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To not get why guys send dick pics?

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Emboo19 · 29/07/2017 17:48

My very lovely single friend is spending the day with me and my DD.
She's trying online dating at the moment and is messaging a few people. She's been showing me some messages etc today, and almost every other message is a intimate photo mostly of the guys dick. She hasn't lead up to this, no sexting or anything, although most have asked for a return picture sending.
Is it supposed to be a turn on? Do any women actually think it is?

I love my boyfriend, all parts of him. But a pic of that wouldn't get me turned on or anything.

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PortiaCastis · 30/07/2017 13:34

My dd looked at my phone as I was driving she was 9 when confronted with a cock shot. Poor kid was only doing as I asked and looked at a text. The dicks owner thought it highly amusing when I told him so he was quickly dumped. What an obnoxious turd he was!

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Emboo19 · 30/07/2017 13:47

Yes she uses free sites, poor student and all that! She seems to have the same luck wherever ever she meets guys though. We can't figure out why, but she definitely attracts the weirdos!

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FreyaJade · 30/07/2017 14:23

I've just started OLD for the second time & use the free sites.

Last time I paid for a subscription only site & unfortunately met a rich man just looking for sex who politely informed me of that on the first date.

I know you can meet decent men on free sites like POF as friends of all ages have had LTRs & even got married to men they met on these sites.

The dick pic thing is not just age related - I'm 40 & friends nearer my mum's age have received them!!

I haven't received any yet but I've received & ignored requests for 'pictures' of me. As I know men share these pics!

Actually I hate dating but it has to be done as I'm over being single now.

beebee7 · 30/07/2017 14:30

Yep I think it's very weird to get aroused and turned on by seeing a pic of a cock and a pair of hairy knackers.

Meh, each to their own!

Gwenhwyfar · 30/07/2017 14:30

"I guess it's the same as women who send pictures of themselves and believe it will turn all men on. "

I don't think it is the same.

Gwenhwyfar · 30/07/2017 14:33

"he reckons that a lot of men don't fully get why women complain about being sexually objectified -most of them would love / be flattered to get all that pure sexual attention directed at them and feel that they 'miss out' on this."

I've seen a few men be VERY uncomfortable with unwated sexual attention given to them by older women at work. When it actually happens to them, men are almost as horrified. They have the advantage that they're usually stronger than the woman so won't have the fear of actually being attacked, but they can still suffer harrassment.

MartinJD · 30/07/2017 14:37

As a man i'm not sure why other men do this. I'm more then happy with my dick but would of thought it would be a strange thing to send someone a pic of without them asking for it.

it's probably the modern day version of a heavy breather call.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 30/07/2017 14:39

donajimena I am not singling out your post or any others

But many replies on here are tut tut roll of the eyes sill men don't get it

I don't believe an adult isn't aware that flashing their genitals isn't socially acceptable they want to get a kick out of you seeing their dick be that sexually or you are shocked either way it's a total lack of respect to the women the picture has been sent to (unless that is between two consenting adults) and why are we so quick to dismiss it as juvenile behaviour or men just don't get women

But a man othe dating seen what he suddenly becomes oblivious to what is and what is not acceptable

Flashing your bits to a stranger or sexual pictures between two consenting adults is completely different I think the vast majority of men are capable of understanding and do understand that many just don't care

lifeinthecountry · 30/07/2017 14:44

Agree the dick pics are not age-related, though they definitely say something very unflattering about the man concerned. When my exh and I split up he started sending them to random women (sometimes got fairly gynaecological pics back in return too). We're in our 50s and most of the women he was messaging were 40s-50s too Confused

He had his phone set up to back up photos to the cloud and from there it would update our home computer too, which was lovely. Made the decision to divorce v. easy anyhoo...

Hapaxlegomenon · 30/07/2017 15:31

Is that a monkey's face or a monkey's bottom?

Spangles1963 · 30/07/2017 16:19

Men seem to think we love their dicks as much as they do. How shallow! What also puzzles me is how a lot of guys boast about being circumcised. From what I can make out,the general concensus of opinion is that circumcision is barbaric and mutilating,and shouldn't be allowed. So why do guys who had it done brag about it?!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 17:03

So why do guys who had it done brag about it?!

In the UK at least, the majority of circumsions are medical, so they probably brag to make themselves feel better about it.

Hulder · 30/07/2017 17:30

DH's theory is that they are not interested in dating, they just want to have sex.

Responding to masses of women with dick pics means the only women likely to respond are the ones likely to have sex with you. Or share pics of themselves. Which is what they want. Not any sort of actual dating.

Kind of like Nigerian scammers. If you send out a million spam messages saying you have £1 million pounds waiting if only you give me your bank account details Hmm eventually someone will fall for it.

The dick pic men are doing the same. If they send out enough dic pics, for minimal effort they will find either a) a woman who actually likes it or more likely b) a woman who is socialized to respond positively as she thinks she has to in order to have a relationship with a man. Either way, they've won.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 30/07/2017 18:09

gwen it is the same. Maybe not as often, but if the man recieving said picture doesn't want it then I am sure he will be just as disgusted as a woman receiving an unwanted dick pic. Or are you saying all men are dirty horny bastards and will drool over any sight of a fanny?

HelenaDove · 30/07/2017 18:09

I have a cock story but it is entirely my own fault for being somewhere i wasnt meant to be. It was the early 1980s I was about 8 or 9 years old.

There was a gay couple who lived in the same road as us. They owned a gorgeous British shorthair cat. One day DB and i were fussing and playing with the cat but she wandered through the open gate at the side of their house and into their shed. We followed and entered the shed. The walls were plastered with full frontal posters of nude men. Every bit of wall was covered . We just stood there for a few seconds gaping then realised we had better get out of there. Didnt say a word to anyone else.

Years later my dad was talking about this couple. Apparently in the very late 70s/1980 or thereabouts they had a massive party and quite a few came in fancy dress including drag queens. I dont remember this It was obvs in the evening but apparently my dad had a moan and said he "didnt want his kids to see that" I would have been fascinated and loved the sight of all the costumes though.

Yet my dad used to watch The Good Old Days and Danny La Rue was always on there.

QuackPorridgeBacon · 30/07/2017 18:10

I think your husband is right Hulder.

Aeroflotgirl · 30/07/2017 18:15

I do agree, that they men who send these pictures, it's a call sign for sex not really a relationship. I just thinks it's grim.

Coffeetasteslikeshit · 30/07/2017 18:27

Though I guess it could double as a kind of boundary-testing ... the kind of woman who'd send a picture of herself in response to an unsolicited dick pick will be quite slow in recognizing other red flags.

I agree with this.

ConcreteUnderpants · 30/07/2017 18:37

I also agree with Hulder's hubby.
Just sniffing around for free easy sex.
If I can be bothered, before I block them, I send this when they ask me to reciprocate and show my pussy

To not get why guys send dick pics?
PassedTheMoronTest · 30/07/2017 18:39

Well it's never ever happened to me. And if it did, I would never speak to them again!

IfNot · 30/07/2017 18:53

I have OLD on free sites and NEVER had a cock shot. I'm clearly too scary even on text messages!
I do get aroused by penises I know and like, and certainly don't think they are ugly, but a random sweaty pic of a man with his keks round his ankles and a self satisfied look on his face ( my friend had one of these) Confused errr. ..no.
It's is an aggressive act to be sure. They know full well they shouldn't be doing it.
I think the best response is to tell them you have found their mum on Facebook and forwarded it to her.

WiganPierre · 31/07/2017 05:25

I'm a bloke that has had sexual relationships with women that aren't afraid to express themselves.

So women who don't like seeing men's penises are just hiding their true feelings? They love it really but are afraid to express themselves?

Disgusting. BOAK at "scent" as well.

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