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To not answer the door if I don't want to?

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Meowstro · 21/07/2017 10:43

Just that really. I don't answer the door (on a busy road) unless I'm expecting a parcel or someone to pop in which would have been arranged or they can call once there. I don't even pretend I'm not in, I just don't care. AIBU?

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Mulledwine1 · 21/07/2017 11:27

I live in RL as well as on MN and I quite often don't answer my door if I am not expecting a parcel. If I can see there's a courier outside I will open the door as my DH might have ordered something.

I don't want to be disturbed by people trying to sell me things.

I live in a no cold calling area but they've always got an excuse as to why it does not apply to them. I don't understand why they won't just put leaflets through the door.

I'm also on the TPS.

Human interaction isn't always a nice or pleasant thing and being hassled to have your driveway cleaned or be phoned by someone trying to scam you is interaction I am more than happy to avoid.

wrenika · 21/07/2017 11:27

I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting something. I will have a quick look through the peephole and if it's not some variety of delivery man, or maybe the gasman coming to check the meter, then I don't bother answering. Chances are, anyone else is trying to sell you something and I can't be bothered with that!

Wide0penSpace · 21/07/2017 11:27

I can see my front door throughly kitchen window. If I don't know the person I don't answer either! It's usually canvassers with clipboards or jehovers witnesses.

CommonSenseIsNotAllThatCommon · 21/07/2017 11:28

I don't live in the nicest of areas so I have a spyhole in my door. If I'm not expecting anyone or recognise the person I just ignore it.

cjt110 · 21/07/2017 11:29

I live in an apartment with CCTV on the door. I don't have to answer the door fullstop.

Fucking annoying when your buzzer goes and it's for your bloody neighbours though... they have the same door number as us but A///so we're 105 and they're 105A. I got fed up of it when I was on mat leave s stuck a big sign near the buzzer saying what number to dial for the neighbours.

Whats worse is when some fucker lets Christian Aid in and they actually knock your door and you're caught unaware. I answer our door if it's knocked as it's usually a neighbour. Not this time. A whole team of bods in red jackets. GET out!

fleshmarketclose · 21/07/2017 11:29

I look through the peephole to determine they aren't chuggers or Jehovah's Witnesses before I open the door tbh. Other than for those I answer the door though.

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AppalachianWalzing · 21/07/2017 11:32

I think YABU. We were broken into a while ago, because we're a terrace they must have come In through the back gardens of one of the houses backing on to us so we knocked into those neighbours who we hadn't met before to give them a heads up.

One was clearly in but didn't come to the door. It was a bit odd- I can understand if you're in pjs, or the middle of something, but basically we wanted to pass on info the police had given about the break ins and generally be a bit helpful.

We've had some nice surprises and found out some useful information from people knocking on the door unexpectedly,, it seems an odd way to cut yourself off not to engage.

SpookyBookey · 21/07/2017 11:35

When I was 10 my parents ignored the door, turns out the builders extending out local supermarket (10 doors down) had gone through a gas main and they were evacuating the surrounding area.

The look of sheer horror from the builders when mum went driving down the road two hours later Grin although she had great fun being escorted the wrong way up the road by the police.

I learnt then to always answer the door, you never know!

MrsOverTheRoad · 21/07/2017 11:35

YANBU I don't answer mine either. Unless I'm expecting a delivery...or a specific visitor.

I don't have's my house.

eddiemairswife · 21/07/2017 11:40

Back in the olden days when houses had garden gates I remember seeing little plaques on some gates saying, "No hawkers, pedlars, canvassers." I knew what a pedlar was, but had no idea about the other two.
I always answer my door.

meddie · 21/07/2017 11:40

I once witnessed a hit and run (early mobile phone days) the guy was bleeding profusely from an nearly amputated foot. I ran up and down the road knocking on doors to get someone to phone for an ambulance and the police. No one answered. People actually looked out of their windows and just refused to come to the door. We only managed to get help because a passing motorist stopped who had a car phone.

MrsOverTheRoad · 21/07/2017 11:42

Meddle that's awful! What area were you in?

thereallochnessmonster · 21/07/2017 11:43

Yes, YABVVU. But it's up to you.

(Why is this a thing on MN??)

HeffalumpsnWoozles · 21/07/2017 11:44

I tend to ignore the door if its one of our neighbours ever since she popped round and pinched my cheek once? She always comes in for a hug after every interaction (I'm not a hugger!) I once opened the door without make up and she looked shocked, the next time I saw her she asked if I was ok as I looked like a different person the last tie she saw me.

Strange woman started telling me I had a good aura and that my father loved me very much she could just tell...he'd been dead 10 years & long before I moved in.

We get a lot of religious callers and a fair few callers trying to sign you up to Direct Debit's for a charity. I have started ignoring the door more and more.

Viviennemary · 21/07/2017 11:47

I don't like unexpected people knocking either. But I nearly always answer the door. I think it's a bit rude not to.

Kittychatcat · 21/07/2017 11:48

I've got a no cold caller sign by my doorbell. Some people still ignore it or pretend they didn't see it. I always tell them off because I walk with sticks or use a wheelchair and it's a real faff to get to the door. My wheelchair ramp should be enough of a clue that I'm disabled but they don't care. Sometimes by the time I get to the door they are gone but I still call after them when they are halfway down the road!

Moanyoldcow · 21/07/2017 11:51

It's not unreasonable, it's weird.

chips4teaplease · 21/07/2017 11:51

I don't answer the door or the phone unless I'm expecting someone. If I am curious about who is at the door, I go to an upper window, open it, look down at them and question them. They soon go away.

Am I strange? Possibly. But also practical.

Miserylovescompany2 · 21/07/2017 11:53

I'm another one who ignores the door. If you haven't arranged said visit, you ain't coming in...

If it's so important then text me, leave a note etc...

I lock my door whilst in as I've children with ASD and a toddler all of which would quite happily wander off!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 21/07/2017 11:53

YANBU. I don't answer the door to anyone unexpected.

Brittbugs80 · 21/07/2017 11:54

We have a no cold callers sign up and a nest cam. I usually know if someone now visiting and as soon as anyone gets on the bottom of the drive, it pings on my phone to tell me. I don't always answer the door if it's someone I don't know.


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Oldraver · 21/07/2017 11:54

I tend to ignore the chuggers/Jehovahs anyone with a clipboard.

It can be amusing when they see you through the window so they know you're there but not answering...I had one come an tap on the window once and I just shook my head

thecatneuterer · 21/07/2017 11:55

I hate this. I work in animal rescue. I often have to knock on doors to see if I can get access to a back garden where there is, for example, an injured animal or to get information on colonies of cats breeding in back gardens. People look out of their windows at me sometimes and then don't answer the door. I'm small, female, wearing something that says 'animal rescue team' and look totally non-threatening. I don't understand it.

Once I had to tell someone that we believed a cat had fallen down his chimney. Again he refused to answer the door even though he was in. Even if you don't care about cats no one wants one to die behind their fireplace - the smell! Another time I had to tell someone that their cat had been killed on the road. They were obviously in, they wouldn't answer the door. Eventually I had to yell 'your cat is dead!' through the letterbox.

Another time I was sure that some people in a house had picked up a week old kitten from their garden. We had the mother and other kittens but knew there was one missing. I knocked and knocked and rang and shouted. I knew someone was in. I kept it up for around 20 minutes. Eventually they opened the door and sure enough there was the kitten that they were leaving to die behind a pile of boxes in their kitchen. They were happy that someone had come to sort it out, but they really had no intention of opening the door. I just don't understand it.

AngelaTwerkel · 21/07/2017 11:57

Why is this a thing on MN??

MN isn't populated by robots, people who post here actually do live in the real world!

I can't get my head around this either - just answer the door and say no. Unless it's a constant stream of people?

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