3year old standing at the window nearly everyday. What should I do?

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So for the past year my auntie's neighbour's child has been standing at the window nearly everyday looking sad. He looks like he hadn't had a bath in awhile and just stands there no matter the weather. There's a park 1min walk from the House and no one bothers to take him. Me and my 3year dd waved few times but he doesn't wave back or even smile.

I'm thinking about calling SS or to knock at the door saying something but I don't know how that will go. He looks so sad and neglected it's been a whole year maybe more that he's been left to stand there.

And maybe there's a problem, and maybe her aunt's instincts are right. And maybe we should all stop ridiculing every single post on here for one minute and consider this.

I would report this to SS OP, just in case. Hell, I'm normally on the cautious side on here but it looks like nobody else is going to say it. I hope the little boy is ok

My Dd used to take herself off to the window as a toddler for a while, mainly to poop in her nappy...it's now known as Pooh Corner. but she'd be there a while staring aimlessly out the window.

I think you need to stop and think a bit more beyond your own paranoia. A call to social services is unnecessary at this point.

Op said he looks sad and neglected, but at least it's giving people a good laugh.

Expellibramus you cannot report a child looking out the window to social services. As many posters have said on here, some children love looking out the window. I highly doubt his been stood there non-stop for a year.

Yes, you can all mock the OP, but some children are neglected. And it will be children who live near you, in your town.

The OP might not be accurate on this one, but I know a couple of children whose neighbours would see this, and might also assume this and they'd be absolutely spot on. It's now being addressed.

I don't understand this place sometimes, I really don't. It seems to go from the over zealous cries of abuse to mocking someone who is showing concern without rhyme or reason.

OP the NSPCC are really good at offering advice in situations like this. Give them a call and talk your concerns through with them. You can do it anonymously. You might be adding two and two together and getting five, or this might genuinely be a very unhappy child.

Sometimes you don't have much to go on beyond a snippet and your instincts.

If you report it and there is nothing wrong then no harm done. If you don't and there is something wrong then this child could go through hell.

Report it. Let them make the decision. Don't confront the parents.

He's always looking out the window whenever I visit my auntie and if I haven't visited her In awhile I ask her about him and she's says he's there whenever she walks past he's house which is nearly everyday day for her daily walk.

My dd has done this since the same age and still does, she's 13.
she's not here all the time, nor always at the window.
But she never misses an opportunity, she's bloody nosey and we have a park across the road, it's practically our garden.
When she was little she'd sit there for hours just dreaming.

There's a park 1min walk from the House and no one bothers to take him.

How on earth do you know that as a randomer you being a niece of and auntie's neighbour's child) who only knows the child through a glimpse in the window?!

I would report this to SS OP

Report what to SS? A child looking out of the window?

It's all about context with these things - my ds stands at the window too and probably looks sad waiting for DH to come home but he wouldn't be described as neglected.

If you feel happier reporting it and it turns out it be all fine then that is far better than ignoring it and having to worry about it every time you see them.

Op, ignore the people falling over themselves to impress each other with their piss taking and trust your instincts.

I think you should call ss and I hope you are wrong.
However, if you are right, let it be you that did the right thing.

Expellibramus you cannot report a child looking out the window to social services. As many posters have said on here, some children love looking out the window. I highly doubt his been stood there non-stop for a year.

You can report whatever you like, they then make the decision on their next action, if any. Or call the NSPCC per another posters advice. Or do nothing. But what you don't do is tell other people what to do, incorrectly, when a child may (or may not - because we don't know) need help.

I'm not saying ignore gut feeling but saying a child is never taken to the park is an assumption unless her or her auntie are always there.

Maybe he likes seeing your aunty on her walk? My DC loves people watching.
Has your aunty ever spoken to them? She'd get a better sense of the situation by knocking on the door and having a chat. Looking through a window doesn't tell you much at all.

I would report it OP. What harm can it do? What harm could not reporting it and it actually being neglect do?

Sounds odd to me and I work in social services (disclaimer - am not a social worker). Neglect can take many forms.

And for the record (apologies if this blows your mind) but I think when the report is made - you might share the details around why you're concerned, frequency, appearance etc - vs they're just looking out of the window.

But you crack on in planet low brow dismissive.

Op, ignore the people falling over themselves to impress each other with their piss taking and trust your instincts.

I'm not falling over myself to pisstake with others, but am one of those saying "what on earth are you reporting? A child looking out of the window?! )
My eldest used to love looking out of the window when he was a toddler. He used to like looking at all the parked cars/cars going past as he was obsessed with number plates weirdo
If someone had reported me for letting my child stand at the window looking sad I'd have been
What expression is it acceptable to stand looking out of the window with?

Op, ignore the people falling over themselves to impress each other with their piss taking and trust your instincts.

Agree with this...

My eldest used to love looking out of the window when he was a toddler

Great. Good for you and your eldest. My youngest loves going outside in the rain and would quite often go into the back garden in her nightie in the cold and the wet to experience the rain on her. No idea why. I was forced to stand outside in my nightie in inclement weather as a punishment whilst my mother stood in the kitchen, arms folded, door locked, looking out at me.

Can you see the difference?

Op, ignore the people falling over themselves to impress each other with their piss taking and trust your instincts.

Agree.

I also agree with Jetboy