About nursery

[Caramacloverr]

My son attends nursery 4 days a week. They've had no problem with keeping him later than needed (had a baby 4 month ago, no other childcare). They've kept him until 4 before. I asked for them to have him for an hour extra today.
I was suppose to collect him at 1, realised at 12.17 that I was in enough time to collect him early. Went to nursery, manager let me into the building but my son's key worker, said to never ask them to have my son later again unless I can prove what I am doing such as an appointment and that it really isn't on
I'm quite taken aback, who is BU?

Erm, who's complaining here - the staff or the parent(s)?

The staff have asked for lateness to only happen if it needs to, and for the reasons to be evidenced. They're doing 40 hour weeks for peanuts. They are being reasonable. It isn't reasonable to expect them to put and shut up (or indeed to have the industrial strength/confidence to challenge their managers about their pay conditions)

Maybe parents should choose to send their kids to nurseries who respect their staff. Just a thought

Nobody was even late, hasit?

Who's said they were Carma?

You did
'the staff asked for lateness to happen if it needs to'

Erm....

I wonder if your distress with the staff is due to you not understanding what they have said to you.

Much like on this thread.

The nursery offers an additional service, the service users have taken up that offer, if the staff have a problem with it they need to address that with their manager and not with the service users.
Blaming the service users for using an offered service is ridiculous and senseless. Its also completely unprofessional for staff members to complain to parents about aspects of their job.
I say that as a nursery practitioner, if I have a problem with my workload I go to my manager and complain about, I would not ever try to make a parent feel bad for any aspect of my job that I was unhappy with, it would be unprofessional and has the potential to damage relationships with families who are essential to the wellbeing of their child in my care.

I don't even know what to make of this thread other than i wish my nursery gave away free time, costs me a fortune !

Why does your son need to stay an hour later? Were you at home?

So now the staff have complained to the OP and 'tried to make her feel bad'?

Christ

Fanny, no I had to make an unexpected stop to the hospital to book my d&c

Why is it a piss take? I had a break down almost on this thread! Nothing pisstaking at all! I'm struggling, it's not my fault if the nursery are allowing extra hours but yours charges. Actually in stead of putting my son to nursery I wanted to stay at home with my vodka and down a lot of pills. I am not fit for this earth. I am not strong enough to be put through all this shit
I could of had 2 kids to a rapist who got of Scot fre and now has moved countries. I'm working in a dead end job trying to keep my head above water but I can't
And yet I'm belitted for asking for an extra fucking hour
I'm sorry ok
I'm sorry that you were all perfect and were able to go back to work at 4 weeks and not manage to get pregnant because your contraception works and you've all got lovely husbands who help you pay the bills
I'm on my own and it's my own fault all becaue I took the advice to LTB and now here I am, wishing I wasnt

YABVU, you can't expect them to do extra because you had another chid.

Either book and pay for the hours you need or get a friend to have them if the dad or dads have no contact.

Rainbows they've already said they didn't want payment!

I think 17 minutes is not so long for them to moan about. Pick him up a little earlier another time.

Blimey we had to pay loads if we picked up ds late from nursery. We could pay for extra half days/days when they had space but at the full going rate

User I wasn't late.. Have you read the thread? I asked for an extra hour but realised I didn't need it

@Caramacloverr take a breath and step back. You're going through a tough time and although you've explained yourself quite clearly, it seems some are happy to continue bashing you. Don't take it to heart. Get some sleep and start again in the morning x

Didn't you say you were over the arranged time by 17 minutes?

No user. My son was suppose to finish at 12 but that morning I asked for an extra hour as I got a call asking for me to come to the hospital. I got out the hospital earlier than I thought and got to the nursery at 12.17, I didn't see the point of keeping him in until 1 when I was close by anyway

Also I was trying to say the nursery was overreacting. But you seem to be a bit stressed.

This thread is MN at its worst. The OP is having a properly tough time and again and again posters don't read the thread and just lay into the OP.

"See I thought the vote would be I'm BU because it's not paid for but when they had him for two weeks until 4pm, without complaint and this was one time, technically 17 minutes over the arranged time"-
am I missing something?
I'm not saying you're wrong in this OP. I've been late many times at nursery for my dd. I have also had them moan at me. Don't. Take it to heart.

That was a mistake I made when writing my post. Excluding the fact I had asked for the extra hour I was only 17 minutes over what my arranged time would have been, is what I meant