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Don't want my 2 year old to wear a kilt. AIBU?

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PinkyPie2012 · 06/08/2017 23:55

We are invited to a Scottish wedding of a family member, my DS will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding. My DH is Scottish, I am not. Bride and groom are insisting all men must wear kilts including children. I personally do not like kilts, they are also not exactly cheap to buy, feels like waste of money to me especially for a toddler who will wear it once and then it is going to be too small. Shouldn't people be allowed to wear whatever they want or can afford to a wedding? AIBU?

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Jaxhog · 10/08/2017 17:37

Aww, he'll look so cute! Get DH to buy/hire/pay for it though.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 10/08/2017 20:05

If you are going to buy something new anyway then try and follow the dress code, it's no skin off your nose

If she bought a kilt, when would the kid ever wear it again? Especially considering OP doesn't even like kilts.

If she's going to buy something, she should buy something her child will wear again.

noeffingidea · 10/08/2017 22:15

whattodo she could sell it on. He doesn't wear smart trousers so is unlikely to wear again whatever she bought for a wedding.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 10/08/2017 22:53

noeffingidea Even with that, the main point here is that she doesn't like kilts.

noeffingidea · 11/08/2017 07:33

whatsnottodo that's not really the main point to me. I would consider putting my own dislikes aside in such a situation. Everything isn't just about me and what I like, you know?

Ohbehave1 · 11/08/2017 17:23

Come on OP. You have met them now. What was the outcome. Are you missing the wedding, upsetting the B&G or actually being a human being and following the B&G wishes?

Stressalot42 · 11/08/2017 19:23

If she's going to buy something, she should buy something her child will wear again.

If she's not going to buy anything special, which probably won't be worn again!

The she may as well use something he's got!

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PinkyPie2012 · 12/08/2017 01:50

So we met with B&G. Asked if they have any preference in tartan before we go ahead and hire. They said they don't really mind. They don't expect a toddler to be wearing one but would really like if all men and older boys do. Apparently there are couple of very old men among the guests that B&G are guessing won't be wearing kilts and they are fine with that.

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ReinettePompadour · 12/08/2017 09:28

If they don't expect your toddler to wear a kilt then buy something else thats nice enough for the wedding but useful enough to wear again.

We went to a wedding when ds was a toddler and I got a pair of blue chinos (ebay I think). They were really smart so great for the wedding but he wore them for a good few month after. They became a firm favourite as he really liked how comfy they were.

I really hate buying clothes only to worn once. I'd definitely go for something more practical now that the bride and groom have said they dont expect the toddler to wear one.

Notreallyarsed · 12/08/2017 09:56

Black Watch tartan is widely available in toddler sizes, it's beautiful imo (DP is ex Black Watch so it's a firm favourite in our house)

Ohbehave1 · 12/08/2017 16:14

So a big fuss about nothing then......

TrinityTaylor · 12/08/2017 16:23

Why wouldn't you just hire one? Pop him kn a pull up. He will look absolutely gorgeous. Better than the naff shiny debehnhams polyester trousers and waistcoat people put little boys in for weddngs

FelicityFucknickle · 15/08/2017 16:56

OP: They said they don't really mind. They don't expect a toddler to be wearing one

Ohbehave: So a big fuss about nothing then......
Grin

passremarkable · 16/08/2017 13:38

I didn't read absolutely everything but I know you were worried about a daily hire charge. Most places hire for the weekend so no rush to get things back the next day.

If the groom is hiring & you're travelling they might let you give them measurements & add your kilts to their order. Then groomsman can hand them all back together at the end. Might be a discount for a bulk order.

If you buy one for the little guy you can order it a size or two up as they're quite forgiving. Any white shirt looks good - next do a wing tip shirt.

Any waistcoat/smart jacket will look cute on a baby eg if you have a next or Mama /Papas type waistcoat/bow tie combo.

If not you can hire a mini waistcoat. If summer you don't need to bother with the argyle jacket.

www.gretnagreen.com/campbell-ancient-tartan-baby-kilt-p7903

Good luck, I hope you enjoy it!!

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 09/01/2018 05:46

Zombie thread!

LadyBunnysWig · 09/01/2018 06:15

Christ the things I'd do to my DH if I could get him in a kilt....

Anyways, you can buy second hand Kilts for not very much money on eBay can't you?

KayaG · 09/01/2018 06:37

Why on earth do people think they can dictate what guests wear?

Bloody cheek.

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 06:39

Why is this trending again...? Toddlers in kilts are adorable. But we have two DDs so... yeah.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/01/2018 06:42

Sales pitch, that's why.

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 09/01/2018 06:44

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Ah..... still, I’m surprised that a few posts were enough to put it on ‘trending’ again.

1forAll74 · 09/01/2018 06:44

Oh it will be lovely to look back on the photos of your little one in his little kilt.. much nicer than those page boy outfits.

Bowerbird5 · 09/01/2018 06:51

I was going to suggest Gretna for hire or purchase. Very reasonable. Your husband should know and be wearing his tartan. Usually several colours available and as mentioned Black Watch is used by several clans.

NewYearNewMe18 · 09/01/2018 06:59

What a pretentious wedding. Are you sure you even want to go?

SoupDragon · 09/01/2018 07:05

ZOMBIE THREAD

(Trending is based on views, not posts I believe)