Pass remarkable sales assistant??

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So I took 16month old DS for a pair of new shoes today to a local shop. The sales assistant seen fit to comment "what?? He's not walking yet? (With a shocked look on her face) He really should be at that age"
DS is sofa surfing and walking with support he just hasn't taken of independently yet. I am absolutely livid and I gave her a good dressing down, so was I unreasonable??

Plus, what exactly is wrong with working in this job? 

You have to deal with knobheads!!! Nothing wrong with the job PP, it's when you get snooty customers, they think you're their servant!

This is hilarious. I needed a laugh this morning! Never got my husband shoes and we've been together nearly ten years. He's a grown man!
And I agree you have absolutely no idea what background she has. She made an innocent comment and you've blown it up completely

But is it an 'innocent comment'? Who is really so dim that they are unable to imagine how commenting critically on someone's child's development might possibly cause offence? Is the sales assistant exempt from thinking before she speaks??

Hopkins is that you?

I agree, it's not a wholly "innocent" comment. How hard is it for anyone to work out that a child who is walking late may have a disability or serious health problems? Let alone the manager of a shoe shop catering for children.

I disagree. Your pay grade is whatever you are employed as at any given time.

Ladyflumpalot That's all very interesting... but I'm not sure it's totally relevant. Are you suggesting that if the sales assistant really was 'just a sales assistant' and not, say, an accountant on a sabbatical, then being condescending to her would be ok?? No, I didn't think so. The 'pay grade' comment was inappropriate and uncalled for; I think we all know that. We should obviously be equally polite to all people. But OP didn't make the pay grade comment to the employee whereas the employee did make the disparaging comment about the child's development to the mother.

No, @MerchantofVenice I'm not saying that at all. I'm saying that the OP shouldn't judge that someone is beneath her or doesn't have relevant knowledge because of the job they do. Apologies if anyone found my post condescending, was not my intention at all.

Pass remarkable - a phrase often used by my parents generation here in Scotland.

Not heard it in years!

Thanks OP!

OP you have no choice but to strike that bloody shoe shop off of your chrimbo list now!

There was nothing wrong with your post LadyFlumpalot I think it's a common assumption that retail staff are only in the job because they are unqualified for anything else.

I'm irish and use pass remarkable frequently as in " she's quite pass remarkable " when someone feels the need to give unasked for opinions or comments on other people's choices for no apparent reason. It's a nice Way of saying someone is a nosey cunt.

Sparkling - Well yes, I agree totally with you now. The Sales assistant was actually a secret Paediatric consultant, so of course her comments and shock we're valid.

OP sounds like a snob!!

I find it impossible to believe that anyone 'does' buy their husband's shoes. Disability and agoraphobia apart, why would you!??

Gosh some people have trouble imagining lives different to their own. I can think of 5-6 reasons right off the top of my head. Including, but not limited to:

Different work hours, making it easier for one to get to the shops.

A caring and considerate offer to do something for a partner you love.

One person enjoys shopping and clothes more than the other.

One partner is parenting the kids at home while the other gets to enjoy a quiet trip to the shops and picks up shoes while there.

Buying fancy shoes as a gift.

One partner is physically less able and finds walking round the shops tiring, so asks the other to choose some shoes for them.

I find it impossible to believe that anyone 'does' buy their husband's shoes. Disability and agoraphobia apart, why would you!??

Lots of women do this for their husbands. We're often the ones in town/shopping centres a lot more and can just pick them up.

I've never picked up a pair of shoes I didn't know DH liked/wanted though... Certainly wouldn't just 'buy' him shoes.

The Sales assistant was actually a secret Paediatric consultant

Nobody knows do they?

I thought "pass remarkable" was a typo for "to pass remark about" or something. I have never heard that phrase in my life.

The sales assistant was a bit thoughtless and should know that babies do things in their own time. It's not a competition fgs. We all know this so I would just treat her comment as ignorance. No need to get worked up.

I tend to buy all DH's clothes and underwear, though not shoes as he has unusual feet and needs a special fit.

I'm calling bullshit on the taking in chocolates and wine to a shoe shop at Christmas?!😂 who does that??
All you needed to say in response to the ladies (totally innocuous) comment was 'yes it is a bit later than is typical to be walking but he was born quite prematurely so sometimes milestones are later'
Pitching a fit and being so rude is batshit.
And I generally find that anyone who has to proclaim how 'nice' they are is generally the exact opposite....

The Sales assistant was actually a secret Paediatric consultant

Nobody knows do they?

No. So let's just stick with the facts for now shall we?

God people who are rude to others because they feel like they are just there to serve need a punch.

I have worked in retail, I'm also a qualified University lecturer and needed the money when I was doing my (various) degrees.

Snooty madams like you have absolutely no idea who you are dealing with and more fool you if you think that just because somebody is working in a shop they must be a brainless moron.

You will definitely be being referred to as 'that rude cow with the wine and chocolate' by the staff

No. So let's just stick with the facts for now shall we?

Of which there are very few.

Sparkling - Are you expecting the OP to send you the woman's job description /offer letter in the post? What 'evidence' exactly are you expecting to confirm she was anything other than a Sales assistant?

Some desperate straw clutching on your part and quite frankly ridiculous.

This thread has made my morning so far.

Somebody who owns a "salon" giving someone a 'dressing down'........
Haven't heard 'pass remarkable' for years. My mum uses it and I'll now need to see if I can get it in to conversation at least twice today.
The Enid Blyton language and 'above her pay scale' hahahahaha fantastic.
Tipping and chocolate and wine in retail....

Belter.