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AIBU?

Offensive Note On Car Today Whilst Shopping

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Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 19:45

...to feel saddened.

After shopping with my husband and three year old I discovered I had been left the following note under my wipers: "You stupid bitch. Where's your child? You have parked in a mother and baby space. Did you leave them at home?"

My three year old sat in the trolley today as we shopped. He arrivived in his car seat.

People disappoint me all the time at the moment. I did get the Manager to check the CCTV but they didnt see the note being placed.

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yumyumpoppycat · 01/08/2017 00:13

you're not pushing a trolley of food to your car at Peppa pig world, possibly with older but still young children walking beside you.

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StrangeLookingParasite · 01/08/2017 00:16

Christ alive, you must be the happiest luckiest person on the planet if that note caused you such anguish.

How nice for you to be so emotionally robust. Not all of us are, depending on the day.

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Beeziekn33ze · 01/08/2017 00:19

Sashkin. That told her, Mrs Overreact!

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lottieandmia · 01/08/2017 01:23

Yeah, absolutely right - nobody seems to have any problem going to Legoland. Or indeed Cadbury World where I took my dds today even though there were no parent spaces. I think shops have a great deal to answer for in introducing them and causing more problems for people to fight about.

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TestTubeTeen · 01/08/2017 02:50

YABU to use a parent & child space when you were 1 of 2 adults

What??? Why?????

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KoalaDownUnder · 01/08/2017 03:01

Maybe they took the hump as they assumed the spaces are for people with babies and not toddlers?

Oh, who cares? Is anyone actually this petty?

One of the supermarkets near me has a million 'parent & baby' spaces, plus the same again of 'seniors' spaces. Mostly empty.

I await the day when I've done more than one lap of the car park looking for a non-designated bay, because I'll be parking in one of those. And any sanctimonious twat who wants to pull me up on it will not get far.

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TheMaddHugger · 01/08/2017 03:54

@KoalaDownUnder

Maybe I should move to WA. everywhere I Shop here, Northern suburbs Adelaide ALL PaC and Disabled spots are Full all the time. I need the Disabled. So it frustrates me.

I live further north, so can't cant the times Im there easily. [can't go home and come back later ]

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KoalaDownUnder · 01/08/2017 03:58

Hugger, not even kidding - this place has about the first two banks of car parks designated as PaC and seniors. While everyone else does bog-laps looking for somewhere to park! They've really gone overboard.

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TheMaddHugger · 01/08/2017 04:07

Wowza. I'm jealous. Gotta move to where you are.

I often end up parking in the boonies, then come back to my car being blocked in and have to get my Adult DD to come get the car out again for me. DD lives up that way so thankfully not far for her.

But it still pisses me off

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TheMaddHugger · 01/08/2017 04:08

@KoalaDownUnder blocked in as I can't get into driver's seat, but she can climb in from the back of the wagon

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/08/2017 07:56

you're not pushing a trolley of food to your car at Peppa pig world

Right. Read this thread again. No body has mentioned the trolley. They've all mentioned how its so difficult to get kid/car seat /twins/triplets out the car.

So I'll ask again. How do you manage in other places getting kid/car seats/twins/triplets out a car in a supermarket.

Also. There's such a thing called online shopping now.

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/08/2017 07:57

How do you manage in other places getting kid/car seats/twins/triplets out a car in a supermarket.

Meant to say, when you can't manage it out of a supermarket.

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Spikeyball · 01/08/2017 08:06

The person was out of line even if you didn't have a baby/child with you. They had no idea of your needs and they are not the p and c parking space police. However that sort of person is best ignored.

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KoalaDownUnder · 01/08/2017 08:10

they are not the p and c parking space police.

This is key, to me. If you have an issue with a complete stranger's parking, report it to shopping centre management (who won't care, because they're not going to 'tell off' a paying customer). Don't go throwing your weight around like a prat.

It's not up to

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99point9FahrenheitDegrees · 01/08/2017 08:22

Some of the supermarkets around here have crammed in the most parking spaces they can, so once everyone has turned up in their 4x4s it's like Tetris to get your car in. Kids in car seats, kids who fling doors wide, kids who like to run freeeeeee - not really catered for by teeny parking spaces. I suspect Peppa Pig World has bigger spaces generally!

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/08/2017 11:01

If only someone could could up with some sort of invention in this digital age where you can, I dont know, get your shopping delivered to your door.

It'd revolutionise shopping and then people like the OP wouldn't be left notes by batshit self appointed P&C Police.

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thepatchworkcat · 01/08/2017 11:17

Always seems to be a lot of confusion about parent and child spaces on here. I don't think it's anything to do with being close to the supermarket, although it's always nice to not have to guide a toddler through the entire car park. The spaces are so that you have more room at the sides to get a baby/car seat/pram/child in and out and to put their seat belts on which can be hard if you're parked close to another vehicle. So I don't think it's reasonable to use them with teenagers/older children but I think it's still reasonable for me to do so with my three year old who still needs manhandling in and out of his seat.

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Pengggwn · 01/08/2017 11:17

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/08/2017 11:25

The spaces are so that you have more room at the sides to get a baby/car seat/pram/child in and out and to put their seat belts on which can be hard if you're parked close to another vehicle

See? Yet another poster that doesn't mention the trolley but does mention how incredibly difficult it is to get in and out. That's legoland scrapped off the days out book then. We simply cant manage it...

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gingergenius · 01/08/2017 11:26

I still use m&c spaces and my children are waaayyyyyy older than 3. I do so because in spite of being old enough to get out of the car themselves, they still struggle to open doors without clouting the neighbouring car, in a normal sized space, so to avoid unnecessary damage, I figure a m&c space to be the sensible option.

OP I'd have been upset too. What a nasty thing to do.

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yumyumpoppycat · 01/08/2017 11:33

One of the purposes of supermarket spaces is that they are close to the supermarket, however with the getting the car seats in and out dilemma the difference with peppa pig land is that you go there maybe once a year if so a struggle with parking isn't the same as a weekly struggle. You are also more likely to have an extra adult with you (obviously not always the case) who could help with manoeuvring in and out. Some new parents might feel like going to the supermarket is difficult enough even with p&c spaces and have absolutely no desire to venture out to somewhere more challenging.

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CauliflowerSqueeze · 01/08/2017 11:38

Don't let this arse wipe use up any more of your day.
You say you want to find out who it is so that you can talk to them? In your mind you're thinking he/she will say "oh gosh I'm terribly sorry, my mistake, you had every right to park there. Can I also apologise for being so unnecessarily offensive?"
Do you really think the kind of twat that would leave that kind of message would be the kind of person who would be remotely interested in discussing or apologising?

Leave the bad taste of being so nasty in their mouth.

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Mulledwine1 · 01/08/2017 11:44

Bloody P+C parking spaces, more hassle than they're worth...

True

Parent and Child spaces weren't invented when I had my first baby. It's a wonder we coped..

Also true

They didn’t have internet when I was a kid, or washing machines when my mother was a child. We coped but we’d have bloody well used them if they existed. Crap argument

Actually they did have them when my ds was small but there was always a queue for them so I didn't bother. Couldn't believe that people would queue for them, rather than park further away where there was plenty of room.

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Mulledwine1 · 01/08/2017 11:45

If only someone could could up with some sort of invention in this digital age where you can, I dont know, get your shopping delivered to your door

Only just seen this :) Online shopping is definitely your friend!

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Zaphodsotherhead · 01/08/2017 11:45

YANBU to have been upset by the note.

Years and years ago (before children) I left my large and barky dog in the back of my car (window cracked for air but only a little) when I went to pick up a parcel from the Post Office. It was winter, so not hot, so I only needed to have the window down the tiniest fraction for fresh air, no way she could stick her nose out of it.

And I came back to the most threatening note ever, telling me what the writer would do to my dog if he ever saw it again, the various ways he would kill it. I assume he parked next to me and she barked at him through the (barely open) window. It was so offensive and scary that I still think of it, even though the dog herself has been gone for thirty years.

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