Sister doesn't want me to have a baby so I can babysit for her!

[bangingmyheadagainstawall]

Just as the title says, I have 2 children and would love a third but my age and stupid contraception choice is working against me so I've been emotionally toing and froing between wanting one then talking myself out of it, lack of sleep again etc. Anyways at my grans today I mentioned it again hoping to get words of wisdom from her as she raised 11 kids and she said follow your heart and only you can decided etc etc then dropped on me Sister won't be happy as she's hoping you become her child minder when she gives birth. While I'm completely flattered by this I was also a bit miffed as sister knew I wanted another baby of my own and certainly wouldn't want the stress of child minding while I had a young baby myself, I mentioned it to her on the phone today and she said, you've got enough kids plus your old why would you put your body through it, you have one of each so no need to have anymore etc etc then confirmed she wants me to look after her baby so she can go straight back to work. Now I'm having a meltdown again thinking it's unfair of me bringing another one into the world, I maybe am too old, do I want to do all the baby stuff again etc...AIBU to think it's cheeky for her to assume I'd babysit and assume my baby making days were over at the grand age of 34 and a half?

My second child was born when I was 35, third just before I turned 40. Have YOUR baby, tell your sister to sort her own kids out!

How dare she assume that just because you have one of each you wouldn't want another one, shame on her. Plus what right does she have to again assume that you would want to look after her baby, just because she's prioritising differently doesn't mean you should fall in with her plans. This sort of attitude makes my blood boil, I don't often post on here but this has taken the biscuit, who does she think she is to put this on your shoulders, her child her problem, not yours, if you want another baby go ahead and have one, it's what you and your partner want that matters, not anyone else. Good luck with whatever decision you make just make sure it's what you want. xxxx

Why do you need 3 kids? Sorry but it is selfish for people to continue breeding like we don't already have a serious population problem. Just shows the shortsightedness and stupidly of humanity.
We'll continue breeding until the planet can't support us and is completely destroyed. We're well on the way.
2 to replace the parents is plenty. Be grateful.

You know intuitively when your family is complete and when it isn't. Go with your gut. Your sister's views are irrelevant.

hiphopfrog are you the sister??

Oh god. I've only 2 and a bit years before I need to hit the pasture?

Damn! It's time to leave DD to be raised by the cats and go do some crazy things! picks up scissors and starts running

Hiphopfrog Mon 17-Jul-17 09:57:26
Why do you need 3 kids? Sorry but it is selfish for people to continue breeding like we don't already have a serious population problem. Just shows the shortsightedness and stupidly of humanity.
We'll continue breeding until the planet can't support us and is completely destroyed. We're well on the way.
2 to replace the parents is plenty. Be grateful.

What the fuck ??? what you said is way out of normal

The average birth rate has been below 2 in the UK for decades. Someone needs to be having the 3rd ones

I'm 34. Nice to know my baby making days are over. Someone should have told my mum when she was 41 and a grandmother.

34??

Too old????

Fuck. The fuck. Off.

While I agree with everyone saying you are not to old and you need to do what's right for your family, meaning your children, your partner, and you. What bothered me most, is it seemed like your grandmother thought your sisters behavior was acceptable! Has any of your extended family pointed out how daft your sister is acting by not only assuming you'd be a built in (probably assumed she wouldn't pay you either) child minder for her infant(even with 2 children, you may not want to), but on top of that, she has the nerve to advise you on your reproductive options?! She surely isn't asking your permission about having her child(even though she seems to want to pop a kid out, hand it to you, and rush back to work)! I would question if she should be having a child, tbh.

I pushed out twins at 42 and I wasn't even the oldest on the ward. Never referred to as older by any if the staff. My GP who k ew I had been trying for ages, congratulated me and said 'well done you, great news'. Your sister is ill informed and selfish.