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Offensive Note On Car Today Whilst Shopping

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Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 19:45

...to feel saddened.

After shopping with my husband and three year old I discovered I had been left the following note under my wipers: "You stupid bitch. Where's your child? You have parked in a mother and baby space. Did you leave them at home?"

My three year old sat in the trolley today as we shopped. He arrivived in his car seat.

People disappoint me all the time at the moment. I did get the Manager to check the CCTV but they didnt see the note being placed.

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Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 20:35

Edmund - you are right. I shouldn't be over thinking it. I do ruminate excessively but I also am keen to see justice done (however small).

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BusterGonad · 31/07/2017 20:36

Don't worry about it Dry, some people are just born Dick Heads!

EdmundCleverClogs · 31/07/2017 20:43

Drycleanonly7, I can understand why you're cross, very rightly so. No one should come back to unjustified rude notes, but I can guarantee even if you found this person and waved your toddler in their face they wouldn't give a shit or apologise. People who leave notes like that do it for reasons beyond normal comprehension. Letting it eat at you is letting them win. Laugh off their pathetic behaviour and feel sorry for them (and wonder when their next eye appointment is for the sake of others).

Bloody P+C parking spaces, more hassle than they're worth....

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/07/2017 20:49

It is bizarre. Has this person appointed themselves some sort of vigilante traffic warden who instead of issuing tickets, writes malicious notes with rude words? Confused
I wonder if they habitually leave these notes? What a pointless exercise.

sparechange · 31/07/2017 20:53

They aren't 'mother and baby' spaces Confused

They are 'parent and child' spaces in every supermarket near me
There is no magic cut off age at which you have to stop using them. Op has a child, she used the space for people with a child

LockedOutOfMN · 31/07/2017 20:53

OP, YANBU to feel upset. I'd feel the same and wonder what kind of world our kids and their friends are growing up in. It's a shame the store couldn't find the person who wrote the note.

Personally, I'm most offended by the "stupid bitch" part. Presumably the note-writer didn't see OP (or they would have also seen her son) and yet assumes that the driver was female.

I hope this never happens again to OP or anyone.

bakedbeansandtuna · 31/07/2017 20:58

The person sounds quite hideous (the one who wrote the note).

Brush it off and feel sorry for their lack of civility towards fellow humans. There's no need to use language like that.

LockedOutOfMN · 31/07/2017 20:58

They aren't 'mother and baby' spaces. Confused
They are 'parent and child' spaces in every supermarket near me.

My 32 year old, married, 6'5" brother goes shopping with my mum every now and then at weekends when his wife is using their shared car. It's a running "joke" that he suggests parking in a "parent and child" space at the supermarket.

(They don't actually do this, but we do all think the idea is hilarious. We had to explain it to our godmother, though, so maybe it's not as funny as we think). Blush Blush

StickyProblem · 31/07/2017 21:06

Someone wrote IDIOT on my car windscreen once, in lipstick. To be fair I had parked badly and hadn't tucked my wing mirrors in as was in a frantic hurry. If they were so bothered about my parking that they were compelled to write on my usually-covered-in-seagull-poo windscreen in their lipstick, more fool them.

Ignore them OP. If they were as tough and aggressive as they like to think they are they'd have said something to you face to face. Flowers

coddiwomple · 31/07/2017 21:08

If you had a child with you, didn't you think the note was written for someone else -who just plonked it on your car when they read it to piss someone else off, as a petty revenge?

The note wasn't right in the first place, but if I had been shopping with one of my kid, it wouldn't have occur to me it was written for my car.

GabsAlot · 31/07/2017 21:19

sounds odd that thy dint see the car seat or your dc

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/07/2017 21:27

Someone once drew a willy and balls in the frost on my husband's windscreen. He wasn't even parked badly. Grin

Mum2jenny · 31/07/2017 21:31

Does it really matter? You know you parked in an appropriate space, ignore the other fuckers!!

GeillisTheWitch · 31/07/2017 21:40

Try not to give it any more head space OP, some people truly are pathetic if they will take the time to write out a note like that over a stupid parking space. Be glad you're not them, self righteous prick that they are.

BewareOfDragons · 31/07/2017 21:46

We had this once. My DH and I had pulled into the last available parent/child parking space at an Ikea, and a woman with a couple of small children in the back of her car pulled up behind our car and started in on us about needing the space because she had children. Why were we parking there, etc?

We ignored her, and I watched her turn red as my DH calmly opened the back door of our car, reached in, and pulled out our baby in his car seat (who wasn't visible easily from car level).

To be fair, she apologized. But it was quite amazing at how entitled she felt to stop and start to berate us!

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/07/2017 21:49

Parent and Child spaces weren't invented when I had my first baby. It's a wonder we coped.. Shock

ShelaghTurner · 31/07/2017 22:04

Oh here we go, the Four Yorkshiremen have arrived...

They didn’t have internet when I was a kid, or washing machines when my mother was a child. We coped but we’d have bloody well used them if they existed. Crap argument.

caoraich · 31/07/2017 22:06

Drycleanonly7 I get why this would be the icing on the cake of shit. It's horrible to think that people are looking at and judging you, and even more so when someone takes the time to write a nasty note. It sometimes happens to me with my zimmer-using blue-badge-holding grandma. She looks absolutely cracking for her age (moisturiser that I expect has been banned in Europe....) but is really frail.

Sometimes people come marching up all indignant when they see me hop out of the car and her open her door, but usually they veer off when they see me getting the zimmer out of the boot. Sometimes they're just fully committed at that point though and I think that acknowledging they're wrong feels like even more of a time waste to them! Like if they'd got the note all written, then actually clocked the car seat, it would feel like a sad little defeat to crumple it up and put it in their pocket.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/07/2017 22:10

Ok sorry Shelagh . My point was, why do parents get so irate if there's not a P & C space available? It's not the end of the world, that's all. Life's too short to argue about slightly larger than normal parking spaces.

streetface · 31/07/2017 22:14

Dryclean I completely understand how this made you feel. People who have thicker skin don't understand. I am very anxious and sensitive to other people's nastiness and I would have been really upset. It's not you with the problem it was the idot who took time out of their day to be cowardly and spiteful. I hope you feel better. Flowers

SophieGiroux · 31/07/2017 22:16

Didn't know pregnant women could park in the spaces, will have to start doing that Smile (although probably won't through fear of getting my head bitten off!)

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 22:21

You only have to look at the several other p&c threads to see people don't even bother to look or think past "oh my god there's no car seat they must be a brazen childless 79 year old entitled wanker".

There's seriously no cctv in the car park OP? YNBU to be upset. Humans are twats sometimes.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 22:23

ILostInTheEarlyNineties you poor thing! However did you cope? Wink Brew

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 22:26

Crap argument.

Not really. Especially when Parents manage without them fine now in places like legoland and peppapig world but lose all sense of reason in a supermarket car park without one. Fine to use. Not fine to leave notes calling someone a stupid bitch just because the note leaver is too stupid to notice the OP had a child with her.

Drycleanonly7 · 31/07/2017 22:29

Away - there is CCTV there but apparently they didn't manage to see the person placing the note. They did say they saw our car arriving and leaving though😕

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