Aibu for getting annoyed with random old women (in the main) getting up in my baby's grill?

[FindingNormal]

I hate it. Baby was prem so is small. Everywhere I go strangers stick their face in the pram and make comments, usually along the lines of "oh what a tiny baby" some try to touch her and then I get asked how old blah blah. Today I was at the doctors - I was crying (having a bad day) and an old woman came up and asked if she could see my baby. I mean seriously - I had tears down my face and clearly had my fuck off shields up and yet she still couldn't help herself from intruding. I find it so weird- I'd never go up to someone I didn't know and comment on their baby particularly if they looked upset. Is it me?

I felt like this when mind were tiny too. But now they are older I am always so grateful when fandoms chat to them at the check outs or help my Jolly them along out of the car etc etc.

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I think you're BU for using the expression 'Up in my baby's grill'.

Yes, it must be harrowing when people admire and look at one's offspring. No, wait, I mean lovely and totally normal.

Get a sling and hide baby in your top. Job done.

Your baby's what?

I think if you were crying she was probably trying to be nice and distract you.

Perhaps she was being kind and trying to distract you from being upset?

My baby wasn't premature but she was tiny and struggled to gain weight and it was something I felt hugely guilty about.
So many old dears (I know they meant well) would come over and ask her age and when I told them would tell me how little she looked for it .

You say it's mostly old ladies. Perhaps they're lonely, or their families live too far away for regular visits.

It doesn't hurt to let them have a little joy, looking at your baby and having a little chat.

Maybe the one at the doctor was trying to take your mind off what was making you cry.

You sound really unpleasant

What does "getting up in my baby's grill" mean?

I found that when DD was tiny loads of old people were interested in her. I took pleasure in the fact that they did. It sounds like you are struggling and need some extra support.

Surely they're just trying to be nice?

OK - I'm going to see if MNHQ are serious about not allowing ageism on this site. Here goes ...

I found that my entire maternity leave, every single day old ladies admired my baby. I was proud to show him off. Babies are cute. People love to see their wee faces!! Are you ok?

Bit U to ask to look at your baby if you were visibly upset. But I have to confess to taking a sneaky peak into babies prams when I'm out and about. Sometimes I might comment on how gorgeous the occupant is. I also noticed when I took DGD out when she was little that other people would sometimes smile at her or say how cute she was etc. I felt it was lovely that anyone noticed a random baby enough to smile/say anything. But we are all different and if you were upset then I can see it not being something you'd want.

YABU. Babies are a great leveler, they bring out the humanity and community in people. Hopefully you got sorted at the drs.

My DS is 18months and also small and young looking so people assume he is younger than he is, I have no problem, and never have, f strangers coming to see him.

Did you get some help from the doctor ?
You sound very hormonal, it's hard when they are tiny and you want to protect them- Aibu really isn't the best place for real help.

Just re read your post. You're not feeling ok; you've been crying. Have you spoke to your health visitor? Being a new Mum is stressful and especially with sleep deprivation it's no wonder you're crying. Do you have anyone to help?

I love it when my children are admired by others. I think you sound in need of support OP.

Just be grateful they are not saying "What a shame you did not have a boy" - as everyone did when I had my wonderful third DD.

I do not see that describing an old woman as an old woman is ageist; just factual.

I'm honestly genuinely fine for those that have kindly asked (apart from apparently being a horrible person). I just am private and don't like strangers intruding on me and find it weird - I'm clearly in the minority! I've had a bad day hence the rantyness of the post. Clearly I'm a dick though... sorry.

Old people make good listeners - and you should want to show your baby off. . Maybe a friendly ear is what you need right now - don't be so quick to turn them all away.