To not get why guys send dick pics?

[Emboo19]

My very lovely single friend is spending the day with me and my DD.
She's trying online dating at the moment and is messaging a few people. She's been showing me some messages etc today, and almost every other message is a intimate photo mostly of the guys dick. She hasn't lead up to this, no sexting or anything, although most have asked for a return picture sending.
Is it supposed to be a turn on? Do any women actually think it is?

I love my boyfriend, all parts of him. But a pic of that wouldn't get me turned on or anything.

But she is laughing at the replies on here and we're starting on the wine now my DD is in bed.
What started our conversation and looking at other messages. Was someone she'd met and really liked, went down the sext and dick pic after the first date and then was off with her when she said she wasn't interested in doing that. So she's feeling a bit down.

Imagine the disappointment when you have had a really good first date, you quite fancy him, you think you may want to go on another date even. Then he sends a dick pic and it's all over.

If a guy did that without any lead up, sexting, that guy would be in the no list. Can't stand this, very disrespectful and unacceptable. At least it sorts the wheat from the chaff quite quickly.

It's beyond my comprehension why men do this. It would be a huge turn off to me. I love the monkey pic or would probably respond with something like 'oh dear, you have my sympathy but I'm not a plastic surgeon so can't help you with your problem'.

Boys

I think some of them do.

Some of them also have photos on their profile of them lying in seductive 'feminine' poses in a bubble bath or in bed. So I think some really do send photos they'd like to receive.

It's ok Gottagetmoving teenage boys are akin to the devil on MN.

That's exactly it Sparkling she'd been chatting to him for a while and all was good, a really great date, arranged a second, bit of a snog at the end.
Then a text, with a pic of his dick and a 'look what you could have taken home, hopefully next time' she even gave him a chance and said 'she didn't want to rush that side of things, but likes him' then he became a arse about it.

You won't remember this Emboo but there used to be a game show called Bullseye. If you didn't win they would still show you the prize (usually a speedboat or something random) and the host would say 'Look what you could have won'. Sounds a bit like that.

Him becoming an arse sort of supports the sex offender/red flags theory.

One of the reasons I thought my DH was 'the one' was that some other bloke in the bar the night I met him was aggressively pursuing me. I threatened to break his fingers if he touched me again without permission was very boundaried. And DH thought that was great. Good sign.

A man who pushes boundaries is never a good one. Throw them and their dick pics back.

It doesn't help her, that I'm in a relationship and our other good friend, always gets really nice, good guys. It's usually her ending things or not wanting more.
Where as this friend just doesn't seem to have any luck with men. And she's lovely and bloody gorgeous!

I don't get it either. Disembodied genitals aren't the most pleasant thing to look at. I've never used an online dating app however I would have thought you'd be more likely to get a reply if you had a recent picture of yourself fully clothed doing something normal and fun.

It is an upfront 'sex only' sign. Sad for your friend he didn't do it sooner, but better now than later. And great that so many twats men do it right from the get-go

I suppose one good thing about it is it weeds out the crazy's however I still find it baffling and creepy.

Dick pics are incredibly common in my experience, I don't know anyone my age (22) who is dating and hasn't got one. And it has never successfully snared a potential date/girlfriend.

But then I think sending someone you barely know naked pictures, genital shots or attempted alluring poses partially dressed is the height of stupidity, and plenty of women do this. Revenge porn laws give a bit more protection from unwanted repercussions now, but it doesn't protect you from whoever it's sent to then sending it around their mates or showing them. What happened to creating a bit of mystery?!

I got a lot of them doing OD. My reply was always 'wtf is THAT?' Usually they said 'my dick!' And every time I'd say 'ew really it looks wrong, you need a doctor I think! Seriously dude there is something wrong with that!' Even if it looked perfectly normal.

How did they respond, Fluffy?

Laura Bates' book Girl Up has some fantastic responses for unsolicited dick pics. My favourite is "oh, how cute, I love baby mice!"

I asked a male friend if he thought women were turned on by visual stimuli. His reply was 'aren't you?' Erm nope. A picture of one of those things has the same level of arousal as I get from putting the bins out.
He wasn't a teenager either. Old enough to know better. I don't think he's ever sent a dick pic though but who knows what people get up to in their spare time?

I asked a male friend if he thought women were turned on by visual stimuli. His reply was 'aren't you?' Erm nope. A picture of one of those things has the same level of arousal as I get from putting the bins out.

Seriously??

I'd rather put the bins out any day.

Is it possible he misunderstood the question and thought it was about nice-looking men? Some women do have quite the weakness for certain styles of clothing.

If the question was asked in the context of dic pics, though ...

Yeah, I'd rather put the bins out.

The conversation was about dick pics. Like OP I've always wondered what men thought women get out of it. As he appears to be a decent chap I thought I'd ask him. I was very surprised that he thought it might be a visual stimuli.
vestal I can't speak for the rest of womankind but if I see a picture of an attractive man I often think .. ding dong a la Leslie Phillips but it certainly doesn't stir my loins.

I had this issue too - I used to send them one back (one of big fat one) saying that this was the best offer I had that day and theirs didn't come close...

Why is this legal when flashing isn't?

Good question @Gwenhwyfar. It should not be accepted really. And re the Op, I find it pretty disturbing that the girl in question is only 19! Poor girl, having to tolerate that shit at such a young age!

@amber90

This just made me laugh so so hard!!! Monkey fanny bum!! Thanks for cheering up my evening!

Hee hee you're welcome.

@boysofmelody

I really can't see the pride some men take in their cock and balls (and I say this as a gentleman mumsnetter) they have the aesthetic appeal of a semi deflated set of bagpipes

Bah ha ha

@whatsinthebox

That pic of that slimy thing with the teeth ewwww! (on page 3) what IS it?

I asked a male friend if he thought women were turned on by visual stimuli. His reply was 'aren't you?' Erm nope. A picture of one of those things has the same level of arousal as I get from putting the bins out.

How weird that men think a pic of an erect penis and a pair of saggy hairy bollocks is a turn on for women.

Reminds me of many years ago, a few men I knew (young, like 19 to 25,) seemed to think a woman gets turned on when she inserts a tampon. I had three different men ask me (over 3 or 4 years,) if it made me aroused and horny putting a tampon in? PMSL. Some men really are clueless!