AIBU to think OH is either being a dick or having an affair?

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Point 2 is unlikely but never impossible.
I needed to call him to ask about an Ocado order (how mundane).
We have the Life360 app which tracks where our family circle is at any time and it's real time and also sends a message when anyone leaves home or gets home. It's useful to know when people are arriving back for various things like mealtime planning but I don't watch it like a hawk. Sometimes I'll acknowledge that OH or DD have left home or college and if I need an ETA I might physically and specifically check location. Other than that, not much though given.
OH hadn't realised that his every move was tracked and started moaning about this last week and I didn't give it any thought because it wasn't important at the time.
I just went to see when he's due back as I'm cooking and also doing the Ocado order with my free hand and he's travelling from two counties away today and saw his location was not known. I was going to ask him for our £15 off voucher order and checkout the delivery. So I called him and got that info but also asked if he's logged out of Life360. He's said he deleted the app entirely as he's not comfortable.

I said "I'm not the Government FFS" and then after mutual huffing talked about other stuff and then stirred my rice.

aibu to think he's being really precious or having an affair. The affair bit is tonguw in cheek but then I thought well, he could actually be.

Irritated either way.

In honesty OP, I wouldn't tolerate an app that tracked me everywhere I went. The idea makes me feel watched.

I wouldn't want to be tracked either - you aren't his mother and he's not 10

Leave him alone!!

Got to be honest I wouldn't want my oh tracking my every move. Might be good for kids (didn't know this was a thing so thanks for the heads up) but it would make me feel invaded. I'm not having an affair and nor would I, I just think it's a bit creepy.

I would absolutely hate that app 😨 and I'm not having an affair. Not really because oh knows where I am just the fact that's possible for you to see who else can track my every step. Also I always turn off location on my phone.
I just find it creepy 😣😮😕

If I had this on my phone and my DP was tracking it I would 100% delete it. There needs to be a level of trust in any relationship and I wouldn't want to feel my every movement was being watched.

I'd delete it.

To be fair I would never have agreed to install it in the first place.

How creepy, I would be angry to find out I was being tracked!

I've no time for or interest in an affair but I'd be horrified if DH suggested such an app. If he wants to know where I am (which he never does) he can just call me and I'll tell him honestly. I just like to do my own thing as an independent adult sometimes. It also gives us something to talk about over meals!

He could be having an affair, he could just take secret naps in the car so tells you he'll be home in 2 hours when really he'd be home me quicker if he didn't nap 😄 (I know someone who does this).

But I'd delete it too, it's unnecessary and I wouldn't like it.
My friend and her husband have a similar thing and he texts her when we're out to say things like 'how's the food in X?' Because he can see that's where we've stopped for lunch. I think it's bloody weird

I refuse to have any of these location/shared apps. completely intrusive and creep me out. Don't blame your dh in the slightest!

Oh dear God, why would anyone agree to be tracked?

YABU. Your dh is the normal one.

Don't want to cheat. Don't want to be monitored like a pet either.

We have that app because OH shagged someone when he said he was somewhere else.

HTH.

I would absolutely not tolerate being tracked.

YABU.

You can't be serious?! There's no way I would like this and no, I'm not having an affair!

YABU. I'd not want to be tracked either. Jeez.

My husband used to very occasionally log into find my iPhone on my iPad to see if I'd left work yet (I often work late, and usually leave my phone in my locker or on silent so don't answer it reliably). I HATED it - felt so much more intrusive than a "have you left yet?" text. I'd never install that app.

I have it OP. Well, a similar Google thing. My DH and I 'share our location' with eachother and I find it really useful too. He would never remember to text "just leaving work" but I use it every day to time dinner for when he's home.

However, it seems like your DH is not the only one that has a problem with it. He should have told you that he was deleting it though.

Wow that's seriously creepy. Stalker heaven. Why on earth is such an app even necessary? There's no way I would want to use it. Your DH is absolutely roght to delete it. Big Brother has arrived!

No way would I want something like that. Why the need to know where someone is all the time? Interestingly there was a thread a while ago where a guy felt uncomfortable that his wife wanted him to have a tracker app and there was lots of 'whats wrong with it, what do you have to hide' responses!

Did he agree to the app in the first place? Or was it your idea and he wasnt keen?

I'm not tracking him though 99% of the time it just saves calling him if he's driving/still in a meeting, etc. And he received an invite to the app which explained the deal and he agreed to so I'm a bit perplexed as to why it's suddenly an issue.

We don't share emails or FB accounts or anything else weird or controlling, this was just handy.

He can see me, and tbh I don't suspect he cares to view where I am as I don't him other than for useful purpose.

I don't mind so much that he doesn't want to use it but now it's an issue, its an ISSUE iyswim.

There's every chance he'll end up having an affair eventually to escape the stalking lunatic he is married to if you don't stop (joking/ish)

Good idea to have young kids on it, but agree with everyone else - there is no need at all for adults in partnership to be able to track each other 24/7.

I wouldn't like this, and I have nothing to hide (WTF has time for that, anyway?!).