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AIBU to be upset with work colleagues?

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PhyllisNights · 04/08/2017 20:00

It was my last day in the office today. I'm now officially on maternity leave.

I'm very disappointed with what my colleagues arranged for my send off, though. They promised we would do something exciting. I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange), but we ended up just going to an Italian at lunch time.

I'm very upset. I won't be back at work for a year. I've been there for years and I expected something more. I didn't even get any gifts or a slice of a cake. All I got was one card shared from the office!

When work colleagues leave they get a massive send off with work lunches, gifts, cards & a night out. I'm not expecting a night out drinking given my condition, but I wanted something more.

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EggysMom · 04/08/2017 21:02

I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important.

If you're anything like the HRBPs in my business, then you got as little as you deserved. My day would be much, much brighter without HRBPs who don't know what they are doing , who cannot read the simplest of emails, and who are up their own arses. You're not important. People don't like you. Spend the next year getting over it.

Betsy86 · 04/08/2017 21:03

Just casually marking my place......Wine

ButchyRestingFace · 04/08/2017 21:04

I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important

GrinGrinGrin

Never change.

SpartacusSaiman · 04/08/2017 21:04

Our hrbp is a dick too. Wonder if its a pre-requiste of the job.

She also thinks she is a vip. She isnt. She isnt even very good at her job. She tried to palm out of date mat leave info on me. And tried telling me that my contract didnt say waht it did in black on white 😂😂

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 04/08/2017 21:05

I'm guessing OP isn't actually a partner in the business, i work in public sector and "business partner" for some reason is the Wanky Title Du Jour. Business Partners in my organisation are ten a penny and a bunch of self important tossers

BritInUS1 · 04/08/2017 21:07

Lol this made me laugh

Yes YABVU - entitled much !

If you could get a better job why don't you?

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 04/08/2017 21:09

You have a very odd way of completely ignoring a) that everyone is saying YABU, b) bringing up you previous threads and c) saying it's all a wind up. You can't be for real or you would be at least slightly indignant surely?

If you aren't for real, bore off, seriously.

If you are, I have never known anyone with such a lack of awareness, and I have aspergers so am pretty unaware at the best of times. You truely sound like an unpleasant person and if we can get that from a few words on a screen, then you must be significantly worse to deal with in RL.

RainbowsAndUnicorn · 04/08/2017 21:09

Think the reason for no gifts is very clear..... I bet it's been a looooong nine months for them Grin

Surely as such an important person you can just buy your own stuff without fleecing everyone else.

Any friend that told me to arrange a baby shower would soon be an ex friend. Tacky and grasping comes to mind re baby showers.

WhatEaglesWear · 04/08/2017 21:09

Glad of this as there's not much on the telly tonight!

TittyGolightly · 04/08/2017 21:09

I was expecting a work baby shower (which would have been nice in addition to the one I got my friends to arrange),

Fucking hell. Hundreds of thousands of years of evolution has surely led to more than this unbelievable entitledness.

MsWanaBanana · 04/08/2017 21:12

Wind up and not a very good one at that!

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starkwolf · 04/08/2017 21:12

Are you one of those people who has nothing better to do than post antagonising threads on mumsnet????

Me thinks you know exactly what you are doing...

notanurse2017 · 04/08/2017 21:13

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GinIsIn · 04/08/2017 21:14

Oh good, Phyllis is back..... Grin

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2017SoFarSoGood · 04/08/2017 21:15

Sorry they hurt your feelings, Phyllis Not even paying for your lunch is just plain mean.

I threw a Grandma shower at work last week, for one of my colleagues who is about to become a first time grandma. It was just lovely, and well attended as she is so well liked. She was so surprised, and delighted. And so very humble. She had no expectations of any kind of fuss, so it was all the more lovely to do it for her.

Makes you think, huh?

ButchyRestingFace · 04/08/2017 21:15

Are you one of those people who has nothing better to do than post antagonising threads on mumsnet????

She never actually responds to or engages with anything posters say to her.

Her posts are simply a series of soliloquies.

She'd make a good Hamlet.

ShellyBoobs · 04/08/2017 21:15

To be perfectly honest, they need me more than I need them. I could easily get a better job. Might lead them up the garden path for a year and then not return.

Yeh, they'll be positively shitting themselves. Hmm

This is the sort of thing that does other women no favours whatsoever.

buckeejit · 04/08/2017 21:18

Ah, God love the child. Yabu

TittyGolightly · 04/08/2017 21:18

I'm a HR Business Partner so I'm pretty important.

From one HRBP to another as if!, get your head out of your entitled arse. .

starkwolf · 04/08/2017 21:19

Butchyrestingface....

Hamlet - about as tragic a tale as this post....

RainbowsAndUnicorn · 04/08/2017 21:20

Ahhh your the poster who believes they are privileged to be pregnant and carrying the next Einstein and sharing every aspect via what's app Grin Not like the rest of pregnant woman who merely had unprotected sex.

elpinguino · 04/08/2017 21:21

I got absolutely nothing when I finished work 2 weeks ago. I took cakes in for the team, which was the only way anyone even remembered I was finishing that day I think. In fact I ended up leaving 5 hours late just walking out of the building without anyone actually noticing, all a bit of an anticlimax but I'll be back in 14 months and it'll all be exactly the same as when I left. While it would be nice to have more of a "team spirit", it's just how it is, it's a job. I'd have been bloody thrilled if anyone had organised a meal out to honour my mat leave. Maybe try appreciating what your colleagues did do rather than worrying about what you think they should have done?

MrsSpenserGregson · 04/08/2017 21:21

OP, did you get married in Maui?