To hate the summer holidays

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

I'm really fed up of the summer hols. I have 3 dc. Their dad had them for 4 days while I did thankfully get away with my friend. 2 hours after I got back from the airport he's dropped them off. I've got them day and night for the next three weeks. He's having them for just one weekend all holiday. I'm exhausted. He's only recently starting paying maintenance after a year. My house needs loads doing to it, but I can't afford it. I must be the only teacher who dreads the holidays. I'm knackered.

MN haven't removed the FB thread. I can still see it on my newsfeed.

X post with you OP.

Well I've asked and been ignored by MN.

That's really crap. I dread school holidays and I'm not single. I am continually shocked at how imbalanced family and childcare matters are. It's so unfair. Do you have a legal agreement for shared care? It seems very biased against you. You deserve some time off and they deserve more from their father. So sorry.

No crispmonster but according to facebook I should put up and shut up.

Oh yes, the so-called perfect parents, they love to shoot down anyone who suggests that motherhood can ever be anything less than bliss. Sorry, I've had a crap day dealing with DD1's tantrums this afternoon and the constant cry of 'Mummmmyyyy!'
I would love to reply, 'What did your last slave die of?'
I love my DDs really of course, but we're allowed to find it frustrating sometimes!!

I haven't 'liked' the mn fb page so it took a while to find.
It just seems to me as though they're trying to prove to themselves and to each other how good they are at this parenting lark. I bet they get fed up of being their children whinge, whine and argue and get that rush of relief when they've finally gone to bed. They're just not admitting it to themselves/saying it publicly.

I think it's because it's not anonymous there and on Facebook there's a tendency to try and outdo each other with our positive posts and holiday pics. I do it myself, it's very hard not to get sucked in. We all enjoy getting likes, after all.

Why is FB so different? It seems to give people a licence to be mean.

Take heart OP - most don't seem to have read your post. They are reacting to the title and an imagined offence. It is fluff!

The chilli event made me smile with fellow feeling - that has happened here too.

Yes you are right Goodasgold. Dd1 is sleeping at my mum's tonight actually. I've been doing a few bits of writing for my mum and she's done a bit in turn. The two youngest are an absolute dream without dd1 annoying them. I am going to be extra loving to dd1 even though her emotional outbursts make her difficult, it is what she needs. She loves going to see my mum and popping to see exh 's mum round the corner for a chat. So that seems to be a solution. It is just the one child who is challenging at the moment. I've booked her on a dance workshop this week too, to give her something nice to do.