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AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

408 replies

PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 20:00

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

OP posts:
beargrass · 04/08/2017 20:24

whaddaya know...don't go on MN for ages and tune in to this gem.

popcornpopcornpopcorn

talonofthehawk · 04/08/2017 20:24

This is the woman who made a thread just to tell us that 'she can tell, just tell!!! her dc will do great things!'
Delusional and I wonder if she suffers from some type of mania...

keyboardjellyfish · 04/08/2017 20:25
Shock
MumIsRunningAMarathon · 04/08/2017 20:25

nah.....other threads are also likely to be the result of boredom too

ilovesooty · 04/08/2017 20:25

If they ever decide to have baby showers in work time I shall find another pressing engagement to go to.

I bet they're hoping you don't come back after maternity leave.

hiphopcat · 04/08/2017 20:25

YABU. Most people would have been grateful!

Original poster
PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 20:26

I do think my colleagues like me. I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important. I've given blood, sweat & tears. I've had to be away from home in the week at times which would really muck around with my sleep and routine.

I hope they don't expect me to come in with the baby. I'd have to get a train and then the tube - wouldn't be fair on a baby!

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talonofthehawk · 04/08/2017 20:27

VIP everyone! Grin

PurpleDaisies · 04/08/2017 20:28

I hope they don't expect me to come in with the baby

I'm sure they'll be gutted. Hmm

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 04/08/2017 20:28

I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important. I've given blood, sweat & tears. I've had to be away from home in the week at times which would really muck around with my sleep and routine

Jeez pass the woman a medal.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/08/2017 20:28

So they all had to pay for their own meal. And you don't consider that enough of a send off. You expected them to pay for your meal or for your boss to put it on expenses (which I imagine wouldn't be allowed). You forced your friend to organise a baby shower but won't be doing it for anyone else.

Let me know when there's just you and me left on the planet and then maybe, just maybe I'll be your friend. Or perhaps not, eh! Confused

NotACleverName · 04/08/2017 20:29

Oh, it's Phyllis. That explains everything.

Work baby shower? 😂

Nectarines · 04/08/2017 20:29

You'd hate my work!

Whenever any of us have gone on maternity leave, we have brought cake in for our colleagues!!

SnowiestMountain · 04/08/2017 20:29

Oh hi Phyllis I get it now Grin

PurpleDaisies · 04/08/2017 20:31

If you're in HR, you surely should be able to think of some reason why a work baby shower might not be a goer?

Mumof56 · 04/08/2017 20:31

You've given blood sweat and tears in exchange for money. They don't owe you any more than that.

Most work places I've been in never expect the new baby to vist. We just smile and say "lovely baby" when they do and go about our day.

ilovesooty · 04/08/2017 20:31

Just keeps on giving... Grin

Tequilamockinbird · 04/08/2017 20:31

I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important. I've given blood, sweat & tears. I've had to be away from home in the week at times which would really muck around with my sleep and routine

Hmm

Poor little love.

HereBeFuckery · 04/08/2017 20:31

Ha! I got fuck all when I went on mat leave. Sorry, that's not true, I got a hug from the temp and a cheery 'bye, see you' from everyone else.
nor did my friends organise a baby shower, despite it being the norm, violins at dawn for me

RainbowPastel · 04/08/2017 20:31

You are hilarious with your self importance. Bet they will be gutted if you don't visit them. You probably provide their entertainment Grin

jb1305uk · 04/08/2017 20:32

One of my colleagues made pink and blue cupcakes for my department to share before I started maternity leave. I was really touched by that. No meal out or special lunch, no gifts- and you know what, I was happy. They kindly gave a gift when the baby was born.

I think you are being very unreasonable, going out for lunch was nice of them and why shouldn't you have to pay.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/08/2017 20:33

I hope they don't expect me to come in with the baby. I'd have to get a train and then the tube - wouldn't be fair on the baby!

I tots agree hun. Ur the one havin the baby. Organise a party for the baby when he or she is born and tell them they need to give u £50 entry. 🙄

Babymamamama · 04/08/2017 20:34

If you are lucky they will give you a gift, card or whatever when the baby is born. Why do you expect so much? They are your colleagues not your relatives.

SnowiestMountain · 04/08/2017 20:35

This is PhyllisNights you know, she's kind of a big deal! Wink

I think it was fine and you're over thinking it, its work, that's how it goes sometimes

LucieLucie · 04/08/2017 20:36

Biscuit yabu!

Be bloody grateful you have a job for one and secondly, are fertile and having a baby!

Get a bloody grip!!