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AIBU?

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To expect to leave my dd's pooey nappy at friend's house?

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Lalunya85 · 10/07/2017 22:34

A while ago when DD was about 10 weeks old we went to see friends at their house for the day. They have two dds but they are older (11 and 4 at the time so out of nappies).

Our DD did a poo and we changed her St friend's house and put the dirty nappy in a nappy bag. I asked my friend's partner who was near me at the time what to do with the dirty nappy. She sort of laughed and said: "you're not going to leave that at My house!"

At first I thought this was a joke. It wasn't. Then I assumed she must mean to take it to the bin outside, but that wasn't what she meant either.

So we had to take the nappy home with us in the car. It was a 3 hour drive, if that makes a difference.

Obviously we got rid of the nappy at the first public bin that we saw, but aibu to think this is a really strange and unusual attitude?

Or am I so lost in baby parent world that I can't see how unreasonable it would be of me to expect my friend to throw my baby's nappy in her bin??

Give me your verdict.

OP posts:

IrregularCommentary · 10/07/2017 22:48

The outside bin is still at her house mean.

I don't think OP was looking to put it in a drawer or something ffs...

IrregularCommentary · 10/07/2017 22:48

The outside bin is still at her house mean.

I don't think OP was looking to put it in a drawer or something ffs...

londonista · 10/07/2017 22:49

Testing yes that's what I did.

Onhold · 10/07/2017 22:49

Unless their wheely bin is in the middle of their living room they were being weird. I wpuld have chuckex it in their bin on the way out.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 10/07/2017 22:50

We were usually directed to a kitchen bin or wheelie bin.

By the time DS weaned and became affected by CMPA, no one would have coped with it hanging around in a changing bag indoors. (At home we went for double bagged and out of the bathroom window ASAP while waiting for relocation to the wheelie bin while DS was showered and the excess hosed out of his clothes ready for immediate washing. Then again, I was bemused at toddler groups that people would check and sniff test their toddlers bums to work out who it was while I immediately recognised DS's brew from the opposite side of the room)

Aeroflotgirl · 10/07/2017 22:50

How weird, I would usually point to the household dustbin or tell them to leave it now the back door where I would put it in the outside bin.

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 10/07/2017 22:51

I know someone who, when looking after her siblings children for a day, would send home a bag of used nappies.
Bins weren't pay by weight or anything.
I generally take nappies home but being normal, offer my bin to those disposing of nappies!

londonista · 10/07/2017 22:51

Onhold ... or let it fall out of my bag into the front garden. Oops butter fingers ...!

BumWad · 10/07/2017 22:51

Your friend is weird and so are some of the posters on this thread

Just put it straight outside in the wheelie bin, what's the biggie?

MeanAger · 10/07/2017 22:54

I don't think OP was looking to put it in a drawer or something ffs... hmm

No just a bin ffs who the fuck said a drawer ffs. Ffs will you calm down Ffs. Ffs

KeepServingTheDrinks · 10/07/2017 22:55

I'm not say UWBU, but I would say that we used real nappies for DD, so the stuff went down the loo and the nappies went in the wash. We had friends to stay one time, and I was really taken aback to find a nappy in our kitchen bin (unwrapped, I'd add) because I'd literally never seen that before.

Of course, I never said anything to my friend; and I think your friend was - at best - a bad host.

BasketOfDeplorables · 10/07/2017 22:55

If a guest asked me if they should put a nappy in the outside bin, I'd tell them not to worry and to use the one nearest to them. I don't ask guests to take rubbish outside.

SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning · 10/07/2017 22:55

YANBU. Normal people say "wheelie bin is by front bush next to the row of cars" or similar. Perhaps they are precious about their bins? Nowt such strange as folk.

Sparklingbrook · 10/07/2017 22:55

Years ago now but I used to flush anything solid from the nappy, then wrap it up in a nappy sack. if at a friend's house stick it in their outside bin straight away.
I didn't ask permission.

80sMum · 10/07/2017 22:59

I wouldn't want a poo-filled nappy put into an indoor bin, but in the wheelie bin outside would be ok.

Would be even more ok if the poo was deposited into the loo and flushed away, so that only the soiled nappy and not the actual poo went into the bin.

PenelopeFlintstone · 10/07/2017 23:00

Your friend is weird and so are some of the posters on this thread
Yep.

PollyFlint · 10/07/2017 23:01

I don't have any children but on the rare occasions that someone's had to change a baby's nappy at my house I've always just told them to chuck it straight n the wheelie bin outside. I can't imagine asking someone to take it home with them! I mean, I probably wouldn't want it left in the bathroom bin for me to get rid off, but it's not going to any harm bagged up in a wheelie bin outside FFS! Your friends are mad.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 10/07/2017 23:01

Weird I wouldn't have asked permission I always just say "where is your wheelie bin" (I wouldn't put it in inside bin though).
I'm also surprised at how many people chuck the poo in the toilet, it never occurred to me to do that I just wrap it, bag it and chuck it in the outside bin, everyday I learn new ways in which I am a slothern

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 10/07/2017 23:06

MeanAger
Your thread title says you expected to leave it at her house.

The wheelie bin in my garden "is at my house", it isn't inside my house but is at my house

nosleepforme · 10/07/2017 23:07

...huh??
when my friends are around they do ask where to throw. if it is a stinker, even if its in a nappy bag ill ask them to throw it in big bin outside. i dont even mind to take it out myself. but to take it home... huh?... just what?!

HappyAxolotl · 10/07/2017 23:07

If it's wrapped and put in the correct outdoor bin I can't for the life of me understand what the problem is? Especially in this heat, the bins honk anyway so it's not as if a poo in there would make a difference.

People are weird!

BackforGood · 10/07/2017 23:08

Agree with both your friend, and a few odd posters on this thread, being very weird.
I would always offer to put it in an outside bin, but, if in my house I would have taken the bag from the harrassed parent and done that for them.
Nobody normal would expect you to take it home with you.

MeanAger · 10/07/2017 23:10

I wonder which posters on this thread are being very weird....

SaucyJack · 10/07/2017 23:10

How precious! It's just cheese sauce at 10 weeks anyway.

Is she a passive aggressive washable nappy user?

MeanAger · 10/07/2017 23:11

The wheelie bin in my garden "is at my house", it isn't inside my house but is at my house.

At my house implies in the house. If OP had meant the wheelie bin I think she would have said in my friend's wheelie bin.

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