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Do you tip at hairdressers? I didn't and now I feel guilty

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Ashkey234 · 21/07/2017 16:51

I've just had my hair done,hair extensions at the hairdressers,altogether £410 and I didn't tip.
Should I of ?
I'm moving in the next few weeks and as its a council house I need to buy all new carpets as its basically a empty shell so i need every penny I can get really.
Do you tip?
And if so how much?

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requestingsunshine · 22/07/2017 20:41

This is totally fucked up.

FanjoForTheMammaries · 22/07/2017 20:45

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/07/2017 21:07

Grin Jealous ? Oh trust me Fanjo I am far from jealous. I would hate to be in her position but she is goady as has been said.

MaisyPops · 22/07/2017 22:00

fanjo I think what has wound people up isn't that she has spare money as such, more the slightly goady extra info designed to get a reaction so people are commenting based on the info she gives.

MSLehrerin · 22/07/2017 22:13

That's exactly it @MaisyPops 😕

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 22/07/2017 22:17

Exactly Maisy

I am sure that some of us could say why we are far from jealous but that would be very goady indeed. Also some that are far less fortunate than OP that are pissed off at her attitude.

FanjoForTheMammaries · 22/07/2017 22:18

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Jenna43 · 22/07/2017 22:57

You clearly DO have spare cash and your rent IS cheap, very very cheap, regardless of where you live

Seriously? So what? Are people in council houses not supposed to treat themselves to nice things every now and again? Wtf has OPs financial situation got to do with you or anyone else?

Jenna43 · 22/07/2017 22:58

Fluffypinkpyjamas

Jealous ? Oh trust me Fanjo I am far from jealous. I would hate to be in her position but she is goady as has been said

You really are coming across as jealous. Why on earth would you be so invested in how much money OP has or how cheap her rent is?

MSLehrerin · 22/07/2017 23:00

This is like Groundhog Day now....and the OP appears to have fecked off.

Sallystyle · 22/07/2017 23:39

I am sure that some of us could say why we are far from jealous but that would be very goady indeed. Also some that are far less fortunate than OP that are pissed off at her attitude.

Well, the less fortunate people should stop putting their issues onto the OP. I don't compare myself to people who are fortunate and feel bitter towards them because they have what I don't. Even if they start a thread asking about tipping after a £400 hairstyle and moving into a council house.

The OP is entitled to it. She is not playing the system. She would be mad to turn it down and private rent simply because she saved up £400 to get extensions for thinning hair which probably made her feel like crap.

It would have been better for the OP to not mention the price of the hair or the council home and start a thread about tipping in general. I am sure she has learnt from her mistake.

Know your place OP. You have a council house? How dare you save up for something that will bring you more confidence. You should be skint.

People can wrap it up in a tidy bow and pretend they are responding the way they are because the OP is 'goady' but It boils down to two things.

  1. You are bitter because you don't have what the OP has.
  1. You are a snob and want people in social housing to be so grateful to you taxpayers and you believe that if you are in social housing you better be dirt poor. After all, you taxpayers 'are subsidising her housing' How dare they actually be able to save up money!
doobree · 22/07/2017 23:47

OP showing her true colours.

OP asks for opinions on spending money, appears to have money concerns, turns out not to have money concerns, gets upset when people say YABU on said spending money AIBU and explain why they think that.

Instead of thinking, "oh, actually I am thankfully worrying about nothing and have lots to be positive and relieved about - hoorah!", OP thinks we are all just horrid jealous people who can't possibly understand how the world works.

Then some people are upset that we are commenting on the OP's financial situation - when that was the AIBU. I mean, what is up with that?!!!

Just another crazy day on MN!

doobree · 22/07/2017 23:55

Ad actually U2 and people who have posted a similar stance; it isn't about being jealous, it is about wishing that people who are doing OK could actually really appreciate that. Not about being grateful to society or the governent or feeling any guilt or anything weird, but actually just taking some perosonal comfort and gratitude from not being in the shit and keep a sense of proportion.

I know too many people who are actually doing OK or well or very well for themsleves and yet who get little to no comfort from it and can be massively anxious about nothing. It grates and especially when they then think that everyone with anxiety is also worrying about nothing (because deep down they do know their anxieties are unjustified). Some people really do have a hell of a lot to be anxious about.

Just know when you are well enough off, be thankful and stop worrying! And be sensitve to those who are having a worse time.

MaisyPops · 22/07/2017 23:58

doobree Exactly.
OP- I have money concerns and live in a council house (not relevant but I'll mention it for the bun fight) but have spent £400 on my hair
MN- £400 on hair?! If tipping would push it and you're saving up and needing every penny then surely that's insane!
OP- Why are you mentioning how much my hair costs?
MN- because you've said you have money issues and are struggling to fund repairs for a council property. It seems an odd priority really. If things were that tight (amd tight enough you're eligable for social rents whicb are hard to get) then half a grand on hair doesn't seem sensible.
OP- But I saved up! Why shouldn't I save up. You're only saying this because I'm in a COUNCIL house! And anyway it's because my partner earns a decent wage so I don't have money problems
MN- but YOU said you needed every penny!
OP- You're just snobs about people in council houses and are jealous that I can save up and have nice hair. Oh and you have no brain so nerrr!

CheshireChat · 23/07/2017 00:03

Hmm, thought OP couldn't afford the extraordinary private rent fees... And now they're virtually the same as the council ones.

However, my HA was actually higher than my current rent so it does happen.

Just don't believe the OP GF.

FlyingFox95 · 23/07/2017 00:10

Everything aside, £410 for hair extensions? You were ripped off.

More money than sense, evidently.

doobree · 23/07/2017 00:15

Ugh, its all bollocks. Think it has cured me of my too-anxious-about-really-serious-shit-to-it sleep though. I give up! Night all

ThePants999 · 23/07/2017 00:24

So happy to be a man sometimes. £410 would cover me for literally a decade of haircuts.

kel1234 · 23/07/2017 00:26

I always tip my hairdresser and nail lady

SerfTerf · 23/07/2017 00:39

It's not just the cost you need to worry about @ThePants999 . The thought of having a poor Russian or Indian woman's hair glued onto your own in tiny clumps is pretty revolting. However, it's a minority activity, so if you do have the luck to be reincarnated as a woman, don't panic.

CheshireChat · 23/07/2017 00:59

Serf I think that comment has put me off extensions for life ShockGrin.

Not that I actually planned on ever getting them, but whenever I'll see them advertised it's you I'll be thinking of Wink.

SerfTerf · 23/07/2017 01:12

Aw shucks Grin

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Ashkey234 · 23/07/2017 08:15

It's 2017 glued extensions are no more the application method of choice......
Before you move into private rent you need a bond and normally 1/2 months rent in advance you don't need that with L/A housing as you well now..that makes a big big difference.
And I've never once said anyone was jealous either...

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Ashkey234 · 23/07/2017 08:19

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MSLehrerin · 23/07/2017 09:10

@Ashkey234 it was PP who made the incorrect assumption that others were jealous of you.

Maybe next time you post about hair/nails etc irrelevant information like housing and salary could be left out? It's provoked the reaction you were perhaps looking for though.