Rearranged family lunch and uncontactable family member
Pombearsandnaiceham · 08/07/2017 11:20
I'm meant to be meeting up with a close family member for lunch at 1 today.
I bought this lunch for them two Christmasses ago (Christmas 2015), and the agreement was always that we would go together. As we didn't book it in within a specific time window, I then had to pay a bit to extend the lunch voucher.
In April this year, we finally booked a date for the lunch - a Saturday a few weekends ago. A week before the Saturday, I remind the family member about the lunch and she tells me that she double-booked and can't go to the lunch, as she has now made plans for that Saturday to go away with friends for a birthday weekend.
Fine. So we rearrange the lunch for 1pm today. I texted the family member a couple of hours ago to ask where we should meet, and haven't got a reply. I've just tried to ring her a couple of times, and still no reply.
Pombearsandnaiceham · 08/07/2017 11:39
Hi stealth - she did seem to sound enthusiastic, yes. And she does like these kinds of things. I don't have anyone else I can think of at the moment unfortunately - a lot of people are on holiday this weekend, and it's only 2 hours' notice for anyone else willing to come!
MissionItsPossible · 08/07/2017 11:45
2015!? They don't want to go or are not bothered about it. You have done more than enough to accommodate them. If you want to be a bit more accommodating then you could contact them once more and make it clear that it will expire soon and if they can't commit then you will use it and take somebody else. If you do that you're a bigger person than I would be in that situation. That's a ridiculously long time to wait!
LassWiTheDelicateAir · 08/07/2017 11:55
(and agree with birds if the lunch was contingent on you attending it's not really a gift)
Again, sorry but it's a really odd gift. Usually restaurant gifts are for the donee and the donee's own choice of plus one.
I suppose if the restaurant was some fabulously expensive gourmet dining experience which you had both talked about wanting to go to and you suggested it as your treat then that might be different.
Pombearsandnaiceham · 08/07/2017 11:55
I don't really agree that the lunch wasn't a gift it was me contingent on me attending.
Loads of people buy meals or hotel stays for their friend/family member/partner as a present.
I am frustrated that I'll have to arrange it a second time now.
LassWiTheDelicateAir · 08/07/2017 12:00
Loads of people buy meals or hotel stays for their friend/family member/partner as a present
Loads of people buy meals or hotel stays as a treat for their partner- the operative word being partner. That is completely different from what you are describing.
LassWiTheDelicateAir · 08/07/2017 12:05
If the gift is dependant on the donor being there the donor must be someone very close to the donee and with whom the donee would be happy to spend time with even without the gift.
I think it is a really strange idea to give someone a restaurant gift only useable if the donee goes with the donor.
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