AIBU to think OH is either being a dick or having an affair?

[Ahardyfool]

Point 2 is unlikely but never impossible.
I needed to call him to ask about an Ocado order (how mundane).
We have the Life360 app which tracks where our family circle is at any time and it's real time and also sends a message when anyone leaves home or gets home. It's useful to know when people are arriving back for various things like mealtime planning but I don't watch it like a hawk. Sometimes I'll acknowledge that OH or DD have left home or college and if I need an ETA I might physically and specifically check location. Other than that, not much though given.
OH hadn't realised that his every move was tracked and started moaning about this last week and I didn't give it any thought because it wasn't important at the time.
I just went to see when he's due back as I'm cooking and also doing the Ocado order with my free hand and he's travelling from two counties away today and saw his location was not known. I was going to ask him for our £15 off voucher order and checkout the delivery. So I called him and got that info but also asked if he's logged out of Life360. He's said he deleted the app entirely as he's not comfortable.

I said "I'm not the Government FFS" and then after mutual huffing talked about other stuff and then stirred my rice.

aibu to think he's being really precious or having an affair. The affair bit is tonguw in cheek but then I thought well, he could actually be.

Irritated either way.

Used to have this heer but for peaceful reasons as we had children who had a lengthly commute to school by train and it was geo-fenced that's to say if it went out of a predetermined area it would flag up a warning to say that all's not well.

However in this instance?.

Don't trust it whats to stop him leaving his phone at work meanwhile pissing around with Ms A N (Bit on the side) Other ?. Phone him?. Yep and his phone is set on divert to a burner phone?.

Agree. He knew because he also joined me in persuading teenage children of the family to install it! Then he claims he's uncomfortable. Fine but seriously why install it in the first place and why agree it's useful only to delete it because of some moral principle. I won't raise it again but I do find it strange in an otherwise open, relaxed and non controlling family dynamic.

Wow, seriously theres apps that do that. Who in their right mind would sign up fir it. Big brother. Ive just returned to a dumb phone and dh and i love leaving our phones at home. Try it op...its liberating!!

Your reasons for using the app are weird. There is no need for it whatsoever

I find it more strange that you'd need such an app in an open, relaxed, non-controlling family, tbh.

That sounds utterly useless... what difference would it make if the kids were 10 minutes away or an hour away if their tea was already going cold?

Actually I've changed my mind OP. My partner and I don't have the App so we spend every evening crying into a bowl of cold rice, just wishing there was some solution.

Guepe

Also location services can just be way, way off.

I can see the benefit in having it on kids phones and I wouldnt have minded having it from a safety point of view when I did mobile beauty work but I wouldn't expect my oh to have this. It's a bit odd.

can't you use SNAPCHAT like everyone else lol x

Actually I've changed my mind OP. My partner and I don't have the App so we spend every evening crying into a bowl of cold rice, just wishing there was some solution.

@anyfucker

I can appreciate that but it's just manic in our house generally and I find it helpful on certain occasions. I like that they can track me if I go running on my own (we are pretty remote though live in a village) and we've used the find iPhone thing before we had this for OH too if he's on a long run. We've both had incidents where something has happened on a run and we've needed help. Me in the woods when the dog knocked me flying and I hit my head on rocks (didn't have any app then so had to scramble slowly back to my car) and OH when he was marathon training and needed me to bring him a kit Kat and water because he was ill from lack of fuel. These aren't the most regular uses but I thought we were all cool with how it could be helpful.

I go off trail , back of beyond, hiking and I am super accident prone. If anything were to happen to me in the back country , he would be able to find me. I often go on spontaneous excursions, and have been injured/stranded before

Wow Beachykeen you are certainly a risk taker Id be anxious af in your DH's place - he can find you but he's not with you, you are alone and in danger. I suppose the app is good if he wants to get emergency services to you tho

Aside from that I don't see the need for such an app generally. Can't decide whether its a good thing or not. People manage without, don't they? Whats wrong with a quick call/text? After all movements must be similar daily with nothing too out of the ordinary.

I suppose its good for tracking DCs. I can imagine me at 14 or so being mortified at being tracked by my parents, and finding loads of ways to dodge it

I've never even heard of these apps. Im off to look up info

That App is a complete privacy nightmare. Step back from the app, OP. Step away from the App. It is taking over your life.

I make tea - they are either in and eat it or out and eat when they get home

I am not sitting waiting to gauge their location in order to exact tea at X time

If I'm cooking and they want to eat it - they need to be home at 'tea time'

The other issue is if DS is with X Y Z and friend A is not and is therefore tracking them then it causes no end of issues!!'

You don't need this in your life and clearly your DH doesn't either

wish I'd never mentioned the rice. It was quite nice (whilst warm) 😉

I am sorry but that is so big brother.

Struggling with this whole tracking idea... if you cant relax and feel the need to track someone for reasons mentioned above like they work away then you maybe need to reassess your relationship surely 😂 The lack of trust/paranoia would drive me mad. If someone is going to cheat then like many others said there is ways round it !!

I totally cannot use snapchat. OH checks teenage son's Snapchat periodically (due to previous inappropriate use though this now makes us look like the biggest and worst big brother family!) and I just get weird snapchat messages from the man I bought our shepherds hut off

wow.. every imaginable excuse under the sun.. is being dragged out.. to justify the NEED for this tracking App... give it up OP....

nobody's buying the need for it x

DH suggested that app for us. I said no fucking way was my every move being tracked and he didn't need to know where I am every second of the day. OP, I don't blame him for deleting it.

You sound so middle class OP

Genuine reasons. But I will survive, granted.