Pass remarkable sales assistant??

[BitchinBlack]

So I took 16month old DS for a pair of new shoes today to a local shop. The sales assistant seen fit to comment "what?? He's not walking yet? (With a shocked look on her face) He really should be at that age"
DS is sofa surfing and walking with support he just hasn't taken of independently yet. I am absolutely livid and I gave her a good dressing down, so was I unreasonable??

No DIYNOVICE because that would be a really odd thing to do. Why you think I am clutching at straws I have no idea. I have not asked for any 'evidence' and it's you that is starting to sound ridiculous now.

Maybe the OP will come back at some point and fill in the gaps for us...

She was rude and OP has been ruder.

Can I say "my toddler is particularly pass remarkable in ladies' changing rooms"?

Frankly don't have a strong opinion on the actual op. Generally comments like "oh isn't he walking yet?" are a very bad idea, but you do end up looking like the batshit lairy woman if you can't keep your cool and be civil about it, (I've read what the op says she said to the shop assistant and it doesn't sound civil "I came here for shoes not a health check" - rude). Both were slightly badly behaved imo, but I've heard worse.

I really wanted to come on to say that I use the phrase pass-remarkable ! I got it from my mum (from Ulster), who would now be 63 if she were alive. I'm 33. Wonder if the op is from Ulster? Sorry if I've missed the bit where she says where she's from.

It pisses me off how people are looked down on who work in retail i will admit i was not very academic and just fell into it but i have never been unemployed in the 30 years since i left school...you should show some respect because you never know what someone is dealing with.

OP may be in Ulster but it's also a phrase that my parents and others used here in Scotland too.

But they also had relatives from Norther Ireland!

Like I say I haven't heard it in years but it brought back memories of childhood when we got into trouble for making "personal comments" in public "Don't be so pass-remarkable Salmotrutta"

Haven't heard my folks or anyone saying for a long time.

Salmo I very nearly put "don't be so pass-remarkable" in my last post! I can just hear my mother saying exactly that to me as a pass-remarkable pre-teen .

Only wine a chocolates? I give my low pay grade shoe salespeople champagne and fresh lobster tails

Yabu, I imagine the lady sees a lot of children, she was just surprised, it's not nice to have your child judged I get it, but you sound like you handled it wrong & very defensive.

Dear OP not rtft but don't make assumptions about people's intelligence based on their job and "pay grade". You have no idea what their background is and why they are doing that role.

People don't always work in jobs commensurate with their qualifications because of lots of reasons.

Decaff - I know!

I'm long past the age of Mum ticking me off for stuff (thank Gawd) but I can still hear it too in my head

All you had to say was he was born prematurely as is still catching up! of course 16 months is quite late to not be walking yet she was probably just curious to know why (maybe so she could do a better job in future?) but curiosity doesn't deserve a 'dressing down' just a simple answer would have sufficed. Get down off your high horse and back with reality!

"Brainless" and "above her paygrade". You're a piece of work, OP, if that's what you think of people in retail. I'm in retail management, earn above minimum wage, thanks, and my two (not relevant but hard earned, well regarded subject) degrees and I were prepared to say YANBU although you possibly over reacted and she probably didn't mean to be quite so tactless. Everyone weighs in when you have DC and things can touch a nerve. Instead, YABVVU for your judgemental, presumptuous attitude.

No chocolates in the world would make up for what you just said - and did. Most retail staff are used to people who have been shockingly rude then being syrupy fake nice. We remember people who do it (flag them up as nightmare customers) and I would have binned your chocolates in front of my staff if you'd turned up after speaking to us like that, to demonstrate that we don't truly give in to people like you despite having to humour you. And to show them precisely what your chocolates are; an empty gesture from yet another overgrown brat-woman who thinks their best Shirley Temple number can out weigh the memory of their Verucca Salt real self (who still thinks we're all thick as pig shit).

Sparkling -

What type of facts exactly would be satisfying to you?

Any really DIYNOVICE. Lots of unanswered questions. By the way why are you singling me out?

I always tip the lady who helps us

Dear me. Does this really happen? I've never heard of that before. And, I've actually worked in a shoe shop, for about a year, after university.

Anything other than a sales assistant.
She wasn't sitting behind a checkout at Tesco scanning random items, she was working in a shoe shop, where, presumably, she'll have been trained to fit shoes correctly and sold a hell of a lot of children's first shoes.
If she was surprised, it suggests it's something she doesn't see too often.

I cannot imagine anyone buying their husbands shoes, just because I cannot imagine buying any shoes without trying them on.

For the same reason I don't understand buying shoes on-line.

As for pre-walking shoes and how they shouldn't have shoes until they are actaully walking - did none of your furniture cruisers every step foot on the ground outside?

Mine used to cruise the stuff at the lpayground, walk holding my hands in the park, etc etc.
So - shoes off at home, but out and about they wanted to put their feet down

thegoodnames sums it up perfectly* with get a life you silly bitch.* 😀

I'm in NI. People here use 'pass remarkable' all the time, although I suppose it's maybe a bit old fashioned. My mum and MIL say it A LOT (sometimes about each other!)

Oops weird random bold fail there!

I've heard and used pass-remarkable, I'm Irish so it's not just a Scottish thing. I also have a friend who dropped chocolates into a shoe shop at Christmas, but it was because they'd made a special effort to order something in her size for a Christmas party which was in the sale when I guess they don't usually transfer sale goods between shops.

Confused also about what's wrong with the word salon (assuming it normally has 'hair' in front of it) and realising yet again that no matter how many years I spend in England I still won't fully grasp how much of my speech is hiberno-English and will get me a funny look.

This is soooo funny. OP you sound like a total fruit loop- I bet they couldn't wait to get you out of the shop.

You can have a hair salon, or maybe a beauty salon, dog grooming or tanning. Lots of salons.

God almighty.

16 months is NOT late. It is still in the average range. So everyone with their little comments how it's-not-late-but-actually-it is-late are just plain wrong. There is a range. 18 months and not walking, that's late.

There are shoes for kids as they cruise. Why is that so shocking to everyone in here. What planet do you all live on.

havalina My Mum and aunty (twins) refused to walk until 18 months, when my great uncle put the on the other side of the room and held out two biscuits