Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

[Miamiabeer]

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

[BuggerLumpsAnnoyed]

It's such an unattractive quality. When DH and I were "courting" () we were both really generous with each other. Always squabbling to pay for eachother drinks. And we were skint.

Being like the bloke you're dating just doesn't seem like a good start to a relationship.

[Miamiabeer]

He was being serious too...
Our second date we went bowling and I noticed his drink was getting low so on my way back from loo I got us the drinks.
Then after he drank that he went to bar and came back with just a pint for himself ..

[Mari50]

Would put me off massively. Either he's tight or he's skint, neither of which are that attractive to be honest.

[Joey7t8]

Was he possibly trying to be funny?

Whichever, it's not worth another date for either being tight or making shit jokes.

[CockacidalManiac]

I think we know why he's single

[Notreallyarsed]

He's a twat, seriously. Personally I find someone who quibbles about money/is rude as unattractive as someone who expects the man to pay for everything.

Also, buying just for himself isn't just tight, it's fucking rude.

[oldtrees]

Time to move on. Don't give this guy any more headspace.

[thisismadness77]

I wouldn't care how much the difference was, that's awful and I wouldn't be seeing him again.

[WineAndTiramisu]

Definitely don't bother with another date!

[BalloonSlayer]

Oh dump.

If you move in with him he'll expect you to pay for 80% of the cost of the bog roll because men don't use it for a wee and women do. Gawd!

[dowhatyouwish]

Dump him. I personally will offer to pay the bill on the first date but do expect the man to pay it. This only applies to the first date FYI. No point staying with him he will no doubt get worse along the line.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Tight fucker nothing more off putting get rid.

[BewareOfDragons]

So this is really the second time he's shown himself to be really tight and selfish with buying you a drink. Wow.

Be thankful he's already shown you who he is. Believe him. Walk away.

[Gooseberrycrumble4]

Omg dump him! Don't date a tight arse, think of the long term ramifications. I would happily date a saver and someone who lived modestly but penny pinching over 50p is something else

[TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth]

I dumped a tightarse like this a few decades ago. He was so adoring of me and absolutely heartbroken when I ended it, yet would be very annoyed if any arrangement left him a few pence worse off. Can't understand it. True miserliness seems to be a condition that the sufferer has no control over... why make a fuss like this to someone you love, or, as in your case OP, someone you're trying to impress in the early stages of a relationship?
Seriously, move on.

Oh, and YANBU

[CockacidalManiac]

If you move in with him he'll expect you to pay for 80% of the cost of the bog roll because men don't use it for a wee and women do. Gawd!

Men do; it's stops the 'wet penny in the pocket' thing on trousers.

[Hippychickster]

I couldn't bear to go out with someone like this. I have no idea who pays for more drinks, DH or me because we don't keep count. How boring to have to. And going to the bar to get himself a drink? Words fail me! It's almost like he's testing you.

I would dump him - and I'd tell him why.

[Sugarpiehoneyeye]

Yes, and keep running ..... what a tightwad, Jeez 😮

[mamalovesmojitos]

Run for the hills op!

[pinkyredrose]

Can't believe he came back with a pint for himself and nothing for you after you'd got the previous round! Did you pull him up on it?

[kel1234]

I'd of chucked his pint over him. Couldn't be dealing with that.

[AvoidingCallenetics]

You were mad to go on a 3rd date after the bowling episode on date 2.
Meanness is such an unattractive trait. You deserve someone better than this. Don't settle.
This isn't a man you want to live with and depend on through illness/hard times/maternity leave etc.

[pudcat]

Good thing you have found out now

[TurnipCake]

I'd send the 'This isn't working for me ' text with a list of things he can buy with the 55p