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To not get why guys send dick pics?

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Emboo19 · 29/07/2017 17:48

My very lovely single friend is spending the day with me and my DD.
She's trying online dating at the moment and is messaging a few people. She's been showing me some messages etc today, and almost every other message is a intimate photo mostly of the guys dick. She hasn't lead up to this, no sexting or anything, although most have asked for a return picture sending.
Is it supposed to be a turn on? Do any women actually think it is?

I love my boyfriend, all parts of him. But a pic of that wouldn't get me turned on or anything.

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PoppyBucket · 30/07/2017 01:42

I was once in normal and scant communication with a bloke on a group that I frequented, to do with classic literature.

He sent me a flash of his erect penis (which was remarkably large).

I immediately left the group and changed my email address.
An email address that I'd had for 10 years, and had to go to an enormous amount of faff to inform all my other contacts of the change.

With hindsight, I should have just ignored it and gone about my business as usual. But it was the sudden SHOCK! I felt my email address had been sullied in some way. I find it quite amusing now, that I was so easily shocked Halo

toothgenie · 30/07/2017 01:42

I wish the DAILY MAIL would steal this thread, they'd be doing us a favour for once. Spread the word we don't want to see your dicks!

BoysofMelody · 30/07/2017 01:51

Laura Bates' book Girl Up has some fantastic responses for unsolicited dick pics. My favourite is "oh, how cute, I love baby mice!"

Or 'wow, it looks like a penis, only smaller'

PoppyBucket · 30/07/2017 01:51

I do know, however, that I am aroused by cocks when I watch porn

I can get aroused by attractive men, but it has nowt to do with willies.
They all have willies, I know. But it's the bloke and the face and the brain on the end of it that's attractive.
The willy is of secondary importance.
Nice if it's substantial though. Just saying.

HelenaDove · 30/07/2017 01:56

"im sorry but i couldnt possibly date you. It wouldnt be fair on you. Because i couldnt love your cock as much as you do"

That would be my retort.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 02:00

I can get aroused by attractive men, but it has nowt to do with willies. They all have willies, I know. But it's the bloke and the face and the brain on the end of it that's attractive. The willy is of secondary importance. Nice if it's substantial though. Just saying.

Oh there are men that I fancy, of course.

But when I'm watching porn, I am not looking at anyone's faces. I'm looking at their cock and balls or their breasts and pussies.

balsamicbarbara · 30/07/2017 02:07

It's like Nigerian spam emails. They do not expect everyone to reply. But they know the ones who do are great targets likely to go along with things. Likewise, a woman who actually positively responds to a dick pic is pretty much a sure thing.

TeslasDeathRay · 30/07/2017 02:12

Or "Why have you sent me a picture of your thumb? Confused"

I do kind of get what you mean though, What.

WoofTweetWoofTweetWoofWoofWoof · 30/07/2017 02:24

I think it demonstrates how much many people struggle to understand others. I'm a man and I've never sent a dick pic to anybody, because I'm well aware of how poorly it would be received. To me, it seems obvious that almost no woman would want to see that, especially in the context of dating.

But clearly lots of men (and presumably a higher proportion among those trying online dating) do not understand this. Imagine being that clueless about other people's feelings.

PollyCazaletWannabe · 30/07/2017 02:27

I have to say, I enjoy getting them.

From my husband.

Unsolicited dick pic? Nah.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/07/2017 02:31

Likewise, a woman who actually positively responds to a dick pic is pretty much a sure thing.

Another assumption. Although, I suppose you could call me a sure thing if they're willing to wait several months while we get to know each other...

Pivoine · 30/07/2017 04:51

It's sexual harassment, plain and simple. You didn't ask for it? You don't want to see it. It actually really pisses me off

Pivoine · 30/07/2017 04:54

As to why they do it? The inbuilt narcissism gene

donajimena · 30/07/2017 06:25

what of course I cannot speak for 100% of women. I didn't just make it up though! Enjoy your cock worship. I'm sure it beats sitting in a draughty church

SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 30/07/2017 07:17

Whenever I get sleazy messages from random men via social media I generally tweet them so the world can see how revolting they are. (I'm married and therefore not using OLD or trying to chat these me up, but apparently I have a lovely smile so... I dunno, deserve to be sent pervy messages?! Anyhow, if someone sent me a photo of his dick I'd tweet that too, clearly any man who did that would be extremely proud of it so wouldn't mind.

user1487175389 · 30/07/2017 07:28

It's about control. It's about the idea that women don't have the right to not look at unsolicited penises.

user1487175389 · 30/07/2017 07:40

Also, I think it says a lot at how many people really struggle socially. If you think this is acceptable when potentially dating then imagine how much you're blundering about arsing things up in the rest of your life.

ThoseCowsAreFarAway · 30/07/2017 09:47

I think WhatToDoAboutThis2017 is a man.

I've never received one as I've never online dated - met my dh before it all took off. I'd be disgusted/amused if I got one and it would be an instant turn off. It says something about their conversational abilities and I agree that it's the modern equivalent of a flasher. "Oh I'd love to see a man jump out of the bushes waving his willy" said no woman ever..

donajimena · 30/07/2017 09:54

I'm pondering the spelling of draught...

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 30/07/2017 09:59

They send them because they can and have no respect for the women they are sending them to

Why is it so amusing and laughed about when women are being so disrespected

The joke isn't turned on them with a smart remark it's on you for playing into their perverse game

Call them out for being the perverts they are not laughing at them unless you find someone being disrespectful towards you amusing

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Emboo19 · 30/07/2017 09:59

My friends nursing a bit of a sore head this morning, lol! She says she's giving the online dating a miss for now though.
We were joined by a few other friends some male, who say they've never done it, but they think most do in the hope you'll send something back or to gauge whether you'd be up for sex or not! Classy!

I get it in relationships, if it's something you both like to do. Still for me just looking at a picture of my bf's dick, wouldn't turn me on at all. Even though it's a very nice one, especially compared to some I saw last night 🤢

I remember getting a few back in high school via social media, but always done as a supposed joke/mates dared me etc! And certainly wasn't every teenage boy.

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Ohyesiam · 30/07/2017 10:22

Friend of mine states " no dick pics" on her tinder profile. So far it's been respected.

MsGameandWatching · 30/07/2017 11:29

I haven't read the thread but will do. I think it's porn. Porn has men thinking that ALL women are gagging for their dick ALL of the time. It's very dangerous.

JessieMcJessie · 30/07/2017 11:49

Is your friend using free OLD sites? If she is serious about meeting someone for a relationship then she'd be better off on a subscription one as fuckwits are less likely to pay a fee for dick pic sending.

At least it means the unsuitable ones are showing their true colours early on I suppose. "I pressed send on the picture of my cock and from that moment on we were never apart" said no Groom at his wedding EVER.

"How did you and Daddy meet?"
"Well Johnny I got a picture of his willy by email and it was love at first sight"

FFS.

Joey7t8 · 30/07/2017 12:14

Is your friend using free OLD sites? If she is serious about meeting someone for a relationship then she'd be better off on a subscription one as fuckwits are less likely to pay a fee for dick pic sending

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