Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

[Miamiabeer]

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

[Coralcolouredchrome]

Sounds like an ex of mine. He wouldn't mind buying me a drink, but if I left some of it, he would ask the bar staff to pour it back in the bottle, and when we went back the next night he would tell them, my drink from the previous night was under the counter. I know it takes some believing, but honestly it's the truth. Hence he became an ex quicker than a glass of pop goes flat.

[ferntwist]

Run like the wind! Total arse

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Imagine being married to him. Run for hills and don't look back

[MagneticMan]

Bollocks, meant August 2017

[MagneticMan]

The price of cocktails might have gone up since March 2017 when this thread was originally posted.

[BlankTimes]

ZOMBIE THREAD

[Puffycat]

Or a camels arse in a sandstorm

[Puffycat]

Tighter than a fishes arse

[AskBasil]

60p?

He's quibbling about 60p?



After violence, meanness is probably the least desirable quality in a man.

Run. Throw coins at him as you go, so he'll stop to pick them up and you can get away faster.

[Sparkletastic]

Zombie thread

[KittenBeast]

Unless he was joking, he's a total tight bastard.

[LynneJones]

If hes tight now imagine what it will be like sharing a life with him, drop him !

[permatiredmum]

He probably expected the cocktail to cost a lot more than his pint - I would have done

[ShitOrBust]

oh he is indeed a tightarse. no way would i shag that.
bin.

[ChildlessMum]

Meanness not attractive as people have said....the sheer fact that this is not a first date!!! and you know each other better....and he sounds like he has issues- to quibble over a few pence.

keep him as a 'friend' if ur really bored, lonely...not a 'date.

[Realjournal123]

It's not just about the drink though is it. He has shown you a complete lack of male decency. It fine if you are on a first date and you offer to pay but on second and subsequent dates then I'd respect him more when he offered. You have had an early insight into his character and you will only have a difficult time (on every level) with this one in the future. You sound like a thoroughly decent woman who likes to be independent and I think you may sound like you have had lots of hurt fr men in the past. Sorry if being presumptuous, but ditch h as you deserve better.

[bencrone03]

What!? Tight arse indeed ooh I'd think twice about going out again, who quibbles about your drink being more experience than theirs, run for the hills..run like the wind

[PollyFlint]

To the people saying 'a woman shouldn't expect a man to pay for her' - that isn't what anyone's bloody expecting. They're just expecting to take turns buying rounds LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE DO. She bought him drinks and he literally refused to buy her one in return! Jesus, I wouldn't be friends with someone who behaved like this, let alone have a romantic relationship with one. People who quibble over a difference of 60 fucking pence between their drink and yours are the absolute pits, unless they are genuinely on the breadline which this guy clearly isn't.

This isn't just an issue of being tight. It's an issue of lacking basic manners and social skills. When two blokes go out for a drink, they buy rounds and it would be equally twattish if he wouldn't buy his friend a beer that was more expensive than his too. It's not about 'treating' women; it's about not being a picky, selfish wanker.

[frieda909]

I have to admit I've kept a spreadsheet in the past that sounds very much like spaghetti's ex's

However, in my defence it was because my ex expected me to do the food shopping every single week and every time would say 'just add it to what I owe you', and do the same thing any time I booked train tickets, concert tickets or anything like that. The amount just went up and up. He would occasionally bung 50 quid my way at payday, which didn't even make a dent in it.

This wasn't so bad while I was earning twice his salary but then my circumstances changed and I was earning far less than him, so I did resort to itemising the shopping bill to try to figure out his share. Not that it mattered, though. He'd still just tell me to put it on his 'tab' and by the time we split up he owed me about 2 grand which it took me another 6 months to get out of him.

This same guy was constantly buying himself expensive equipment and going away on holidays for his 'hobby', so it's not even like he was skint.

Sorry, total off-topic rant there but thank fuck that he's my ex and that I now live with a wonderful generous man who has not once made me feel the need for a spreadsheet in our relationship

[LazaUbi]

Spaghetti!

I hope you didn't stick around for long after that spreadsheet appeared! That is crazy!

[blueshoes]

Karma sums it up why you should dump a tightarse. It is a red flag for much worse. OP might end up like poor Spagetti with her ex.

[St01c]

Wow. That is a psychological disorder. Lucky escape Spaghetti.

My DAd is very thrift. His biggest fear is getting fleeced in a shop or by a plumber and he always expresses shock at the price of everything but yet he encourages my Mum to feel free to spend what she needs to you know? My Mum knows what they can afford obviously but his thrifty is to protect them as a unit

[spaghettithrower]

Dump. My ex was tight like that. It ended up with him running a spreadsheet about the food shopping where he itemized who had paid for each shopping trip so that both were paying equal amounts. However, he went a step further than that and separated out things that only one of us ate - so if I bought raspberries, which he hated, the price of them would be put in a separate column and their cost would not be split between the two of us, I would be expected to pay for them.
He spent hours going through receipts and noting who had eaten what so that it would be "fair" at the end of the month when he either demanded money from me for my shortfall or paid me when his things had been more expensive.

Dump that guy. You've only had three dates and if he is that mean already it will only get worse.

[hungryhass]

very unattractive. I also think that men should pay for the first meal. It just makes me look it them in a more mature and manly light. My OH pays for absolutely everything when I am with him. Run a mile and don't look back!