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Do you tip at hairdressers? I didn't and now I feel guilty

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 16:51

I've just had my hair done,hair extensions at the hairdressers,altogether £410 and I didn't tip.
Should I of ?
I'm moving in the next few weeks and as its a council house I need to buy all new carpets as its basically a empty shell so i need every penny I can get really.
Do you tip?
And if so how much?

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MonsterQueen · 21/07/2017 19:00

Never tip the hairdresser as cannot afford to go to the hairdresser. I have a mortgage to pay and kids to feed. And yes, I also need carpets, hence no haircuts for any of us. (I do it myself, in case you are imagining us with floor- length hair.

pasturesgreen · 21/07/2017 19:00

Fucking hell!! Not sure I manage to spend that in a year at the hairdressers, and I live in an expensive part of the country.

I get you were feeling low and needed to cheer yourself up, but blimey!

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 19:01

It's the first time in 3 years I've had them done..It's not a normal occurrence

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alltouchedout · 21/07/2017 19:03

I think most people if they had a choice would rather treat themselves than buy carpets/furniture or whatever

Who the hell would rather drop £400+ on a hair do than buy carpets and furniture they and their family need?!

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 19:05

If you've never had problems with your hair you wouldn't understand ..it makes you feel awful about yourself

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SerfTerf · 21/07/2017 19:05

I think most people if they had a choice would rather treat themselves than buy carpets/furniture or whatever

Don't ever say that to your social worker or your psychiatrist.

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 19:06

Luckily for me my mental health nurse isn't judgemental and understands

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Notknownatthisaddress · 21/07/2017 19:09

I have to say that you have way worse problems than feeling guilty about not leaving a tip, if you spend £410 on hair, when you need carpets.

Wow. Just wow!

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/07/2017 19:09

£410 for extensions and fitting them?
You get ripped off.

That's coming from a hairdresser.

Tipping is one them, it's up to the individual. I don't expect a tip.

Notknownatthisaddress · 21/07/2017 19:10

It's not being 'judgemental' to say it's ridiculous to do this!

TearsOnTheGround · 21/07/2017 19:10

For me, buying carpets/ things for the house to do it up gives me more pleasure then treats for myself. I suppose I see buying things for my house as treats for me anyway because they give me a lot of pleasure__ and when you have moved in to a house with shitty carpets that are stained and manky you can't wait to replace them.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 21/07/2017 19:11

I always leave a tip around £2 extra.
However at £410. I don't think I would do

LadyinCement · 21/07/2017 19:11

You see this is what pisses me off when people say, "I'm broke," or "I can't afford x,y,z" If someone can afford £400 four hundred pounds to go to the hairdresser's, then they are not short of money, they just choose to spend it on something else.

Actually this poster reminds me of mil. Went to the hairdresser's every single week, yet wouldn't pay for dh to go on school trips, because they had "no money".

SerfTerf · 21/07/2017 19:12

It's not about judgement, those are really poor decision making skills and impulse controls that you're exhibiting.

I hope you don't have children, because in all seriousness choosing hair extensions ahead of furniture and carpets is a concerning way of thinking.

BabychamSocialist · 21/07/2017 19:13

JESUS! Did Vidal Sassoon himself cut it?

I paid £32 for my last cut, blow and colour and had to lie down for about a week because of the price.

Maybe I'm just tight.

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 19:13

I haven't chose hair extensions over carpets.
I'm still getting carpets.
I've never said I wasn't.
My house now has all of the furniture I need which took 2 years to make it a home but now it is.

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SerfTerf · 21/07/2017 19:15

You said;

I think most people if they had a choice would rather treat themselves than buy carpets/furniture or whatever

which is what we're all commenting on as you well know

Frouby · 21/07/2017 19:16

I don't tip my hairdresser as she is the salon owner and very well off.

I do leave a couple of quid for the junior who shampoos me though because they are mostly trainees.

I wouldn't spend £400+ on hair extensions though. I would spend it on my family or save it for a rainy day.

Just grow your hair. Or live with it short.

And if I had that kind of money to spend on hair I would tip it up to a charity to help people afford wigs who have lost theirs.

Aridane · 21/07/2017 19:17

Your extensions look lovely Smile

Mulch · 21/07/2017 19:20

If you can spend 400 quid on hair extensions you can afford to private rent and let someone actually in need of social housing have a chance.

WonderLime · 21/07/2017 19:21

I'm so confused to be honest. On the one hand you say you can afford the carpets (£700) and the hair (£410), but can't possibly afford a tip on top of that.

On the other hand you say £380 for rent is a lot to you.

I don't begrudge you having such low rent and it's great that you seem to have some much spare cash lying about, but what exactly do you expect people to say when you are giving mixed 'I'm hard up, need every spare penny' but 'I can afford X/Y/Z'.

And as an aside, no I would never choose an entirely selfish treat over furniture/decorating/carpets given the choice, as I actually think making my home nice for everyone in it is important.

EC22 · 21/07/2017 19:22

I usually tip about a fiver. My hairdresser is very reasonable and absolutely deserves it.

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 19:23

I actually said it seemed like a lot to tip on top of £410 when you need to fork out for carpets.

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DonDrapersDeskDrawer · 21/07/2017 19:33

Some of the posts on this thread are rather ignorant towards people who live in council housing.

We live in a HA house but we aren't in poverty. We don't receive any benefits or tax credits as above the threshold. Many on this thread might say 'well then you can afford to private rent'. Financially, maybe. But we were in private rental, and the insecurity proved to be detrimental to our disabled daughter. The constant having to move left us in a situation where we almost had to move away from her hospital team and school and TA because there was no private accommodation in our area within budget. Continuing with private renting could have meant this same situation happening time and time again.

So we are saving to buy a house. Meanwhile, we are in a HA house. It won't be forever, we will buy but right now this is our choice. We are not cheating, the HA know our income and it is not means tested.

I get my hair done and we have even have little holidays. Not extravagant, but we need those little pleasures. We work hard and have a tough life. We will buy a house and I'll be very happy to see our current house to somebody else in need.

Please think about what else could be going on before you judge people for where they live. 😔

SerfTerf · 21/07/2017 19:36

That's not the point @DonDrapersDeskDrawer . Anyone sensible knows that that's all true.

The question is "what would a GF post?"