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Original poster

About shagging a funeral director?

199 replies

6079SmithW · 21/07/2017 14:45

Online dating and I'm matched with a really nice man. I find him attractive, conversation is good, it's all going well ... until I find out that he is a funeral director Shock
I had to stop then. He touches dead people all day!
I know some people must shag funeral directors (unless they are all consequentially celibate??) but I don't think I could bring myself to go near one with a barge pole! AIBU?

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theundecided · 21/07/2017 17:37

Yabu. I'm sure he has a good shower after his day at work Confused

pinkstripe · 21/07/2017 17:39

I know a family of undertakers with their own chain of funeral parlours. Very nice people, and frikin loaded they are.

Redglitter · 21/07/2017 17:42

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest tbh. I think he could do better though

I have to agree. Thought (hoped) the thread was a wind up initially.

coldcanary · 21/07/2017 17:51

OP I married one Grin

Original poster
6079SmithW · 21/07/2017 17:54

coldcanary a funeral director or a Tory? Smile

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Andrewofgg · 21/07/2017 17:58

The hangman was usually a married man!

n0ne · 21/07/2017 18:00

I'd actually be more interested in a person if I found out they were a funeral director!

Original poster
6079SmithW · 21/07/2017 18:01

After reading through some of the replies on here (you know who you are Hmm) I have also realised I could never shag anyone who a) takes life way too seriously, b) has no sense of humour or c) is needlessly unkind to OPs people they don't even know Grin

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LilQueenie · 21/07/2017 18:02

yabu you won't catch anything.

Charley50 · 21/07/2017 18:05

My local funeral director is well dishy.

OneOfTheGrundys · 21/07/2017 18:05

A colleague of mine got a job as a funeral arranger. She was v keen until on a tour of the parlour they admitted to playing jokes on each other in the morgue room with the cadavers. She quietly declined the job offer at that point.
I think he'd be a lovely, sensitive man. Probably with a pretty good outlook on life?

user1476869312 · 21/07/2017 18:27

To be fair, some people are really creeped out/upset by all the trappings of death and bereavement. Yes, we're all going to die, and what's left has to be disposed of, and it's a very good thing that some people are prepared to deal with the aftermath of a finished life (not a million miles from the trade myself and currently looking to go back into it).

But it isn't anything the OP needs slagging off or shaming for. if she finds it offputting, she finds it offputting, end of.

BoysofMelody · 21/07/2017 18:28

Lets face it he won't ever be out of work

Let's hope he doesn't bring his work home with him.

I'd only baulk if he bought home came to the first date with a tape measure and declared oak, silver handles ... royal blue lining.

spiderlight · 21/07/2017 18:33

Funeral directors do one of the most important jobs in the world - helping and supporting bereaved families at the most difficult time of their lives, guiding them through the practicalities of death with compassion and dignity. I have immense respect and admiration for them. If it freaks you out, though, step away and let him find someone more compatible.

JustCallMeKate · 21/07/2017 18:43

My best friend is married to a gynaecologist. I asked her once how she felt being shagged by a man who had his hands up other women's fanny's all day. Her answer was "probably the same as you but my husband doesn't have his full arm up a cows one - you lose" We never spoke of our conversation ever again.

demirose87 · 21/07/2017 18:47

Personally it wouldn't put me off but we're allowed to date or not date whoever the hell we like, it's your right to turn him down if its something you feel strongly about

FirstSnowfall · 21/07/2017 18:53

My local funeral director is gorgeous and I'd date him in a heartbeat ❤️

Yabu, if it were me I'd be really interested in his job and what it entailed. I bet he has some funny stories actually. Could be a really interesting bloke.

Rinkydinkypink · 21/07/2017 18:56

Most funeral directors are lovely lovely people! Endless patience, really compassionate and polite.

Also he'll probably have a very sick sense of humour, be great fun.not take life seriously and be a good laugh.

Yabu!

Oh and he'll never be out of work and probably earns a good wage 😀

ClarkWGriswold · 21/07/2017 18:56

My friend is married to a funeral director. He is very handsome and very lovely.

Admirablenelson · 21/07/2017 19:00

HRTWT, but thank goodness there are people prepared to do this sort of work. Most of us would find it to be a stiff challenge.

Original poster
6079SmithW · 21/07/2017 19:00

Thank you user1476869312 Smile

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6079SmithW · 21/07/2017 19:02

JustCallMeKate I'm hoping your DH is a farmer? Otherwise you have a lot of explaining to do .. Grin

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historyismything · 21/07/2017 19:13

You sound like a right prick, he has had a lucky escape quite frankly!

EachandEveryone · 21/07/2017 19:16

Haven't you seen 6feet Under? Wouldn't bother me at all

ArcheryAnnie · 21/07/2017 19:47

someone who harvests skin

Bloody hell, MrsTerryPratchett, that's a real thing? Who does that and why?