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To hate how fat I am

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 15:57

I know all I have to do is stop eating so much (so please don't give me diet advice. I've heard it a million times before).

It irritates me so much that no matter what diet I try I can't stick to. I lose a stone and then it's all back on. I even went a full 6 months on slimming world but eventually got bored.

It's not savoury food I crave. I make all my meals fresh. It's just I eat far too big portions and far too much sweet food. Today I've eaten a magnum, a mr kipling apple pie and an ice cream cone. My breakfast was scrambled egg on wholemeal toast and lunch was baked sweet potato with veg and chicken so my main meals are healthy but I eat so so much snacks it's unbelievable.

I can't stay at anyone's house because I feel like I'm dying of starvation when eating 'normal' amounts of food.

I walk a lot and enjoy walking. I walk two miles a day at least so that's one positive but I cannot stop using food as enjoyment.

I just eat when I'm bored. I would love to be slim but I never will be. I never have been since the age of 8 and I'd not even know how to eat a normal diet as I'd be starving!

Anyone else the same? I know it's acommon problem.

I'm only 28. I should not be so fat. I have a pretty face, I could be gorgeous. It's such a shame.

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TheLuminaries · 16/07/2017 16:00

Can you fill your days more, so you have less time to think about snacks and food?

Assburgers · 16/07/2017 16:00

I am a size 8 but, tbh, if there was a magnum, an apple pie and an ice cream cone in my house right now, I would have happily eaten all of them. Why have you got this stuff?

Rioja123 · 16/07/2017 16:01

Stop buying junk food? If it's not here you can't eat it. Buy fruit to snack on instead.

turquoiseblueandgreen · 16/07/2017 16:01

I sympathise, OP.

My weight problems are awful. The problem I have is once I fuck up, I can't get back on the bandwagon so to speak.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 16:01

It's not as simple as not buying the food. If it was everyone would be skinny.

I just crave it so much that I have a huge urge to buy it and go and buy it anyway.

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turquoiseblueandgreen · 16/07/2017 16:02

Quite, op.

Or smoke, or be alcoholics

Hmm
WineAndTiramisu · 16/07/2017 16:03

You say if you eat 'normal' amounts of food, you're still hungry, you may need to cut down slowly, give your stomach time to shrink?

Also I find I eat much less crap if I'm not sat at home doing nothing, stops boredom eating!

Assburgers · 16/07/2017 16:03

It kind of is as simple as not buying the food.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 16:03

The thing is fruit and healthy foods don't do what sweet unhealthy foods do. They're not as enjoyable to eat. Again, if they were no one would be fat.

I eat much less when with friends and family. I know it's when I'm alone that I eat. Or when I'm stressed. It's not because I'm hungry.

I know I have a problem with food. I know I should take steps to stop eating but I never manage it, like so many others.

I hate being fat but never have the willpower to change for long.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 16:04

Saying 'don't buy the food' is a bit insensitive.

It's difficult. If I didn't have it in the house I'd be thinking about it until I bought some. It's like a craving.

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turquoiseblueandgreen · 16/07/2017 16:04

In a physical sense ass, not in the way op means.

formerbabe · 16/07/2017 16:05

Oh gosh you sound exactly like me!

I don't dislike healthy food, I love it. I love all food! I have a pretty face too (not boasting) and I know if I was slim, I'd look really good. It's so frustrating.

PurpleDaisies · 16/07/2017 16:05

It's not as simple as not buying the food. If it was everyone would be skinny.

I just crave it so much that I have a huge urge to buy it and go and buy it anyway.

It's bloody hard but you need to find a way to resist those cravings. I'm like that with crisps so I eat them but once a week usually in a coffee shop and don't buy them otherwise. It helps because I know I'm having them so look forward to it and shame keeps me from going up to buy a second bag.

You have to find a way to distract yourself through the cravings. It's hard but it gets easier.

SmileAndNod · 16/07/2017 16:05

I feel your pain. I'm disgusted with what I see in the mirror. I have put on about 4 stone in the last 18 months and I cannot shift it. Doesn't matter what I eat it just will not go. I have thought about slimming world but it looks so difficult to keep to with a family, :not to mention expensive.

I feel so down about myself as well so I can completely sympathise even though I don't have the solution.

Assburgers · 16/07/2017 16:05

Sorry, didn't mean to be insensitive x

KoalaDownUnder · 16/07/2017 16:05

Don't buy the cheap sugary crap in the first place.

Instead, buy yourself one really nice thing. Like, instead of Mr Sodding Kiplings + a Magnum, buy yourself 50g of delicious gourmet chocolate. Kind of like that.

I find if I treat myself to small, regular 'fancy' treats, it helps. You don't feel deprived, and you eat way less overall.

Rioja123 · 16/07/2017 16:05

Not trying to be insensitive! I'm on a wedding diet and I literally don't have anything unhealthy in the house. If I want to eat I have to have fruit, low fat yoghurt or nuts.

PurpleDaisies · 16/07/2017 16:06

Saying 'don't buy the food' is a bit insensitive.

It's what works for me. If I have it in the house I just eat it.

Sirzy · 16/07/2017 16:06

What are you having for your meals?

If you want to lose he weight you have to accept you need to make changes.

Plan your meals so they are properly filling. Don't let yourself eat just from boredom - find a way to keep yourself busy.

(And I say that someone who has lost and kept off 7 stone)

You have to be in the right mindset to do it though. Your desire to lose weight has to outweigh your desire to eat the "wrong" things

liquidrevolution · 16/07/2017 16:07

You need to stop to negitivity around food. Also diets don't work there is a lot of research about this that is being published now.

If they worked why are we all not skinny? Suggest you start following rebelfit on facebook. Its very informative (its not a diet).

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 16:07

Other members of my family like to have the food as well. I can't insist on them not eating any junk because of my weight problems.

Unfortunately I don't live alone so don't have the option of not having it in.

It's only me with the weight problem.

I think it's important to learn not to eat it when it's there too. Or else you're not truly having a good relationship with food. Food will always be around me. At work there's a whole cupboard of treats. If I didn't eat them at home, I'd just go mad at work with scoffing all the treats.

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Sirzy · 16/07/2017 16:09

Irrespective of current weight constant access to "junk" food isn't really a good thing though.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 16:11

I'm not even looking for advice. Heard it for years now. Just wanting a moan and to hear others have the same problem.

No idea where I started such a bad relationship with food.

It's been there for such a long time it's almost ingrained now.

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SaucyJack · 16/07/2017 16:12

"It's like a craving."

It is a craving. Sugar is highly addictive Smile

But you can wean yourself off of it slowly. Give it a few months on a decreasing sugar diet, and I promise you that the last thing in the world you will want to it will be anything made by Mr Kipling. Nasty and artificial trash.

SaucyJack · 16/07/2017 16:12

*to eat