AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

[PhyllisNights]

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

Yes I would like to read the other thread as I'm not on desktop and can't search properly on app!

Being the oh very important one, op now plots demise of Janice and Sharon..... will they redeem themselves in time not to be given a big sack (from Santa) or shown the door (on offer at B&Q)? Find out later folks after the much anticipated big push.

You are incredibly materialistic aren't you OP? The kind of person who knows the cost of everything and the value of nothing, it's little wonder that your friends and work colleagues are not spontaneously throwing parties or showering you with gifts.

Your constant need to compare yourself to your SIL and your unbridled hero worship of her and her life is very troubling.

I dread to think what the consequences will be if your child fails to live up to your expectations or the standard set by SIL's children.

@PhyllisNights - was the wedding in Maui???? 😬

@Kirstsworld you're welcome! Might I also suggest the follow up thread, Celtic kitchen.....

@StarsAndStripes18 those were the days...

Maybe they had the best of intentions in terms of throwing a huge fancy shower but, they had to get on with, y'know, work and the stuff they are all getting paid to do.

Going out for a meal sounds good to me tbh. I mean, babies really are only interesting to their parents - and so many people are popping in and out on maternity leave, it won't be as important to anyone (understandably enough) as it is to you.

@KeepServingTheDrinks

• Baby Shower - it was good. It was held in a community pub that allowed kids and dogs. I got spoilt with gifts, the majority of which were for the baby, but I got a few things for myself too! Organised by two of the girls. My sister-in-law didn't attend - she had prior arrangements.
• Friend's Holiday - they're going to Abu Dhabi soon where someone from the group now lives with her husband.
• Dieter - well, she wasn't doing very well, but the doctor has forced her to go on a strict diet. She seems to have done well the last few weeks.
• Fajita Fridays - sporadically. We do other social gatherings too. We hired someone recently to come round and cook a roast for all of us one Sunday.

@fenella thanks, I've just reached the part where we find out which baby names she is considering... feel this is a good time to refill my wine... 🍷

@Kirstsworld - just bear in mind this whole thing will leave you with a serious hankering for Mexican food....

@fenella saw your warning farrrr too late.. starving have had to settle for quavers and some dried mango ☹️... must admit, I didn't know what I was hoping for name wise... maybe a Constantine or perhaps Aphrodite?? buuuutttt Xavier - pronounced Zavveuh, surpassed all my expectations x

@KirstsWorld I was praying for Horatio and Araminta.....

Not sure what that pronunciation is but Xavier is an awesome name

PhyllisNights you want to go Italian in pronunciation and go Za-VI-are . I genuinely love it

Sure Joaquim is the only suitable name for @PhyllisNights' revered son?

Or if a girl, perhaps Wilhelmina?

Can we all go to Mallory Towers and play lacrosse now?

When one is truly posh, one calls it lax, daahling, not lacrosse....

I think you're all being very mean. Phyllis is the first person in the world ever to get pregnant and everyone should be acting accordingly.

An Italian lunch sounds spot on to me. My work colleagues waited until the baby was born to buy presents, some people are superstitious.

Fajita Fridays!!! I'd forgotten about those! Good times!!

@FenellaMaxwellsPony of course!! 🤣

I lived in Surrey when my eldest was born. On my last day we went to the Slug and Lettuce for an orange juice after work, my boss didn't come because he had a headache, and one colleague gave me a packet of little vests she'd bought. I've been cheated of my traditional Surrey maternity fuss! Wah!

Thank you so much for the update. Were you gutted S-i-L wasn't there, or was that ok?

Enjoy this maternity time, and please keep us updated. We are all agog!

Well, SIL doesn't like many of my friends. She finds some of them immature. I think she finds it hard to relate because not all of them are married and none of them have kids yet.

PhyllisNights is this the SiL you aspire to be? The one who does crap... sorry I mean 'choice' parenting? She sounds very pleasant, will you also find your friends immature once you pop the sprog? You'll have finally achieved true greatness after all, only those who have married and managed to breed are worth socialising with, after all.