Aibu for getting annoyed with random old women (in the main) getting up in my baby's grill?

[FindingNormal]

I hate it. Baby was prem so is small. Everywhere I go strangers stick their face in the pram and make comments, usually along the lines of "oh what a tiny baby" some try to touch her and then I get asked how old blah blah. Today I was at the doctors - I was crying (having a bad day) and an old woman came up and asked if she could see my baby. I mean seriously - I had tears down my face and clearly had my fuck off shields up and yet she still couldn't help herself from intruding. I find it so weird- I'd never go up to someone I didn't know and comment on their baby particularly if they looked upset. Is it me?

Where did you get a grill suitable for a newborn?

YABU you actually sounds quite horrible.
You have a cute baby and people in general like to see cute babies and will speak to them/their parent.
Reactions like this are why so many people ignore and don't speak to strangers so much any more.
Crying at the doctors she was probably trying to distract and be nice to you.
Calm down and enjoy the attention.
I also think you are VVU to say Up in your baby's grill how 90's is that, plus little babies have no teeth

Are you ok op? Sounds like you are unbelievably stressed. People are only trying to be kind. Maybe they saw your tears and were trying to cheer you up. Hope you are ok💐

Erm, to all of the posters being so aggressive, the OP has a very young baby and sounds quite distressed. She may have PND for all we know. Is it really necessary to give her a good verbal kicking, just because this is AIBU. Yes, you have the right and you can post what you want etc etc. But I think that your comments say more about you than they do about the OP.

OP it does sound as though you are reacting very strongly/badly to normal social interaction. I hope that you have support in RL. I am sorry that you are having such a rough time and hope that you are alright. Mentioning how you feel to the GP/HV would probably be a good idea.

I feel you OP. I even struggled with friends and family coming round lots and handling baby at first! Felt ridiculously protective and wanted to be left alone. Think it's a natural reaction as it sinks in and you get comfy with your little one plus hormones etc

Hope you're OK. Ignore negative comments

You sound li

In your baby's grill????

Hope all was ok at the doctor OP.

I think some people (and not specifically older women) just see a baby and want to say hello. I bet she didn't even notice you or your tears.

Hope you feel better soon.

Technically your baby doesn't have a "grill", unless she was born with a full set of pearly whites

YANBU. Ignore the aggressive people on here. Get a sling and try to keep moving whenever possible so random strangers don't have a chance to come over and poke their noses in.

What is a babys grill? Is it the canopy on the buggy?

I am unbelievably 90s though that's true

OK - I'm going to see if MNHQ are serious about not allowing ageism on this site. Here goes

Is it ageist to refer to old women as old women now? Who fucking knew?

You sound like you're having a bad time. It's ok. I get the privacy thing. I don't think it's okay to try and touch your baby.
I would say: "would you mind leaving us alone, I'm having a difficult day. Thank you."

Good luck

OK - I'm going to see if MNHQ are serious about not allowing ageism on this site. Here goes

Is it ageist to refer to old women as old women now? Who fucking knew?

Harsh responses, everyone has off days where you just want to be left alone and it is horrible when people don't read the signs. Most days i would be delighted for someone to coo over my baby and make conversation, but crying in a doctors surgery is not the time! Are you ok op?

"Hopefully this is PND..."

Really? We're wishing PND on people??

YABU though - people just want to admire your baby, it's nice.

OP, you have a tiny prem baby. I think it is actually quite natural to feel defensive about that baby, and very understandable.

This is quite a common topic here (or at least, I've been around too long and seen it lots of times). There are always people who are extremely and completely horrified at the mothers who just want to be left alone. I think it's pretty understandable. We're all different.

Isn't a grill those gold and sparkly mouth guard things that seem to be a thing in America?
Put a muslin over the pram hood so people can't see in.

Oh FFS, of course I'm not wishing PND on someone. Merely thinking, as others have mentioned, that OP's extreme agitation at social interaction, tears etc may be a result of PND and that if she can get some help she will feel better.

Controversially I get why you would be upset with random people coming up and trying to touch your preemie. I think you sound tired and frustrated and possibly a bit hormonal but be flattered that people think your baby is cute. Surely you must have got similar attention when you were pregnant? I'm certainly not a fan of 'wow you're only 6 months? But your bump is huge!' Grit your teeth and try to smile through it.

Clearly I'm a dick though... sorry.

You are absolutely NOT a dick Finding. Today at the GPs you were upset and didn't want to talk or show off your baby, just to be left alone by the sounds of it. And that's understandable. You feel how you feel.

And if it's not something you welcome generally then that's also ok. A lot of posters have said they like people asking to see their baby or wanting to talk but that's them. We don't all feel the same about stuff.

Ok so perhaps I'm unusual and maybe even unreasonable (for both using the expression up in my baby's grill, which by the way was not said completely seriously, and for not liking strangers invading my personal space) but surely I'm allowed to be private. Not sure quite why I'm getting the amount of hatred that I am though, I'm lucky that I do have support during what is a hard time but if I didn't you guys might have really left me in a dark place!

I genuinely have no idea what this grill is. Does it mean face?

Secondly, how old do you have to look before being classed as an old lady? I'm 56 and always wonder if I still look middle-aged or am verging towards the old now I'm going grey.

well you did ask if YWBU and people are telling you you were.

Ok strawberry I've already conceded that maybe I'm being unreasonable- don't mind at all people telling me that. Like you say, I did ask. Just think perhaps the personal attacks might be going a bit far! Interesting stuff this.