Found a positive pregnancy test in DSDs bedroom. DH will want her out. What the fuck do I do.

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I'm in actual genuine shock.

This isn't one of those "my teenage child is better behaved than your teenage child" because it isnt. She is far from perfect but She knows she can tell me anything and I will 100% support her decision on things.

Anyway- on to the topic.

DSD has been working hard all week and took DD out today as I was feeling unwell. She usually does her own laundry and ironing so I decided to do it for her today. Went to put some t shirts away in her drawers and found a positive pregnancy test. Thinking about it (and I know this sounds odd in a way) but I haven't cleaned out any sanitary products from her bathroom bin in the last 2 or 3 months. I know she has been sleeping with someone and she insisted she was taking precautions but as we all know accidents can happen. I assumed she was on the pill as my periods stopped when I was on it a couple of years ago

I was out when she came back with DD and she is now at work until half 12. I'm going to sit and have a chat with her and I know she is either going to be really upset because she doesn't know what to do or angry because she feels I have invaded her personal space- I genuinely didn't go looking for it. I opened the drawer and saw the end peaking out of a pair of slipper socks and knew straight away what it was.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%.

She is 18 (just)

I've just caught up and must say that she is very lucky to have you op! Is she still with the father, will he support her too?

You knew he wouldn't take it well. I confess my P is like this,
every challenge seems ro major, he really throws the rattle out of the cage & tantrums.
You may find that he eventually realises that accidents happen, 17 yer olds are stupid, they make mistakes.
I hope this settles down, apologies are made & life can resume its course, whatever that may be for DD.
Statistically 16 per 1000 women in in England & wales had an abortion in 2016.

Sorry to be blunt but the only being kicked out would be DH

She sounds like a very capable sensible girl don't let her be bullied when she is vulnerable

Personally I wouldn't want to be married to a bully

She's lucky to have you in her corner

Sorry he reacted as expected, hope you all managed to get some sleep

Op you and your DSD sound incredibly strong women xx sending you both my best wishes.
Can't imagine the police will be interested in an 18yr old being pregnant 😶 sounds like your DH can't cope emotionally with this. Hope all works out x

I haven't read all the replies here but I just wanted to say that I was 18 when I had my first and my dad wasn't happy when I told him I was pregnant. He too is old fashioned said Ihad ruined my life etc. That being said he soon came around to the idea. I was in a relaxation shop then to who I'm now married to. I still went ahead and achieved my goals and now have another little girl. And I have to say he is the best grandad to them both. What he thought at the beginning disgusts him now. He is now proud that he's watched his daughter grow build a family a home and a life.

I'm sure that whatever your dh views are now won't be the same in the near future

Sorry to hear this.

Unfortunately, some people see calling the Police as like 'telling the Teacher'

Sad to hear he reacted this way.

What on earth did he phone the police for?
Hope you're all feeling a bit better today.

Can't imagine the police will be interested in an 18yr old being pregnant

I think he was saying he'd call the police if op didn't bring home their 3 year old DD.
Not that it matters either, the police wouldn't do anything

You, OP, are fucking brilliant. Your future ex-husband, on the other hand, is a fucking wanker.

This IS the end of your marriage. No may be about it. How could you possibly go back to a man who treats his own daughter this way and regards your marital home as his not 'ours'?

why should he in their lives hannah he called the police on his wife!

that would be it from me-hes abusive

Oh OP, so sorry it's turned out like this. I am so glad your DSD has you and your mum.

Your husband is a bastard. And you are quite possibly the best Stepmum on the whole entire planet.

Sorry to hear it went as you expected OP - but you are an amazing person and your DSD is so lucky to have someone as supportive as you.

I work at a university and previous posters are correct - a lot of unis have loads and loads of support in place for young mothers. Having the baby is certainly not the end of her further education aspirations.
Good luck

I haven't read every post, but he sounds as bad as the f*wit father of the baby - abandoning his child when she most needs his support and understanding. Sorry you have found yourself in such a terrible situation OP, but you have done the right thing x

Well done, op. Wishing you, dd, dsd & her baby all the best. Sounds like you are all best off on your own if that is how your H wants to behave.

So sorry to hear how things went OP. Hope you, DSD, DD and DM had a peaceful night and the new day has bought some calm rational behaviour from your husband.

Feel so bad for you all right now. Hopefully the shock will soon be lifted and he will listen with a clear mind. Xx

Can't believe all the "Oh, he'll come round" "Give him time" stuff.

We are talking about an ^adult human being" here. Not a toddler.

So sorry things went this way but just want to echo others who have said you are an amazing step mum!

Your husband sounds controlling and aggressive - I hope that you and your daughters are OK. I find it amazing that he managed to persuade a woman like you to marry him!

Get him gone