to not want to give up our dog?

[pinklemonade84]

We're currently on the local council housing list in a band c as we live with the in laws after moving back to the area after the death of my mum.

My health visitor wrote a letter in support of our housing application as she feels that the environment is not beneficial to dd's development or my mental health. I phoned housing a fortnight later and got through to some incredibly snotty man who made out that because I hadn't been able to complete a 45 minute call to refer myself for counselling and am currently just under the care of my gp that my health visitor was a liar.

The in laws have asked us to be out of here by the end of October and have written confirming that, which we had faxed over to the housing department yesterday.

I phoned to check it had been received and got through to the same man I have previously spoken to. And once again he started with an attitude because only half of the letter had been scanned across to them.

He then proceeded to lecture me about us not having applied for flats that had come up the previous week 45 minutes away. So I explained that we had a dog, that a lot of the flats only seem to take certain age groups and that we were hoping to stay in this area for family support due to dd being epileptic. He got quite patronising and said that we would have to start thinking of our options sooner rather than later and I asked if he was advising us to get rid of our dog to which he replied "I'm advising no such thing" and repeated what he said about thinking about our options. But, it was obvious what he was implying.

I came off the phone and relayed the conversation to my husband who went up the wall and said that when we phone a department for support we shouldn't be made to feel like the dirt beneath their feet.

This dog was bought for us by my mum as our joint christmas present back in 2012 and we adore him. I would eat beans on toast everyday to make sure he had his food if we ever got to a point of not being able to afford to feed him or keep him deflead etc. Aibu in not wanting to get rid of him and wanting to find housing that will allow us to keep him with us?

Who said 60 hours each? What's so wrong with one or both of them working?

it would seem your claiming everything going and with a council house to boot Im not surprised the incentive to work is not there.
I did feel sorry for you at the start but reading further I echo what other posters say.

The dog can stay with ILs and you can move further than 45 minutes away.

Without accepting those two things your situation is unlikely to change

Have you ever worked op and by that I mean paid employment?

It seems very clear to me what your priority needs to be -being near your daughter's hospital. All else is irrelevant. And yes, you are coming across as a bit entitled I'm afraid OP. Homeowners and private renters have to compromise on living arrangements too!

If it comes to moving to a different area then so be it. We will do what is necessary. Yes we might not like it. But a roof over our heads that is ours is more important. Like I have said, worst case scenario my husband's parents would keep the dog with them until we were able to have him with us.

We took the letter into a local centre to have it scanned and directly sent to housing. This is what we were told to do. My husband is taking the letter back in tomorrow to make sure it is sent properly.

Finding the 45 minutes to make the phone call is difficult. As fil doesn't know when he's going to have a hypo (though he does get a bit of a warning) and dd has no triggers for her seizures so we don't actually know when one is going to come. Which I think is why he is apprehensive about watching her on his own for so long. However, I will phone the counselling service and explain the situation and ask if I need to end the call quickly can my answers be saved to carry on with it another time/day

If you look back user then yes you will see that I have had paid employment in the past and not claimed benefits unless I actually needed to.

I'm only claiming what I've been advised we are entitled to

It's hard to find 45 minutes to make a crucial phone call but not hard to spend half the day on MN making excuses?

It's a sunday afternoon! I'm not going to be able to call the counselling service as they're only open weekdays! Seriously how picky and pathetic can you be?

If Sunday afternoons are similar to your other afternoons...being unemployed and all that...it looks like you DO have time and it's yet another excuse.

Get a mirror out pink and ask that question of yourself not thefuture All empathy left pages ago. Pull your finger out and do something.

If your time is that limited you would find it as difficult on a Sunday as you would on a weekday.

Does your DC nap? Can you call then whilst fil just checks on her?

I've asked fil several times to watch her so I can make the call and there has always been an excuse. One thing or another, which he doesn't actually do. Just keeps putting it off.

I'm going to ask him to watch her on the promise that if anything happens I will end the call as quickly as I can and get straight into the room to deal with dd

Either that or I will have to ask my husband to take a day off so that he can deal with dd while I make the call!

Truly laughable

I thought your dh wasn't working?

Take a day off for a 45 minute call?
If you worked a day at the weekend. Instead of moaning on here you would be much closer to saving for a deposit!

No he doesn't work! I've said before that he attends a course on weekdays that help him with job search, interview techniques and he is completing some computer qualifications through them too

oh for goodness sake how hard can it be to make a phone call!! You are being ridiculous OP

It's not hard to make the phone call itself! It's someone to watch over dd while I try and complete it, that's what I'm struggling with!

These courses are not permanent, 5 days a week, 9-5. Certainly not for weeks on end. You are making this very difficult.

I feel for you op, I had to rehome my dog, I tried so hard to keep him. Moved In with inlaws who said he couldn't stay, moved again to my own families while heavily pregnant. my dog hated other dogs and my family had two, it was a nightmare. Finally gave in a and rehomed him only for him to bite someone and have to be pts. He was dealt a really shitty hand In life, he was loving but troubled as he was never socialised prior to me rescuing him. I would have loved to know he went on to have a safe happy life with another family but it didn't work out. Social housing where I live is so few people don't get to make any choices or demands, you get offered what's available and if you say no that's it. If you have to move to somewhere that doesn't allow dogs, do you have the option of responsible rehoming? I would have given anything to have had that choice available to me and it had worked OK.

Rather than taking a whole day off could he not arrange to go in an hour later or leave a little earlier after explaining your problem? Could u meet him during his lunch break so he watches dd whilst you call?

It's 9-5. 5 days a week? No breaks?