Aibu to think my date should have bought me a drink? Tight arse?

[Miamiabeer]

Met a guy got on well.
Had two dates previous and split the bill 50/50 and always have done as I think the man shouldn't pay BUT last night we went out to the pub and I was ordering a cocktail and him a pint.
I said "oh il get this round and you can get the next"
He said "your cocktail costs more than my pint"
I didn't even think about the price,I just thought rather than us buying drinks separate.
So I just got the drinks separately.
I would of happily got a cheaper drink or got him a more expensive but at this point I was a bit taken back.
My cocktail was £4.25 and his best £3.65 so not a lot of difference.
Now I'm thinking he is a bit tight?

Maybe he assumed it was one of those £8 cocktails? Still not acceptable behaviour, don't get me wrong, but just sayin'

If you were doing rounds, surely it shouldn't matter. If he quibbles about this, God knows what he'd be like to live with

Meanness is one of my least favourite things. I once dated a guy who offered to pick up a Chinese takeaway and some beers on his way to mine, but actually brought two oriental-type microwave meals and two cans of lager because the takeaway was "too expensive" for "basically the same thing". He was pretty well off, so it seemed even worse. We didn't see one another for long after that.

Tight arse there I'm afraid especially when you're talking pence.... when you say you've split 50/50 before was that straight down the middle? Or did he itemise your bill so you paid for what you each had ?? If it was the former why such a fuss over a few pence ? ..... if you really like him could see what happens next time and if he's the same old tight wad id get rid !!!

Mswanabanana and gamerchick actuallly PMSL right now at your suggestions of linking him into this thread.....😂🤣😂🤣

CANNOT believe what I have read!!! I'm in utter shock. The bowling incident!!! 😱😱😱😱😵

Identity defo think she should do it maybe he just doesn't realise what a tight arsed git he really is. Nothing like 300 odd posts telling him about it though 😂

I would just dump him now. Anyone that mean and penny watching will never be a sharer. Mean with money, mean spirited.

I wouldn't bother with another date if I was you.

A 'drink' is whatever you're putting down your throat, and paying your way in a 'round' is sacrosanct. A building block of the civilised world.

Completely agree! This is about way more than being mean (which is awful in itself). This guy doesn't have basic social skills.

said his back was hurting and his legs and sent me on top

I have honestly never even heard of a guy wimping out like this!! Is he 75?? This is the time when he should be trying to impress you, which, in my experience, is built into a man. I've always been impressed with how they keep going with the physical side of things.

He really does sound incredibly ignorant!

Please don't go back for more. You're in danger of 'building your tower on sand'. It's time to dump him before you get too involved.

If he was into you he wouldn't even think about the difference in price but be pleased you drank what you wanted and it made you happy.

I absolutely can't tolerate tightarses. At all. Having been genuinely skint in the past, I still wouldn't have dreamt of going anywhere without offering a friend/date a drink, I'd have sooner not gone at all.

A really close friend of mine has been living with a tightarse for about 5 years. In the rare event she is allowed out anywhere, I always pay for her meal and drinks because otherwise she wouldn't be allowed to go, then he sits there moaning about the petrol he has used (they live 4 miles from town) and about what he has spent on his own meal. Absolute bellend

Git rid, asap! It really is a sign of worse to come

I am very financially aware (I am good with numbers - its 60p btw). When out with large groups of friends I often prefer to itemise the bill as I have a glass of coke and usually a simple chicken dish and certain "friends" would have several fancy cocktails (one friend had 3 at £19 each!) and the most expensive things on the menu (When out with only one friend, we split 50/50). It irritates me that those same people then make you seem tight when you raise the issue. Those people I refer to a pisstakers. I like to see the other point of view, and can only conclude that perhaps he has been taken for a ride from a pisstaker before and is trying to prevent it happening again, in which case... he needs to GET OVER IT! He is very unreasonable.

One thing I wondered though, OP, when you have split the bill 50/50, do you have any idea who had the higher cost food/drinks? If it was him, and he behaves like this, I would suggest that perhaps it was deliberate and that he is a pisstaker.

Ask him for a LongScrewIFeelHorny over ice.
Than say, forget it, probably you wouldn't be up for it. Then run like hell.

Reminds me of my ex! I would cut him off, this behaviour is disgusting and never changes!

Oh heck - after 2 dates ... if this is his 'best behaviour' which I'm assuming he should be on for goodness sake, don't make it 3

No he wouldn't be for me.
How would this work if you lived together.
I've hoovered the lounge and stairs so you must now go and hoover the 3 bedrooms.
You have eaten meat totalling £5, veg costing £1 and potatoes costing £1. The total cost of cooking g your meal wAs £2 therefore your meal cost £9 mine cost £6 so I am due an extra £3 to be spent on me.

No I'd not have another date with anyone like this.

Rule of thumb:

Tight with money = tight with love = not a keeper ---> dump

If he's prepared to make a fuss at this early stage I'd be seriously worried that he's a lot tighter than this really. What a turn off.

From another point of view - I grew up with a parent like this.
DM was forever collecting the receipts every month to sum everything up, then doing her best to justify purchases to DF, if he deemed them unnecessary. The utilities bills were split in half, for a few years they had a system that two weeks each month the groceries were funded by DM and then the other two by DF.
They both worked full time, never had joint account and developed this insanity to keep themselves amused, I guess.

I also must admit, they mellowed down a lot over the years, probably got tired of the arguments.

Dating a scrooge? Only if you're into self-torture. Leave him to roll up his money shove it tightly up his arse and take it all with him when he goes into the great beyond

Why are so many people saying that you should just dump a man who seems tight with his money.. You just don't dump people for that reason alone. Why would any woman who is modern and equal to any man, want a bloke to pay out for her.

I had a man friend about about 35 years ago,, he was a good friend to both me and my then husband.. He was always being critisised for being well, a bit tight, He did always pay for things,as when he came out for meals with my family, but he just didn't like spending rashly.
His house was quite sparce. his lifestyle the same.. its what he chose to be like and he was always a happy bloke.

But three years ago,, I heard that he had died,,and subsequently I then heard that he had left me and quite a lot of other people quite a lot of money,

I know that this doesn't quite go with the topic discussed,, but being tight with money does not mean a crap rubbish person full stop, there is maybe always a reason why people don't like paying out sometimes.