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Offensive Note On Car Today Whilst Shopping

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Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 19:45

...to feel saddened.

After shopping with my husband and three year old I discovered I had been left the following note under my wipers: "You stupid bitch. Where's your child? You have parked in a mother and baby space. Did you leave them at home?"

My three year old sat in the trolley today as we shopped. He arrivived in his car seat.

People disappoint me all the time at the moment. I did get the Manager to check the CCTV but they didnt see the note being placed.

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JuicyJ · 01/08/2017 23:19

Big hug sounds like they had lost the plot, and you didn't need their crap. Ignore and feel pity that some people are so sad they have nothing better to do than pick on others.

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lazycrazyhazy · 01/08/2017 23:42

I hate things like this and would have felt shaken like you. I always said to my DC growing up to remember you don't know what someone is going through. A note like that has upset you but could push someone over the edge.

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lu697 · 01/08/2017 23:58

@misssmilla1.
The notice in sainsburys states age 12, so technically, you have many years left. But I don't tend to use them if I'm just with my 10yo.

Could be the someone next to you had the note left on their car, and the offending parker has just passed it on... spreading the love. Lol.

You know you've done nothing wrong, you can sleep easy, unlike the other meanies out there.xxx

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Tapandgo · 02/08/2017 02:49

Long time since my kids needed car seats, but when they did the whole seat was removable with a handle to carry around. So, my car was never left with the baby seat in the car.
If I'd got an insulting note I'd have been furious too - because I'd have wanted to tell them to get their facts right, to keep their mitts off my car and to leave car park policing to the right authorities.

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Dianag111 · 02/08/2017 08:32

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Mulledwine1 · 02/08/2017 08:41

I wonder why people even care. They can't use a blue badge space themselves so why do they care who does? If you are waiting for a BB space and you can't get one and you see someone who looks hale and hearty getting out of the car you might think "huh?" but if someone has a blue badge that's the end of the story isn't it? It's not like they give them away, they are really hard to get.

I have a relative with a blue badge who has good days and bad days and is quite mobile on her good days but could not carry shopping very far on any day. I wonder if she's ever had any abuse from people on a good day - I'll have to ask her. She's had tickets a few times, the parking wardens hate BBs so do their darndest to give people a ticket, I know she won on appeal at least once.

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nachogazpacho · 02/08/2017 09:00

It's sad that when you're most vulnerable you are most likely to come up against one of these anti social people. When you have babies you get it re. Parking, feeding, getting in the way. And if you're disabled you're more likely to get it too as described.

On the flip side it also brings out those lovely individuals who go out of their way to help. The ones who hold doors open or say nice things to you or your dc. When you need extra help or you're vulnerable in some way it brings out the worst and best in people. It's a great arsehole filter.

Like you said, this person must have seen you with your dc.they must have decided you don't need the space unless you have a baby. But overall they wanted to be nasty to you because they enjoy it.

The way I see it is one day they'll think someone is vulnerable, be nasty to them and then get the most royal verbal back because they've picked on someone similar to themselves. And in the meantime their lives are full of angst and toxic shite. These individuals are not happy. The little joy they get from abuse is actually small compared to the bitterness they hold against other people. They are stress heads.

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Offendedofsurrey · 02/08/2017 09:54

I had a similar note left on my car in a hospital car park. Went in without a child, came out with one. I just screwed it up as nothing could spoil the joy of being able to bring the little one home.
(Was still mildly pissed off though)