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Offensive Note On Car Today Whilst Shopping

162 replies

Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 19:45

...to feel saddened.

After shopping with my husband and three year old I discovered I had been left the following note under my wipers: "You stupid bitch. Where's your child? You have parked in a mother and baby space. Did you leave them at home?"

My three year old sat in the trolley today as we shopped. He arrivived in his car seat.

People disappoint me all the time at the moment. I did get the Manager to check the CCTV but they didnt see the note being placed.

OP posts:
CockacidalManiac · 31/07/2017 22:31

At least you're not that person who wrote that note, OP. What a small, bitter, world they must live in.

SpiritedLondon · 31/07/2017 22:41

Shelagh Oh here we go, the Four Yorkshiremen have arrived...

Thanks for the funniest comment on the thread so far... LOLing on my own here. 😂. I certainly think that some people feel a bit entitled about those spaces.... I've seen parents with teenagers getting out of those spaces. You've got to wonder where there heads are at. I would personally hate getting a note like that because I absolutely can't stand to be accused of something I haven't done. Even if it's something really trivial or unimportant I hate it.... it would chew me up. I feel your pain.

WhatEaglesWear · 31/07/2017 22:42

Around here they are parent and pram spaces!

Not particularly close to the shops but just more parking room for manhandling prams and possibly a baby/toddler at both doors.

No parent space available? park elsewhere!

The note was weird

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 22:51

drycleanonly7 ignore the posters telling you you should just let it lie that some self appointed parking police twat did that.

If they saw your car arriving and then leaving they definitely would have caught who ever did it. You should be able to put a request in for the footage under the DPA if you want to double check what they've said. But there's form filling and legal bits to do so you have to do it asap as they only hold the footage for so long.

BishopBrennansArse · 31/07/2017 22:53

Mentally give the note writer the finger.
I get abuse all the time for having lairy hair, being under 40 and having a blue badge.
Not so much now I hoist the chair out after parking, admittedly....

Arseholes, arseholes everywhere.

LizzieMacQueen · 31/07/2017 22:57

YANBU to be saddened (bitch is quite a strong term after all) but .... YABU to use a parent & child space when you were 1 of 2 adults.

bimbobaggins · 31/07/2017 22:57

Unfortunately in life you can't change other people's arseholesqe behaviour, only how you respond to it and the only way to respond to this is by not giving one fuck about it.
Don't spend another minute dwelling on it. I probably used to be quite like it, spending hours thinking over scenarios, how I would do things differently etc but after a recent bereavement I have developed an awesome level of not giving a fuck and I'd highly recommend it

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 22:58

Don't worry OP. Karma is a bitch and all that. One day Cuntybollocks note writer will do it in a similar area to mine. You'd get more than a polite telling off for touching the car here that's for sure.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 23:01

LizzieMacQueen did you read the thread? The bit where the OP said they had their 3yo with them? Hmm

Kahlua4me · 31/07/2017 23:09

I think I would feel the same as you op, although would have just left the carpark without checking cctv. It would have upset me as well as making me cross!

But just to make you smile, my friend got back to her car once to find a page of a child's colouring book under her wiper and on it somebody had written "this may help you to keep between the lines"!! Grin

abilockhart · 31/07/2017 23:19

AwaywiththePixies27, I think you need to re-read LizzieMacQueen's post.

LizzieMacQueen · 31/07/2017 23:21

AwaywiththePixies27

Yes, I realise they had a child, just meant that as there were 2 adults I don't see the need for them to use the P&C spaces - they (to me) are for lone parents who need the extra help.

Thissameearth · 31/07/2017 23:27

bewareofdragons if there was 1 woman with 2 kids and we were 2 adults with 1 baby I'd probably have still felt bad for taking the space...except she'd shouted at me in this scenario soo....

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 23:28

Ah right. Sorry lizzie.

I missed that point by miles.

user1471548375 · 31/07/2017 23:30

LizzieMacQueen WTF are you on about?

They're to make it safer getting a kid out of a car as you have extra room. It takes the same amount of space whether you have 1 adult or 15 there.

BouncyHedgehog · 31/07/2017 23:34

Since when have parent and child spaces been for lone parents? Never heard that one. Thought they were for kids in buggies or who need to be lifted out so need the extra room to get them out rather than being crammed up against another car? And closer to the shop to minimise the risks of escapee todders being run over in the car park? (both of which would apply equally to two parents/carers)

bimbobaggins · 31/07/2017 23:37

They haven't bouncy . I've never heard of that either.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 23:39

They're to make it safer getting a kid out of a car as you have extra room. It takes the same amount of space whether you have 1 adult or 15 there.

How do you manage at peppapig world?...

user1471548375 · 31/07/2017 23:45

How do you manage at peppapig world?...

You cope without, but if it's there you may as well bloody use it, why would you purposely choose to park in a more difficult space on the basis that a lone parent may turn up.

What if a lone parent turns up, then a lone parent with twins turns up? They're first come first served and if you have a child with you then use the damn space.

coddiwomple · 31/07/2017 23:58

Since when have parent and child spaces been for lone parents? Never heard that one.

blimey, me neither.

I suppose I can guess the point: if you have 2 adults, one can drive the car from the tight parking space, whilst the other stays with the baby, then you have enough space to put the car seat inside.
When you are on your own, if the next car is parked too closed to your door, you struggle, you can't squeeze a child or a car seat, and you can't leave the baby outside the car whilst you get out of the parking space.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 23:58

But how do you get the kid out of a normal car park space in peppa pig world/legoworld/softplay centre/other area of choice when it's always described as being infinitely impossible in mumsnet world. For reference, see above.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/08/2017 00:00

Sorry legoland not legoworld.

So basically. If you can cope without it in those places. You can cope without it in a supermarket? Right?

Thank goodness I do online shopping now.

Sashkin · 01/08/2017 00:02

I had this in Sainsbury's a couple of months ago. Some woman banged on my window as I pulled into a space, and shouted "Where's your child?" at me.

I pointed at my baby asleep in his car seat in the back. She paused for about a second, then shouted "Good, because these are parent and child spaces!"

I stared at her like she was insane for a moment or two (I have a good "you are completely deranged" expression for exactly this sort of situation, I use it a lot at work), and then she broke eye contact and scuttled off. Obviously hadn't expected me to have a baby, and then couldn't bear to admit she was wrong or apologise.

MsLexicon · 01/08/2017 00:08

Hmmm how fucking rude. Is what I would say as I tore the note from my windshield and stomped on it.
End of.

coddiwomple · 01/08/2017 00:09

how do you get the kid out of a normal car park space

Sometimes with great difficulty when the muppet parked next to you decided they needed space on the opposite side of their own car, and squeeze far too close to yours! Grin

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