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To not get why guys send dick pics?

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Emboo19 · 29/07/2017 17:48

My very lovely single friend is spending the day with me and my DD.
She's trying online dating at the moment and is messaging a few people. She's been showing me some messages etc today, and almost every other message is a intimate photo mostly of the guys dick. She hasn't lead up to this, no sexting or anything, although most have asked for a return picture sending.
Is it supposed to be a turn on? Do any women actually think it is?

I love my boyfriend, all parts of him. But a pic of that wouldn't get me turned on or anything.

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IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 29/07/2017 23:24

I think it should be illegal. There's evidence right there in the phone that the obscene picture wasn't asked for. So it would be very easy to prove.

Instant £1000 fine should make people think twice.

I'm just imagining it now- woman takes phone to police station, police track down man, police knock on his door and ask to 'av a word, then ask him to show his todger inorder to compare to pic. It's identical, slap a fine on itGrin.

It might be too much work for the police so we will need a special "Dick force" to do it. I expect no one would want to though, so that's the end of that idea Sad

VestalVirgin · 29/07/2017 23:27

Why is this legal when flashing isn't?

Good question. The only difference is that, perhaps, the implied threat of sexual assault isn't as immediate, so to speak.

It is still violating boundaries.

I would hope that it is not illegal because laws haven't kept up with technology changes, and that it will be made illegal soon, but I suppose in reality it is because things are going backwards with regard to women's rights.

VestalVirgin · 29/07/2017 23:28

I'm just imagining it now- woman takes phone to police station, police track down man, police knock on his door and ask to 'av a word, then ask him to show his todger inorder to compare to pic. It's identical, slap a fine on it

Wouldn't men then not start sending dick pics they have googled on the internet?

I'd fine them according to who is the owner of the phone the dick pic was sent from. Much easier, and policeman doesn't have to control the dick. Wink

Gwenhwyfar · 29/07/2017 23:29

Vestal - apparently some women like it so that will also be used as an excuse to not make it illegal even though some women find flashers funny and not scary. We should at least be able to get them chucked off the dating site.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/07/2017 00:13

I asked a male friend if he thought women were turned on by visual stimuli. His reply was 'aren't you?' Erm nope.

To not get why guys send dick pics?
To not get why guys send dick pics?
MrsTerryPratchett · 30/07/2017 00:14

Sometimes yes; sometimes no.

user1498240695 · 30/07/2017 00:17

Anyfucker is spot on and also rather fab if I may say so Flowers. As me and my teen DD would say "are you having that one Dave?"

HelenaDove · 30/07/2017 00:23

Urban legend from my neck of the woods. Wayyyyy back in 1989 when i left school and got my first job which was retail i found out that the woman who had the job before me got flashed on the way to work.

She responded with "You couldnt fuck a Polo mint with that"

JuicyCake · 30/07/2017 00:24

I've never had a dick pic, thank fuck. Does it not take away the element of surprise / lust? Or does that not exist with online dating / modern love?
I remember the excitement of getting into bed with a guy for the first time... If I'd seen a shot of DH's willy first, I don't think he"d have got that far!

Fluffyears · 30/07/2017 00:30

Jet the poor snowflakes get offended and usually a bit abusive and out themselves as total wallopers. I just laugh,block and move on.

Girty999 · 30/07/2017 00:33

It's amazing the amount of dicpics you get, without asking lol, I find replying 'oh that looks sore, have you been to the dr' does the trick, I think they just get off on knowing you've seen their willy x

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:34

I asked a male friend if he thought women were turned on by visual stimuli. His reply was 'aren't you?' Erm nope.

You do not speak for all women. I am turned on by visual stimuli and I do love and worship DH's cock.

JaneJeffer · 30/07/2017 00:53

Worship Grin I mean I think that's sarcasm but if not, oh dear!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:53

I'm not being sarcastic. I enjoy worshipping his cock.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:54

And "oh dear"? Seriously, a wife loving her husband's cock warrants that reaction? No, I'd think it was odd if it was the other way round.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/07/2017 00:54

I enjoy worshipping his cock.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 00:56

Yes how strange a wife would enjoy her husbands cock Confused

JaneJeffer · 30/07/2017 01:02

Yes the other way around would indeed be strange!

Anecdoche · 30/07/2017 01:03

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 01:04

Yep, I'd find any woman who didn't at least like her husband's cock odd.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 01:06

come on, there is a bit of a difference between your husband's cock and getting unasked for pics of a stranger's .

I know that; I haven't said otherwise.

But for someone to attempt to speak for all women by saying women aren't turned on by visual stimuli, well yeah, I have a problem with that, because it's simply not true.

Anecdoche · 30/07/2017 01:11

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AtSea1979 · 30/07/2017 01:12

I agree it should be illegal. Start a petition on that online wotsit, I'll sign it.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 01:14

so you would be aroused by a stranger sending you an unsolicited cock shot?

or you like your husbands because he is your husband and you love him?

I don't know if I would be aroused by a strangers cock; I've never been on the dating scene so I've never received one.

I do know, however, that I am aroused by cocks when I watch porn.

TeslasDeathRay · 30/07/2017 01:36

It's not just limited to being a "younger person" thing, either. I've received dick pics from men a good 20-40 years older than me. (I'm 28). 🤢 The worst are the ones who just send the pics; no initial conversation, no hello. Just "HERE'S MY DICK LOOK AT IT".
They don't like it when you send back pictures of bigger ones.