To expect to leave my dd's pooey nappy at friend's house?

[Lalunya85]

A while ago when DD was about 10 weeks old we went to see friends at their house for the day. They have two dds but they are older (11 and 4 at the time so out of nappies).

Our DD did a poo and we changed her St friend's house and put the dirty nappy in a nappy bag. I asked my friend's partner who was near me at the time what to do with the dirty nappy. She sort of laughed and said: "you're not going to leave that at My house!"

At first I thought this was a joke. It wasn't. Then I assumed she must mean to take it to the bin outside, but that wasn't what she meant either.

So we had to take the nappy home with us in the car. It was a 3 hour drive, if that makes a difference.

Obviously we got rid of the nappy at the first public bin that we saw, but aibu to think this is a really strange and unusual attitude?

Or am I so lost in baby parent world that I can't see how unreasonable it would be of me to expect my friend to throw my baby's nappy in her bin??

Give me your verdict.

I've got enough flies buzzing around my bins as is in this hot weather - no way would I let you put in poo so it can decompose in a hot bin for up to next 10 days (ours gets collected once every two weeks).

My mum was the same, I had to take my babies nappies with me as she wouldn't allow them in her wheelie bin, I had to carry them up to the bin by the bus stop!

Damned right I wouldn't have shitty nappies in any of my bins, inside or out. The bin smells bad enough in ths weather without adding to it.

I double bag up my dog poos and they wait in their little black bags in a 'safe' place outdoors until bin day, upon which they are deposited for collection. But then, my bin gets washed out regularly (by me!) because I can't stand a stinky bin every time I open the lid and it's too small for liners. I'd be really pissed off if I avoided putting my dog's mess in there, only for some stinky human to come along and ruin my nice 'clean' bin !!!!!!

I'm sorry to say that I'd have to ask you to take it away if you were at my house! The bins go once a fortnight and everything has to be in regulation black sacks.
People with babies get special nappy bins that the council take away once a week, but since we don't have a baby I have nowhere to dispose of a nappy! We're not meant to have food or anything stinky in the big bins.
I'd definitely explain that to you rather than seeming completely unhinged though!!

OP, just so it's clear

1. Empty poo into toilet.

(Oh, but it's all runny and stuff, you say. Hold nappy in toilet and flush. Poo will be flushed away, wet nappy places into nappy bag)

1. Throw nappy with skid marks into bin.

Huge difference to throwing nappy full of poo into bin.

Why, exactly, are 'disposable' nappies acceptable anyway? They are such a bloody blight and take YEARS to rot, that I can't believe it's acceptable to add all this to landfill. It's not the shit that's the problem - the shit will disappear very quickly, but the nappy will hang around for years and years.

Why? Just why are we going down this route for future generations to have to deal with? Off topic slightly, but still...

I personally love re usable nappies and wish I didn't let everyone talk me out of using them for dd (I will definitely use them for any future children), but I do think it's a bit rude to not let the dirty nappy go into the outside bin.

It might have been a whole week till next bin day so I agree as to why she didn't want it hanging around. We use plastic sacks here, not wheelie bins so my tin outdoor bin is empty and I wouldn't have wanted to fish out someone else's nappy waste from there to go in the sack ready for the next bin day some time off. At out local church Mothers and Toddlers' group, there's also a polite notice saying - Take your dirty nappies home. I see nothing wrong with that.

1. Empty poo into toilet.
(Oh, but it's all runny and stuff, you say. Hold nappy in toilet and flush. Poo will be flushed away, wet nappy places into nappy bag)

At what point in the nappy changing process do you do this? Leave newborn with poo-covered bottom unattended on changing mat to pour nappy contents into toilet?

Or balance open liquid poo filled nappy on edge of changing mat while changing flailing newborn?

YANBU I do not see the issue of its in a nappy sack.Last week I kid you not I was getting a trolley at the supermarket and some filthy individual had put x2 open nappies and used baby wipes in the trolley not even in a sack and had returned the trolley.

Boak - how could a person do that they could have put them in the bin not just leave in stroller for a person to find.I did not use that trolley just think of the germs.

And yes I did alert the store staff , that a trolley has two brown filled nappies and wipes in it lobbed in a shopping trolley.

Yeah I can just imagine the scene. Bare arsed baby rolling off the change mat spreading poo on the floor and up their vest while you try and hold the nappy under the flush with your eyes and mouth closed so as not to catch any "flavour" from the spray back nice.

I would never expect anyone to take it home!!! In the garbage outside definitely, but not to take it away with them and even if they put it inside, I would just quietly put it outside!
However it depends on how often you get the waste removed by your local council. Twice a week for me (London), but my parents only get a collection once a FORTNIGHT! If someone was to only get a collection once a fortnight then I could understand them wanting it taken away. My parents have requested this and told us why...and it's fair enough as the stench would be horrific after 2 weeks!

That is so fucking weird and precious.

I don't like shitty nappies in the indoor bin but chuck them straight in the outdoor wheelie bin. Would never ever make a friend or well anyone take it home

Honestly if someone feels so strongly about not having poo diapers left in their home, they shouldn't invite someone with an infant to their house.

I would rather deal with a smelly bin than ever be so rude to a friend or guest. Astonishing.

For goodness sake, a 10 week olds poo doesn't smell (even less if breastfed IME) so I think they are being daft.
Some people just have a thing about poo- my mother in law asks us to take nappies home if the fortnightly collection has just been. If it's really smelly she double bags ( or gets me too- she's never changed my 9 month olds dirty nappy despite frequently holding him and saying "eugh, you stink"!)
I always think it will take longer to decompose in double bags and often put just wet nappies directly in my kitchen Hun which gets emptied daily.

*dont know where Hun came from?!

Trolls poop glitter you wouldn't be able to do that with my daughters nappies I've never heard something so ridiculous as flushing a used nappy to clean it my daughters loo is liquid and soaks into the nappy this just would not work!!!

I don't see how a bagged nappy put in a wheelie bin is an offensive item.

Your friend is a bit mental.

Interesting to note the different attitudes on this thread to the one about a bag of dog poo in a bin.

Well, have you ever seen the difference between a 10 months old milky pop and a carnivore dogs shit? Quite different things.

But anyway, apart from the fact I would like some random dog walker using my bin without asking, a dog poo in a biodegradable dog poo bag, tied up tightly isn't going to smell.

I put the cats poos into a dog poo bag and into the bin. They don't smell.

The poo of a 10 week old baby doesn't smell of poo - it might smell faintly of yoghurt.

The poo of a 10 week old baby is quite liquid and it would be practically impossible to scrape contents on to the loo.

Rubbish belongs in the bin.

If you want to start another disposables vs cloth nappies bun fight please start your own thread.

It's interesting to see that for some people their bin is more important than a friend, or being hospitable / polite to a visitor. Apparently the problem of where to put a bagged used nappy is insurmountable! Who knew bins could elicit such tender feelings

I'm slightly surprised that so few people flush the poo away. I thought everyone did

I don't want dog shit in my bin either - it's one of the reasons I don't have a dog.