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To hate how fat I am

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 15:57

I know all I have to do is stop eating so much (so please don't give me diet advice. I've heard it a million times before).

It irritates me so much that no matter what diet I try I can't stick to. I lose a stone and then it's all back on. I even went a full 6 months on slimming world but eventually got bored.

It's not savoury food I crave. I make all my meals fresh. It's just I eat far too big portions and far too much sweet food. Today I've eaten a magnum, a mr kipling apple pie and an ice cream cone. My breakfast was scrambled egg on wholemeal toast and lunch was baked sweet potato with veg and chicken so my main meals are healthy but I eat so so much snacks it's unbelievable.

I can't stay at anyone's house because I feel like I'm dying of starvation when eating 'normal' amounts of food.

I walk a lot and enjoy walking. I walk two miles a day at least so that's one positive but I cannot stop using food as enjoyment.

I just eat when I'm bored. I would love to be slim but I never will be. I never have been since the age of 8 and I'd not even know how to eat a normal diet as I'd be starving!

Anyone else the same? I know it's acommon problem.

I'm only 28. I should not be so fat. I have a pretty face, I could be gorgeous. It's such a shame.

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Welldoneme · 16/07/2017 21:42

Try filling your belly up with water? The cravings for sweet sugary crap will soon pass.

I found it was a bit like giving up fags, the cravings only last a minute or two, learn to distract yourself.

Ecureuil · 16/07/2017 21:44

I'm shocked that so many think that people wearing size 14 are fat

I'm a size 10/12 and am only just within a healthy BMI. So if I was a size 14, I'd be overweight.

KoalaDownUnder · 16/07/2017 21:48

I'm shocked that so many think that people wearing size 14 are fat.

I'm shocked that you're shocked. I'm 5'10'' and am overweight if I'm a size 14.

SuperBeagle · 16/07/2017 21:50

I'm 5'7" and would definitely be overweight at a size 14. I think I'd look "chubby" at a size 10, although I have a very small frame so weight gain is more noticeable than it is on others.

Still, a couple of decades ago it would've been unheard of to consider a size 14 "normal".

FrozenCucumberIsGoodInGin · 16/07/2017 21:59

FatBernie I completely understand where you're coming from. Not exactly the same situation (much shorter and fatter than you) but I have been where you are for a long long time. I know some of the comments on the thread are meant as tough love and advice but they don't half make me feel like shit! I know the rules, have done quite extensive research into weight loss and the way various diets work on the body but I just cannot lose weight. I just keep getting bigger every fucking year Sad It just takes so much will power for so long, and the results are miniscule because I have so much weight to shift. I have been fighting this fight for so many years and I'm so tired of feeling worthless, and people treating me as if I am weak willed and lazy when I have tried again and again and again despite the fact that the only time I could be 'only' overweight was when I was doing 2-3 hours of cardio every single day and eating nothing but leaves and protein for months when I was 18.

Anyway, rant over. I hear you Gin

Groupie123 · 16/07/2017 22:00

11.5 stones at 5 6 is overweight OP.

Groupie123 · 16/07/2017 22:01

I'm 5 7 and weigh 12 stones and am overweight. I'm muscular but my BMI is def not normal

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 22:02

By about 3 lbs! I always weight a few pounds heavier in the evening.

If I weighed myself in the morning I would be less.

Either way, its overweight by such a small margin it's not worth thinking about.

I'd like to be slimmer but at least now I know I'm not actually fat.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 22:05

By about 3 lbs! I always weight a few pounds heavier in the evening.

If I weighed myself in the morning I would be less.

Either way, its overweight by such a small margin it's not worth thinking about.

I'd like to be slimmer but at least now I know I'm not actually fat.

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SydneyJones · 16/07/2017 22:09

I'm shocked that so many think that people wearing size 14 are fat. No bloody way. I'm 5ft6, size 14 and am not fat.

Sorry but a 14 is overweight. I've lost the weight now but I was a good 13.7 stone (5ft6) when I was that size.

Don't delude yourself into thinking it's a healthy size.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 22:10

It depends on body shape.

You can be a size 14 and be pure muscle and no fat.

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 22:11

Well a healthy level of fat (before anyone corrects me).

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fatbernie · 16/07/2017 22:11

If I weighed 13 stone I'd be a size 16 not 14.

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BuzzKillington · 16/07/2017 22:15

Other members of my family like to have the food as well. I can't insist on them not eating any junk because of my weight problems.

This doesn't make sense to me. We are a family of 4 - none of us are overweight. We don't eat between meals or have junk food in the house. It wouldn't occur to me to have crappy snacks in the house and it never has. I don't want my (skinny) kids eating crap any more than I want to eat it myself. It's about changing your mindset and your family's. A Magnum, for example, has a huge amount of pointless calories - it's just not worth it and I don't want my children to associate crappy food with some sort of reward.

I am 5ft7, btw, and at 11.5 stone would definitely be overweight.

Rioja123 · 16/07/2017 22:15

I'd also consider myself overweight at a size 14.

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KoalaDownUnder · 16/07/2017 22:21

It depends on body shape.

You can be a size 14 and be pure muscle and no fat.

Not really. Unless you are an Olympic shot-putter or something, no 5'7'' woman is a size 14 of very low body fat.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 16/07/2017 22:36

Oh FGS. OP, try weighing yourself next time before bemoaning your fatness.

SunnyCoco · 16/07/2017 23:01

People taking time and effort to give advice and you're 3lbs overweight 😂

Madeyemoodysmum · 16/07/2017 23:05

I'm a ten sometimes twelve but I still think I'm over weight. I have nice Lin legs arms and hips but after 2 c sections I have a massive pad of fat over my gut that won't shift.

It means I have to wear slight bigger on the waist and really gets me down at times.

Control pants are good but I don't want to wear them everyday as the are never made of nice comfy cotton and make me hot in the nethers.

I feel your pain OP

ShowMeWhatYouGot · 16/07/2017 23:32

:-/

Want2beme · 16/07/2017 23:57

No, not having it. Size 14 is not overweight at 5ft6. I don't eat a lot of food in a day and I'm certainly not gonna half starve myself to be a size 8, 10, or 12. OP you're keeping yourself fit. If you want to be slimmer, could you eat one less snack a day and then work up to eating even less?

TheCuriousOwl · 17/07/2017 00:03

Well I'm the same height as the OP, 11st 2 at worst and a 12-14 (slim hips, massive boobs) and this last page of everyone saying how revoltingly huge it is has made me feel great (!)

I'm not fat btw. I don't look overweight. You can count my ribs. I've got a 29 inch waist.

Exercise and better eating will make you feel better about yourself but in all honesty if people are having a go about how the OP is really fat with a slightly overweight bmi of 27 then it's no wonder people get confused and hung up about themselves. And ffs there is nothing crappy about the occasional ice cream and it's pretty joyless to say food should only be consumed at mealtimes and never because it's a nice experience. Like an ice cream at the seaside or tea and cake after a long walk. Because food should also be pleasurable and social not just some kind of dour fuel.

mrbob · 17/07/2017 00:08

I am fat. I love food and eat big portion sizes despite the things I eat being pretty healthy. I have always been veggie but have moved onto veganism (yup you CAN be a fat vegan it turns out) and am now attempting plant based eating for a number of reasons.

This is not necessarily a quick path to weight loss although a lot of people do lose weight on it. However I FEEL better. I don't eat processed sweet foods (dried fruit and normal fruit are the snacks I crave- I haven't eaten an ice cream in MONTHS) and my body feels happier which translates to me feeling happier. Over time I am aiming to cut out the "unhealthy" dried fruit and all the sugar in it and start aiming for some weight loss but the happiness in ME is what matters at the moment (and yes I would like to be a size 12 but hey ho- I have been that on an extreme diet and looked like an unhappy corpse because I did it the wrong way and was super unhealthy)

There is a LOT of evidence that going plant based will help with the health benefits independent of weight. It is something to get a bit obsessed with which I like. And if you need the sweet stuff you have to put in a teeny bit more effort than just picking up a chocolate bar from the counter. And once you break the chocolate/magnum addiction it is done :)

I don't know. Different things work for different people. I just found that one did it for me in terms of my brain. I feel better when I exercise too and that translates to less eating but it is winter here and I tend to struggle then and mainly hibernate ;)

Resources I would recommend are "Neuroslimming" by Helena Popovic, Microbiome solution by Robynne Chutkin and the Clean Food Dirty Girl website.

Feel free to entirely ignore but we sound similar so thought I would put my two pence worth in :) I feel you pain entirely and long to be one of those people who look GOOD. And the annoying ness of people who CAN lose weight just by eating one less chocolate bar a week so think everyone does

bluegreenyellow · 17/07/2017 00:57

'What's the point of posting the thread if you're not ready to hear peoples' comments?' she wants some comments just not negative ones obviously!

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