AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

[PhyllisNights]

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

Again, as with the last thread, your SIL sounds like a twat. I don't get why you admire her so much?

Phyllis be yourself; you will learn what works with people and what doesn't like we all do.

I do have to say that when I worked for a large trade union at their HQ in central London, we all saw HR as pretty much an irrelevance. And while the HR people were nice enough, none of us actually ever gave them any thought. We barely used them and each department did its own hiring and firing. The only time one had to contact HR was for a reference and to hand in notice (but even that was just CC).

Oh Phyllis, I'm so glad I found this (nearly as much as I am glad I don't know you as my DD eats her own sick and I know this will never match up to your snowflake 😂)

When I left half the team on my mat leave couldn't make my lunch and I didn't get a card. One eventually arrived in the post with a voucher for mothercare, but that was only after one of the ladies from our other office asked my manager what he'd done for me and I think she guilt tripped him into it. It's worth noting that my team was full of men and I don't think it had occurred to them to do something.
In contrast one of the ladies in our department, in another office was going off on mat leave as I came back and the office assistants organised her a work baby shower!

Sometimes I think it's down to the manager, and if yours is as useless as mine was then you're out of luck. Also if you do a lot of organising for cards/presents/lunches, as I did, then you'll often find you get forgotten about if you expect people to do it instead.

Phyllis, you sound incredibly entitled. You are about to become a mother. Please stop "getting incredibly upset" over non issues like this. It is not a charming quality.

This is PhyllisNights you know, she's kind of a big deal! 

Must be a friend of Ronnie Pickering.

First world problem