AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

[PhyllisNights]

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

Will they get you something when the baby's born? It does sound odd that you've left and they haven't given you a present. What normally happens in your workplace?

Err. Yabu

A work baby shower? Dear God.

You aren't leaving are you? Get a grip and stop being so precious.

Is it your first baby?

You're not leaving it though, are you?

If other people going on maternity get gifts, it is very mean for you to not get anything.

Ah the old entitled bingo was a short lived game tonight.
Phyllis do they usually do something different for other colleagues?

I think you are unreasonable, they took you out for lunch and it's more usual to give gifts once baby has arrived.

It isn't their fault that you were expecting a second baby shower.

I expect they'll send you something when your baby arrives.
That said, I think parenthood is a continuous lesson in readjusting (downwards) your expectations.

Oh Phyllis, it's you

So your friends did actually throw you a baby shower then?

I'd expect a card but as others said maybe a gift once the baby is born. Lunch out is lovely.

Do you think they might get you something when baby comes along? Bit of a poor show if not!

You got lunch and a card though?

It's a bit unreasonable to expect your collegues to throw you a baby shower. Other colleagues have gotten more when they left, you'll be back after your maternity leave.

Penggwn, I had to pay for my share of the meal, though. My line manager didn't even put it on the expenses.

Imperial, across the organisation they get someone a gift when they leave, whether permanently or on maternity.

Phyllis, I remember your thread about how you were going to tell your friends to organise a baby shower for you, and the overwhelming response from MN was that you should not do this as it's grabby and entitled. And cringe.

Nice to see you've listened and toned down that entitled attitude. If this is what you're like to work with, maybe your colleagues are dropping you a hint!

Try not to worry - friends are different to work colleagues and your friends have thrown you a baby shower

Is this some kind of stealth brag? I'd have loved if my collegues took me out for a meal.

I think YABU to expect a free meal though!

Crunchymum, yes! Eventually, I got a baby shower! And after the trouble I went to, I will not be organising one for whoever gets pregnant next in the group.

Is this a piss take? Or a reverse?

Ooh I remember your previous highly amusing thread and i would suggest you do have high expectations from your friends in general! But I think your colleagues are probably saving the cards and gifts til your baby is born? Leaving colleagues are made a fuss of, but you are presumably planning on coming back after maternity leave? Once the baby is here you can visit the office for cooing and baby appreciation too :)

You sound really entitled. Nothing wrong with a nice lunch out.