To drink when home with DC?

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My second AIBU in as many days, although this is the fault of my first!

My boyfriends been a bit of arse this morning and we've just had a bit of a row, over the fact I was drinking in the house last night, when DD was in bed.
He was out with friends and I had friends at our house, he's saying I knew he was drinking so I shouldn't have.

I can understand if I was drunk, but I obviously knew I was in charge of DD, so I wasn't! He's saying anything more than 1/2 drinks isn't ok though.

I would say that's a bit too much when in charge of such a young baby so I'm going to side with your partner a little bit. I think maybe half as much would have been ok.

It depends really, obviously you know your own limits and what you drank, for you, wasn't a problem, you weren't wasted and knew were in charge of looking after your lo. I can easily drink a few glasses of wine and still be responsible and sober enough to look after our 5dc (even when my oh is here to help) because we don't get opportunities to go out really (unless it's a family do etc)

Unless you are absolutely battered then what's the problem?
I often have a bottle of wine at weekends and have had pRties where we are all quite pissed.
Equally have been out, got pissed and come home.
Managed 5 dc so far with no emergency I couldn't deal with.
Judge away

To posters saying they'd be pissed after what the op had drunk, why is that relevant? The op says she wasn't drunk. That's what's important here.

I'd be highly cross of DH had four glasses of wine plus a few cocktails when in charge of the DC.

That's way too much for it not to affect response times etc in an emergency.

We rarely drink together as one of us needs to be sober for the children but it's not an issue as I rarely drink so there's usually very little alcohol in the house.

Your boyfriend is being a complete dick! As long as you're not so drunk that you wouldn't wake up if your baby needed you/would be incapable of calling 111/taxi/999 if necessary, then drink as much as you like!

Of course you shouldn't mainline that much booze when you're solely responsible for your child. Not sure how this is an AIBU TBH.

It's too much.

Of course you shouldn't mainline that much booze when you're solely responsible for your child.

Mainline? Are you always so dramatic?

The op says she wasn't drunk and it over the course of an evening with food. The actual amount isn't as relevant as how it affected the op.

Id be furious if id left my child with someone and they drank that much. It's just completely unnecessary.

We have always drunk at home, we've stayed in control and alert.

Your bf is being a twat.

at all the posters judging the OP on what would make them drunk. You do realise that alcohol tolerance varies according to a number of factors, and that someone who hardly ever drinks would be far more affected than someone who drinks regularly. Your reaction to a certain amount of booze has no relevance whatsoever.

Second sentence should have had a ? at the end, sorry.

Whatever your tolerance levels it's still a week's worth of units in one evening. It's too much.

I hereby do declare this thread open!

OP, YWBU and I say that as a heavy drinker.

I often have a glass of wine on a Friday when the baby is down for the night. As long as I can still feed her or change her I don't see the issue in a small drink.

I think that's fine.

YANBU op.

I agree with your partner tbh. That sounds like quite a lot of alcohol whilst in charge of a small baby.

Oh, come on. That's more than a few drinks by anyone's standards, unless he/she is an alcoholic.

You couldn't have laid off the cocktails after wine for one night?

It's been a long time since mine were on the boob, but breastfeeding this morning? Not exactly parenting choices of the year!

One glass of wine, vs 4 glasses of wine and some cocktails are not the same thing at all.

Oh, and I've always had drinks around my kids so I'm not a puritan by any stretch.

No adult human women can drink a bottle of wine and a few cocktails without being totally pissed, unless they are hardened alcoholics. It's more than a week's units - the wine alone would be at least 9. So it's too much alcohol.

Breastfeeding whilst drinking, or after drinking, or indeed when utterly hammered is fine, but a agree a bottle of wine plus cocktails is pushing my limits for acceptable parenting.

I had quite a few pints of cider last night at the pub, my son was with me along with half the village and their kids. Both parents were drinking, more than a few pints may I add. No one batted an eyelid. My son was well looked after by me, even after 4 pints. No one had an emergency and no ambulance had to be called. As far as I know all the village kids have woken up today no worse for having been looked after by parents that had a few pints!

Breastfeeding whilst utterly hammered is fine? Rightio. What if you drop the baby/fall asleep/throw up? That fine too?