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Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

320 replies

Miamiabeer · 05/08/2017 10:01

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

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Trampoline11 · 05/08/2017 10:47

I loathe mean people and I wouldn't meet him again! It could be though (I don't mean to be hurtful), but might he not want to see you anymore and is hoping this will put you off him? Or am I just mad?!

TempusEejit · 05/08/2017 10:47

Tighter than a knat's chuff. I bet him being "lovely" is cheap words and compliments but no real substance.

londonista · 05/08/2017 10:47

A pint is £5 plus in London. And I'm talking Zone 3 Wetherspoons!

I'm coming out to the sticks and buying all you tight arses a pint. Grin

thepumpk1neater · 05/08/2017 10:48

That's really tight and petty, from a friend or a date! One to avoid I think.

QuiteLikely5 · 05/08/2017 10:48

Dump him his greed is obviously why he can't get a gf

Liiinoo · 05/08/2017 10:49

As dragons said, he has shown you who he is. Walk away now.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/08/2017 10:49

Even if he was so broke he could not afford a drink for you, he should have said, instead of being shockingly rude, no no no.

DixieFlatline · 05/08/2017 10:50

Is this one of those men who is just after a shag and wants to invest as little money as possible as payment for it?

GodIsDead · 05/08/2017 10:50

That would have put me right off. I think that sort of tightness is so unattractive.

londonista · 05/08/2017 10:51

Hold on to your hats price-of-a-pint fans. Just discussing with my husband and he said he and colleagues went to Bodean's in London for lunch yesterday and he paid £8.65 for a pint of San Miguel.

rightwhine · 05/08/2017 10:52

Dump him but do him a favour and tell him exactly why you are dumping him. It might Or might not help his relationships in the future.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 05/08/2017 10:54

Runs for the hills or you'll spend your life exchanging coppers with this tight arse, after three dates he would want to be a fecking Greek god with a cock he has to tuck into his ankle socks to even consider seeing him again

Genghi · 05/08/2017 10:55

Sometimes people only pay for drinks when they have a second date in mind.

thewooster · 05/08/2017 10:56

YANBU what a tightarse.

Flyinggeese · 05/08/2017 10:57

Genhgi but this was at least the second date.

AdoraBell · 05/08/2017 10:59

Nit picking over 60 pence? And he got himself a drink after you bought drinks for both of you?

No, you could never rely on him. Imagine having to explain the cost of sanpro and why you have to buy it, spending his money, every month.

The hills are >> that way. Run.

Longdistance · 05/08/2017 11:01

He quibbled over 60p?

Definitely dump him 🗑

Tobebythesea · 05/08/2017 11:05

Dump him and tell him why.

Beebee7 · 05/08/2017 11:05

@londonista

A pint is £5 plus in London. And I'm talking Zone 3 Wetherspoons!

I'm coming out to the sticks and buying all you tight arses a pint

Even if that were true, that wetherspoons charge over a fiver for a pint of beer in London; from the way you were going on, I thought the beer was a tenner a pint at the places you go to!

£3.65 is a pretty standard price for a pint - almost everywhere. And not just 'in the sticks.' It's that sort of price in towns and cities too. And you certainly don't need to go back to 1998 to get a pint for less than four quid.

The 'fantastically high' prices for booze that you supposedly pay, are not commonplace. Trust me.

ThePinkOcelot · 05/08/2017 11:06

The bowling incident isn't just tight though, it's really rude too and quibbling over 60p?!! Ewww how unattractive!! Dump the tosser.

Cacofonix · 05/08/2017 11:07

I can't believe you made it to a third date after the bowling expedition/drinks debacle. Dump him and tell why.

SonicBoomBoom · 05/08/2017 11:07

Urgh. How unattractive.

gamerchick · 05/08/2017 11:08

london is a different planet really when it comes to the price of stuff. What a rip off!

I dated someone like this once OP, would be happy to take but wouldn't give. He would even get up early in the morning so he could have breakfast without having to feed me.

Please tell him why you're dumping him though, he needs telling.

gamerchick · 05/08/2017 11:11

Is this one of those men who is just after a shag and wants to invest as little money as possible as payment for it?

And they're usually selfish in bed as well.