About shagging a funeral director?

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Online dating and I'm matched with a really nice man. I find him attractive, conversation is good, it's all going well ... until I find out that he is a funeral director
I had to stop then. He touches dead people all day!
I know some people must shag funeral directors (unless they are all consequentially celibate??) but I don't think I could bring myself to go near one with a barge pole! AIBU?

YABU

Presumably you do things that require cleaning before sex....e.g. cleaning toilet or chopping meat?

All the FD's I know have cracking sense of humours and loads of great stories, as well as typically being really nice natured.

The positives are he will probably be a polite, respectful people person. Can't think of any negatives tbh. Doctors touch dead people too.

I hope you never date, doctors, nurses, paramedics, police, fire men, health care assistants, pathologists as they all handle dead bodies as part of the job.

Lol. Thanks Waffles

QuiteChic I know it is shallow - but as Vladimirs points out there are lots of shallow reasons we choose to date/not date people.

My problem is I just wouldn't be able to out it out of my mind (dead people that is). Doesn't anyone else feel squeamish about this stuff or is it just me? And if it doesn't bother you and you would shag a funeral director, are there any other occupations you feel similarly about and wouldn't shag?

No. Wouldn't bother me at all, wouldn't cross my mind tbh.

At least he'd never be out of a job.

How fucking pathetic . So what if he is a funeral director . He has a wonderful job and should be held in utmost respect for doing a job so many of us couldn't .

The funeral directors I know are lovely and have a brilliant sense of humour (we have a green field burial ground we rent to funeral directors ) . Brilliant guys they are

I know a few people involved in the funeral services. They are all kind, compassionate and very funny people. Yes they work with dead bodies but they deal with them in a sensitive way, mindful that they are clients loved ones - talking about it in a 'yuck you touch dead people' is a bit immature and insensitive.
Don't date him if you don't want to but don't use his profession as an excuse!

Vivienne/FrogsSit I have thought about that. Firefighters/police officers/doctors/nurses/paramedics aren't solely around dead people though. And they have a uniform

As long as it's not at work, it's fine

I think the profession generally attracts very caring, sympathetic types.

I'd imagine an FD to be a sensitive and respectful person.

I wouldn't date an abbatoir worker, but I would a funeral director or employee. The latter would have compassion, the former would not, so it's nothing to do with where their hands have been.

Doctors touch dead people. Would you shun a doctor ?

He could be the best shag of your life but ull never know now. So I think UABU.

I think you are crazy! He is likely to be exceptionally caring to be in such a profession. Your loss!

It's actually a very caring job. Your job isn't just the preparation of a deceased person's body, you have a duty and role to perform in caring for that deceased person's loved ones during the most acute stages of their grief. It takes such a sense of duty, compassion and understanding about life and death. I would find it just completely fascinating to hear about their experiences and also views on humanity.

But then I'm a HCP where I meet such breadth of people and a dead body is very much just a (last) fact of life.

Are you 14?

Funeral directors aren't solely around dead people either. They deal with the very real and alive family members etc.

YABVVVU.

I have a friend who is an FD.

He is a lovely, calm quiet soul who breeds delicate plants in his spare time and is literally one of the nicest, most respectful people I have ever met.

The fact he touches dead people makes him a better person.

What a shallow way to look at it.

Would you date a vet- who puts their hands up arses all day?
Or a nurse who frequently touches dead bodies?
Or a surgeon, who spends all day with his hands in peoples chest cavities??

Ah, cross posted re. doctors

It might be worth remembering that the funeral directors I am acquainted with are absolutely minted

What Astella22 says - isn't there a known effect that people often want to go home and shag straight after a funeral as a kind of subconscious "one in the eye for death"? :-)

Grow up

Cucking I agree. He does a wonderful job and should be held in utmost respect for doing a job so many of us couldn't . I still would be able to shag him without thinking about dead people though.