To expect to leave my dd's pooey nappy at friend's house?

[Lalunya85]

A while ago when DD was about 10 weeks old we went to see friends at their house for the day. They have two dds but they are older (11 and 4 at the time so out of nappies).

Our DD did a poo and we changed her St friend's house and put the dirty nappy in a nappy bag. I asked my friend's partner who was near me at the time what to do with the dirty nappy. She sort of laughed and said: "you're not going to leave that at My house!"

At first I thought this was a joke. It wasn't. Then I assumed she must mean to take it to the bin outside, but that wasn't what she meant either.

So we had to take the nappy home with us in the car. It was a 3 hour drive, if that makes a difference.

Obviously we got rid of the nappy at the first public bin that we saw, but aibu to think this is a really strange and unusual attitude?

Or am I so lost in baby parent world that I can't see how unreasonable it would be of me to expect my friend to throw my baby's nappy in her bin??

Give me your verdict.

Bloody weird! Ive had people around and they've been apologetic about nappies but i've said just pop it in the bin! There's plenty of other stinky stuff who cares! Xx

Maybe your friend likes to sit in her bin of an evening, OP...

notforsale I know you're not the first one to make this argument, but it really doesn't make any sense.

Me and the kids sit in the car, effectively sharing the space with the nappy and its poo. My friend does NOT live in her wheelie bin. It's for rubbish.

But it isn't even the fact that I didn't want to take it in the car. I wouldn't really mind so much, and I've done it after outdoor walls and stuff when there was no other option. But to not let a friend, and a guest you have invited (and WITH their newborn baby in tow) use a basic thing like a bin, it's beyond me.

I'm just glad it wasn't my then 2 year old DC who did the ooo. I can't imagine w her reaction then

Not the popular opinion around here it seems, but I wouldn't want it at my house either. It just grosses me out thinking of a child's - or anyone's for that matter - poop in my bin. I know it's a mental thing, but my house, my call. I'd guess your friend thinks the same.

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Cross post there.

She might not live in it, Lalunya, but she may holiday there. Is it a second home?

In London we would rent that bin out on AirBnB...

Computer, if you look here there are various reports. The 2015-16 results one has a bar chart somewhere showing the proportions of waste sent to landfill etc.

I don't really get why some of you are so squeamish about poop. It's perfectly natural and we all do them. But then, it does help that I used to work as a care assistant in my student days as holiday work.

But there's no need to be rude about pooey nappies, why would you invite a friend with a child in nappies if you can't cope with the thought of poop?

But, as I've said, I always found it preferable to take soiled nappies away, because I never had a problem with putting it into a nappy sack and placing it in my changing bag.

I wouldn't like it but if they put it in the bathroom bin in a nappy sack then I wouldn't say anything. It would go in the outside bin as soon as the guest left, though!

Who the fuck puts dog poo in the bin? We always used to flush our dogs' poo.
As for baby poo, yes difficult to flush whilst just milk, but as soon as she was on solids I started flushing all my daughters poo.
As for the original post; get new friends (or at least stop seeing friends partner!) I use mainly cloth nappies now but when I did use disposable I just put the nappy in whatever bin, at all my friends' houses. On the odd occasion now when I use disposables at home I flush the poo, roll up the nappy, no bag, in bin, either kitchen or bathroom whichever is closest. I have NEVER opened my bin and smelt poo. I mean the bins open for like 5 seconds or less to put something in it... seriously I can't believe that this is such a major problem. Double bagging, triple bagging? Are you fucking serious?? Stop with the excessive plastic use!!!!

It wouldn't be a problem for me, my family or friends. Then again I remember a thread on here where some posters would be outraged if their friend left a tampon or pad in their bin! I would never make my friend go off with a bagged up dirty nappy or tampon, I would feel like an awful person if I did that! Some people on here have no idea how to treat guests.

At least with a nappy you are likely to have a bag with you. I don't carry bags as standard when I'm menstruating. Would one be provided?

Just omg at the ignorance of so many of you. Poo does NOT go in a bin. Poo goes in a toilet!
It's really simple (for those with working brains) - you scrape the poo from the nappy into the toilet and flush, then you dispose of the poo-free nappy responsibly.
If you've really got a clue, you'll be using reusable nappies as disposables account for a disgraceful proportion of landfill- and are totally unnecessary!

Literally never heard of flushing poo from a nappy. I guess when I had my own DC, I just copied what I saw my mum do to my younger siblings' nappies. Flushing makes sense, though.

How very odd! YANBU! I disagree with those who said they wouldn't have it in there's! Very bad hosting imo.

Some people's brains work well enough to manage politeness.

Reusables vs disposables is actually a lot more complicated when you factor in washing, drying, manufacturing process, plastic elements, it goes on.

We certainly used to flush as much as possible of the poo down the toilet. It made it much easier to carry pooey nappies back in the changing bag to dispose of later.

@whatsthecomingoverthehill I didn't realise as much as 35% of domestic waste is incinerated, and that the very large majority of that is EfW. I have a professional interest, as I said, but in another (very niche) area. Thanks :)

That is so weird. My DC is very much out of nappies now but when visitors come they are very welcome to use my bin for their DC's waste.
Can't see what the problem is tbh. But I have a dog and so her waste (wrapped in a nappy bag and then a carrier bag) goes in the bin too, so maybe I've got low/no standards 🤔🤔

Why is i so outrageous to have to take your own baby's pooey nappies home in a 3h road trip (supposedly in an air-conditioned car), when everyone says they don't smell if properly bagged, but not outrageous to expect someone to have someone else's pooey nappies composting in their own bin for up to 2 weeks?

aurynne its the same as asking guests to take home their used sanitary protection, tissues (toilet paper?), food waste etc. Do you ask guests to bag and take home all their waste and recycling after a full day or overnight visit?

To those who can't stand soiled nappies in their bins, do you let your guests shit in your toilets?

The nappy is wrapped up and will be in the bin.

Honestly, how ridiculously precious.

YANBU

5more is right. If you wouldn't ask a guest to take home their own sanitary protection, tissues, teabags or whatever else then I don't see why you would feel like it's ok with a nappy. It's just taking advantage of your guest's wish to not cause you any trouble. If it were an adult, not a baby, would you make them take it away, too?