Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

[Miamiabeer]

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

[wtffgs]

At least you found out earlier rather than later

[Aeroflotgirl]

If he was so broke he coukd not afford to buy you a drink, he should not have accepted one from you. If he's like tgat on the second date, I dread to think how he's going to be like further down the line. Not only is he mean, but rude and selfish. That bowling date would have been the last for me and I would have told him why.

[londonista]

Beebee

Are you drunk on £3.65 pints right now.

It. Was. Only. A. Joke.

[C0untDucku1a]

Run. Run fast.

Has he contacted you since?

[CockacidalManiac]

£3.60 is a standard price for a pint here in Brum, except the wankiest bars in the City Centre.

[Tobebythesea]

I went on a date a few years ago. I arrived first so I bought my drink (wine) and then his drink when he arrived, which was beer. He finally offers to buy a round (after an hour and a half) and comes back with a beer for him and a coke for me! Dumped.

[Skittlesandbeer]

For me it goes waaaaaay beyond dating etiquette, gender politics or the relative price of drinks. A 'drink' is whatever you're putting down your throat, and paying your way in a 'round' is sacrosanct. A building block of the civilised world.

Maybe the fact I'm Australian colours my view. We literally built a nation on this simple rule. It didn't matter where you came from, your colour, culture, creed or class. Just get the drinks round right.

I wouldn't trust this man enough to give him access to my car for an hour, let alone my nether regions. Cheers!

[MsWanaBanana]

Dump him by text and link in this thread just so he knows why 😂

[ShellyBoobs]

I would run away fast, OP.

I suppose at least you've found out what he's like early on.

[pinkunicornsarefluffy]

I agree, run fast! The man begrudged spending 60p on you. Says all you need to know!

[londonista]

Skittles totally agree.
The round is sacrosanct! Sometimes you're ahead sometimes behind but we all know the rules.

[Namechangetempissue]

Unanimous it seems OP! Dump immediately. I agree with everyone that meaness is deeply unattractive. I wouldn't dream of not offering to buy a drink for DH or friends. You can see why he is single! If he asks I would be honest (nicely!) and tell him why. It might give him something to think about for the future!

[KnobOfStork]

Can get a pint of bitter for £1.30 in a Sam Smiths, perhaps take him there and share a half

[Mummyoflittledragon]

Dh was friends for many years with a tight arse. Butt of many many jokes. We lived in Germany and he'd come over with 2-4 small bottles of beer for him to drink (and would then start on our booze). He would insist on taking the beer bottles home so he could get the money back on the bottles at the supermarket and thus prevent us from benefitting from the few pence his bottles were worth. The fact that he arrived empty handed (apart from beer), drank and ate his way through copious amounts of food, slept in our beds etc etc escaped him. His wife is lovely but she just went along with it and made no effort either. We went out together and she was a straight up split the bill though, unlike him, who liked to prorata. Apparently he stayed with friends in China for a couple of weeks and didn't put his hands in his pockets once either.

RUN RUN RUN

[KC225]

Another not a good sign. If he is calculating what you are costing enough to mention it that early not so much of a red flag but a red shroud. Mean is mean and as other have stated, it usually covers all areas

[frieda909]

Bloody hell what an arse!

When I first saw 'cocktail' I was thinking you might be ordering a £12 martini or something, but a 60p difference?! How ridiculous.

Plus you weren't even asking him to buy your cocktail at the time, you were actually offering to buy his pint! And even if you were ordering a very expensive cocktail on your own round, you could easily have chosen something cheaper on his.

I'm on a very tight budget so my blood often runs cold when I hear 'shall we just do rounds?' in a big group. But this is totally ridiculous!

[pinkyredrose]

Skittles has it!

[TeaCake5]

Are you more middle class than him?

[Monkeypuzzle32]

I went on a date with a bloke once, he bought the first round and moaned when the barmaid said to me 'do you want a double?' I said yes without really thinking about it, then he didn't hold the door open for me, then at the next bar when it was his turn to pay said 'shall we go halves?'
First and last date! This sort of thing was a deal breaker for me back in the day, I didn't earn much but I was never tight!

[SilverBirchTree]

Yuck! I agree with everyone else- don't see him again. What a dud.

Imagine being married to him! He's want you to be splitting the gas bill while you're on maternity leave.

[liquidrevolution]

As increasingly says. There is a reason he is single.

[RhubardGin]

Then after he drank that he went to bar and came back with just a pint for himself



What a rude twat!

Run for the hills, you can do better

[Graceflorrick]

That's why he's single OP

[RhubardGin]

Also, where on Earth do you live to get cocktails that cheap?

Round these parts your easily £9-£12!

totally misses point of the thread