AIBU to think OH is either being a dick or having an affair?

[Ahardyfool]

Point 2 is unlikely but never impossible.
I needed to call him to ask about an Ocado order (how mundane).
We have the Life360 app which tracks where our family circle is at any time and it's real time and also sends a message when anyone leaves home or gets home. It's useful to know when people are arriving back for various things like mealtime planning but I don't watch it like a hawk. Sometimes I'll acknowledge that OH or DD have left home or college and if I need an ETA I might physically and specifically check location. Other than that, not much though given.
OH hadn't realised that his every move was tracked and started moaning about this last week and I didn't give it any thought because it wasn't important at the time.
I just went to see when he's due back as I'm cooking and also doing the Ocado order with my free hand and he's travelling from two counties away today and saw his location was not known. I was going to ask him for our £15 off voucher order and checkout the delivery. So I called him and got that info but also asked if he's logged out of Life360. He's said he deleted the app entirely as he's not comfortable.

I said "I'm not the Government FFS" and then after mutual huffing talked about other stuff and then stirred my rice.

aibu to think he's being really precious or having an affair. The affair bit is tonguw in cheek but then I thought well, he could actually be.

Irritated either way.

Gosh, hadnt realised what a minority we are and how strongly people feel. Neither of us view it as controlling or an invasion of privacy etc. Its hardly used but extemely useful at times when it is.

I would hate to be tracked. The idea of it makes me feel very uncomfortable and trapped. A few of my friends have the app and I find it very weird - my partner and I manage to message each other if we leave work late, or to let each other know which train we're on.

OH signed me up to some tracking app so I could track him. That's because he does a lot of cycling, sometimes on his own, so I could locate him if I was worried when he was out. He's got a tracker in his car for work, so used to being tracked.

He certainly didn't ask for this to be reciprocated and really wouldn't have agreed if he had. He has NOTHING to worry about. I adore him and have no intention on cheating on him but even beyond unfaithfulness, I have absolutely nothing to hide in terms of my movement.

Still the idea that I can be 'tracked' is to be highly invasive. It makes me feel that I can't be trusted (because if he wants to know where I am, all he has to do is call or text me and I will tell him).

I would never ask my kids for this either for the same reasons. What I've installed in them is that if I can't get a hold of them, I get anxious so out of respect and care for me, I expect them to respond to their texts/calls within a certain time frame.

We have Find my iPhone. I think it's great. We don't use it to track but for when I can't find my phone or if it ever gets stolen.

Well I must be odd because I'm reading this and thinking what a great idea it is! I'll be getting that for the family asap, it's a pain in the hole not knowing when DH is going to be home, we have a service of entirely unreliable trains and with 4 kids to ferry about I hate wondering if he'll make it home for a drop off or similar.
It's not creepy at all! I'm sure no one is staring at it obsessively to track their OH's every move ffs!

I dint know but if I want to know when DH is coming home, I'm sending him a text or giving him a call.
I'm also expecting him to ring me if he knows he is going to be late.
I expect the same thing from my teenage dcs.
And I do the same with my parents (e.g. If they see they are in a traffic jam, they will call me to let me know and so on).

I'm struggling to see the need of an app like this.

Do people really track their partners whereabouts for "meal planning purposes" ?

If I make tea and my husband is late back then he puts it in the microwave.

Is the app free?

If so, they are selling all your information on

If you have apple it comes as find my iphone which you can enable or not. Main benefit is if it lost/stolem you can render all the info on useless etc.

No need to buy an app.

Find my iPhone is not what we're talking about here, surely?!

I installed Find my iPhone so that I can find my own phone if I lose it. Unless you also turn on 'Share my location' and nominate with whom, it doesn't allow other people to track you.

Life360 is just sooooooo 2016 round my bit.

I suggest putting electronic tags on la famille and you'll be flying.

We track each other and find it convenient. You do have to both think it's a good idea though.

Well I must be odd because I'm reading this and thinking what a great idea it is! I'll be getting that for the family asap, it's a pain in the hole not knowing when DH is going to be home, we have a service of entirely unreliable trains and with 4 kids to ferry about I hate wondering if he'll make it home for a drop off or similar.

If I were your husband I'd tell you to jog on.

I have absolutely nothing to hide but, would question any relationship that imposed that on me.

One of the biggest YABU's I've ever read.

All a bit, 1970's East Germany

For those of you who think it's a good thing for tracking children, I'm just wondering at what age you would agree to giving them any privacy at all. What if they want it sooner than you're comfortable giving it.

Sorry but I don't think it's healthy to be able to track anyone's movements 100% of the time.

I don't see the problem either. I use a similar one with the kids (FindmyFriends) and ex used to be on it too. As others have said, it saves texting to find out when someone will be home and so on. If in a committed relationship with someone Id have no problem with them knowing where I was, why would I?

My DS is 12 - they meet at the park and tend to wonder off - phones dies or it's in a coat pocket and can't be heard

So it's easy to see where they've wondered off too

He has MORE freedom than 'stay in the park'

I only use it ifnhes late or not responding to texts -

To be honest I see his point ! Why should he have to be tracked

What is Ocado ????never heard of it and I never even knew about tracking apps . I'm not very tech savvy

To the people saying they use tracking apps because of affairs - the app shows where your partner is, but it doesn't say who they're with, so how does it help in this case??
If he's working away and you check and see he's in his hotel room by 8pm, do you never think 'but who else is in his hotel room?'
I just don't see how seeing where they are is helpful in these circumstances

Well aren't I lucky you aren't my husband Onion! 🙄

I would never agree to have a tracking device put on my phone

I would not accept having my every move tracked. I would be uncomfortable either. Good for him for deleting it the app.

If he wanted to cheat all he'd have to do is buy a second phone and then leave his tracked phone at work. Then you'd just think he was there while he was off gallivanting. So I think your relationship needs to be based on trust rather than tracking apps.

We have a similar tracking app and neither of us have any issue with it. We downloaded it when my OH was working an hour's drive away and couldn't text/call to say he was stuck in traffic. It doesn't send messages but if one of us is running late or something we can check where they are. I like it and had never thought it creepy at all. Clearly we're in a minority.