it.

www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/item/aaffea21-63fb-4387-ab3e-0c1474660a40

I only kiss my DP on the lips, DD I used to but she's 13 now and at an odd stage where she's not particularly affectionate at all (although she did succomb to a hug when she came home after being away for a week recently). I'm hoping it's a stage.
TBH, my immediate family were never big kissers or huggers anyway but I certainly don't think it's weird if others do. Why does a simple act of affection have to be viewed as something weird or inappropriate.
I'd give my right hand to kiss my mum one more time.

I kiss my DM, DF, DSF, DSis, MIL, FIL, all my BILs and my 3 DDs and 1 DS on lips and I'm 37.

Obviously a kissy family!! Not weird to us

Not weird at all.
I cant believe how many people think it is creepy to kiss your dad on the lips

MIL used to kiss DH on the lips right up until the day she passed. She was a lovely lady and I still miss her.

YABU - as long as both sides are comfortable with it, what's the problem?

When I say 'weird' I mean more 'alien' than creepy. Just wasn't something we did growing up, so would feel weird to start now. Definitely don't think it's weird and sexual, or creepy, just wouldn't feel right because it's not something we do. Not from a very physically affectionate family though!

YABU. Creepy? No, not creepy. Just not some people want.

Yes to upbringing.

I was never lip kissed as a child, neither was OH, and something that we don't do to our children.

I am sure if my parents had lip kissed me then I would feel differently.

Lips are for lovers. But then I'm not a touchy-feely person and would rather wave than hug as a greeting. If someone swoops in for a hug and kiss I freeze.

If someone swoops in for a hug and kiss I freeze

That's why the air kiss was invented.

Even the Italians ( considered very touchy feely) are masters of the air kiss or pucker and cheek to cheek touch.
I have family in Italy and have experienced this fine art at close quarters.