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AIBU?

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AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 20:00

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

OP posts:

RainbowPastel · 04/08/2017 20:09

You got your friends to organise a baby shower? How grabby.

SeaCabbage · 04/08/2017 20:09

I think going out for a meal to mark the occasion and having a card from everyone is fine.

They may well get you a present for when the baby arrives. You do sound rather petulant.

AccrualIntentions · 04/08/2017 20:10

Are work baby showers a thing now? That sounds horrific I'd be miffed at not getting a gift if it's the done thing at your workplace. And at mine you bring your own cakes in if you're leaving / turning 40 / whatever.

MSLehrerin · 04/08/2017 20:10

I'd forgotten about the baby shower thread 😃 Am grabbing some 🍿 and 🍺 and will settle into my comfy chair for this one!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 04/08/2017 20:10

YABU as well as grabby and entitled

PurpleDaisies · 04/08/2017 20:11

None of my work places has ever organised a baby shower for anybody.

W0rriedMum · 04/08/2017 20:11

For one of mine, the manager forgot it was my last day. I didn't mention it to the team as I didn't want to look like I was dropping hints so basically I got nothing!
I did get a mega bunch of flowers when baby was born.
Just move on - it's really not that important.

Ktown · 04/08/2017 20:11

A lunch out sounds lovely.
I just went on mat leave with a small baby present. You aren't birthing the 2nd coming so it is unlikely anyone is going to be too excited.
Try not to think about it- you had a nice send off and baby showers aren't popular in the uk anyway.

bangingmyheadoffabrickwall · 04/08/2017 20:11

Maybe they didn't WANT to do anything that you consider exciting because you are just God-damned up your own arse entitled and fail (yet again) to understand that you are in fact being a bit 'me-me-me'???

YABVVVVVU.

AccrualIntentions · 04/08/2017 20:12

You really demanded a baby shower? Christ on a bike.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 04/08/2017 20:12

Imperial, across the organisation they get someone a gift when they leave, whether permanently or on maternity.

OP have you ever thought as to the reason why they didn't want to do that for you.

i remember your other thread

SkafaceClaw · 04/08/2017 20:13

Yuck! How grabby! The world does not revolve around you.

We always wait until the baby has arrived safely before passing on gifts for maternity leave.

Noneedtocry · 04/08/2017 20:13

I once had to organise a "baby goodbye" for someone at work and got it all wrong - she said she didn't want anything big, then was upset when it wasn't big enough. I felt terrible but was just back from mat leave, being crushed at work at the time and had my own 6 month old PFB at home getting me up several times in the night - so I guess I was sorry not sorry in the end. The truth is people have different expectations and you shouldn't hold it against them, or take it too personally if it wasn't what you'd have chosen yourself.

Alicia555 · 04/08/2017 20:13

This has got to be a wind up! Nobody is this cringe surely!! Work baby shower??!! Are you bored op!?

MumIsRunningAMarathon · 04/08/2017 20:13

this is a wind up

PurpleDaisies · 04/08/2017 20:14

Nobody is this cringe surely!!

Just have a look st some of the op's other threads...

MumIsRunningAMarathon · 04/08/2017 20:14

a really bad and obvious wind up

how dull

M00nUnit · 04/08/2017 20:18

I really hope this thread is a wind-up. If not, I'm amazed anyone can be so self-important and grabby. You expect people to organise baby showers and presents for you because you're lucky enough to be expecting a baby and you're COMPLAINING because your colleagues had the audacity to give you a card and go for lunch with you? Unbelievable.

VeryCunningStunt · 04/08/2017 20:18

My line manager didn't even put it on the expenses

strawberrysodasmiles · 04/08/2017 20:18

Well that escalated....

User2938mcd · 04/08/2017 20:18

OP maybe they don't like you?

talonofthehawk · 04/08/2017 20:19

Maybe they don't actually like you very much.. for...some...reason. 🤐

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2017 20:19

My guess is that they really don't care for you that much.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 04/08/2017 20:19

this is a wind up

Unfortunately it appears not if other threads are anything to go by.

Alicia555 · 04/08/2017 20:23

They probably had a party after you'd gone.

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