About shagging a funeral director?

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Online dating and I'm matched with a really nice man. I find him attractive, conversation is good, it's all going well ... until I find out that he is a funeral director
I had to stop then. He touches dead people all day!
I know some people must shag funeral directors (unless they are all consequentially celibate??) but I don't think I could bring myself to go near one with a barge pole! AIBU?

Thanks Vladimirs

You're just not that into him. Maybe you're just looking for a reason to end things because you know deep down that you won't be going the distance.

You don't have to date anyone you don't want to, for whatever reason, even if it's a completely inconsequential, shallow reason (he has tassles on his shoes, or says the word "basically" too much in conversation, or doesn't like Abba).

Having said that, I can't see him being a funeral director being a problem for me or most people. Kind person, steady worker, all the rest of it.

But if it's a dealbreaker for you, then it's a dealbreaker for you.

I sorta get it. Sorta

But I can't articulate why

But if he's hot and well mannered, I'd soon get over it

Seriously? Who cares what job they do, as long as they have a pulse, I'm game!

Greebols that's is so funny but is a favourite trick of fds

Op. Are you on something? You couldn't shag a surgeon a funeral director or a Tory?

So how long have you been single for then?

coldcanary do tell!

OP, maybe you missed the 'light-hearted' out of your post but I am astonished to think that some posters think you should continue to date someone that you don't want to.

Nobody should be made to date anyone they do not want to. But it is possible people could have reasons for this that are irrational or prejudicial, and this can be analysed.

I think objecting to a FD might come under "irrational" but one's psychological blocks are what they are.

Not related directly but I could never live in a place from which one of the windows a graveyard can be seen. I know it is irrational but I have a feeling it would bother me to think about it whenever I saw it.

Have you ever touched a dead animal? Maybe a chicken, bits cut off a cow possibly?

Even though it seems grim because of the way we see death, imagine how the world would be if no one did his job. Would that make shagging someone you find attractive better?

There are lots of professions that would put me right off, but funeral direcctor isn't one of them. Though, obviously, OP gets to reject anyone, for any reason, as does everyone - it's just a bit silly to be all 'Ewww, bodies!'.

I would never, ever date the following:
Bailiff (ethics and you need to be a shit to do that job)
Homeopath or any other woo-peddler (if you're not a fucking moron you're a fucking scammer).
Religious officiant (priest, imam, rabbi etc) I'm a hardline atheist so we just wouldn't get on.

I worked for a funeral company when I was temping and at first I was a bit concerned but after 6 months I was sad to leave the place - it was full of joy and amazing people. I had to call each funeral home every day and I remember they would be so friendly or tell jokes down the phone. I loved the place and 20 years on it was still one of my favourite jobs. Tbh, if you work in that "trade" you are more likely to embrace life and your date sounds amazing!

Why would you be thinking of dead people when you are with him? I don't think of dead carcasses at a butcher's or where my doctors hands have been when I visit them. A job is a job.

Unless he's asking to you to roleplay and pretend you are dead while shagging you in a coffin I can't see what the problem is.

Not sure how you can be squeamish about something you have nothing to do with?

I bet he is wedged

Bonez- that's what I was thinking . I see the point if he lived in the funeral parlour and you'd be around actual corpses time to time.

How would you feel about a gynaecologist then?

If it bothers you, it bothers you, nothing to do with what anyone else would think.

I'd bang a funeral director.

Just to mention if he is a funeral director he might not be actually handling just officiating in his duties.

oh that is a weird one. I suppose death is a part of life. It's unavoidable. I think I'd rather undertaker to gynaecologist!

someone has to do it and they usually earn good money too, i believe.
it wouldnt bother me at all, but then i would be asking loads of questions and be interested in all the stories they have about their job!

This is a highly personal thing. If you're not comfortable you're not comfortable. Doesn't matter that others would be.

Like others, the people I have met that deal with dead bodies (FD, someone who harvests skin) are utterly lovely. And very funny. And it's interesting.

Don't shag anyone you don't want to. Obviously. But you might be missing a trick!

My friend is married to a funeral director. He is loaded and she's been able to give up her boring job and start her dream bed and breakfast in an outbuilding on their sprawling estate. So....

You're squeamish about bodies?
How do you get on with your own? You know, the thing you're sitting inside right now?

YABU