To think this is not a picture you would post on Facebook

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SIL posts regularly about various problems, usually the half info type post which has lots of ppl sympathising and asking after more detail. Her young child recently had an issue which required hospitalisation, and was put on a ventilator for a day, fluid drained etc. Luckily, treatment has been positive and the worst is over. She will need to stay in for a few more days for observation.
The first we knew about it was from a post on FB, on entry to the hospital, although it wasn't clear which child was involved, or what the problem was. Subsequent updates have included photos of child with various tubes etc, which has been distressing for some family members to see (for various reasons). I understand FB is a fast way to update everyone at once, but AIBU to think posting the pics is a bit unnecessary? The poor child is ill, surely they deserve a bit more privacy than having these pics plastered on social media?

Attention seeking sums it up I'm afraid. Parents should respect and protect their child's privacy, not parade their pain and illness for 'likes' and 'comments.'

It just states photographs are not allowed on hospital property and if you get caught you will be asked to leave and may not be allowed back. It's said in a better way but that's exactly what it says on posters. The trust has wrote it and there are posters All over itu . How do u know which hospital I'm on about and how do you know you have read that poster ?I'm not making it up and it clearly states that no photographs are to be taken at all !!!!

No iv noticed poster s elsewhere. I'm confined to a bedroom at moment so can't go take a pic of poster . My dd is too sick to leave

The concept of privacy is radically different to what it used to be. Likes and comments can help people through the pain.

Get over yourself Blue, calling struggling, grieving parents 'attention seeking' is pretty fucking low.

I guess we all use FB differently. From my feed you would think I had a golden life, I only post the good stuff, to make people smile. I seldom post pictures of my children, because I respect their privacy. I would never post pictures of my deceased child in hospital or after, the idea makes me deeply uncomfortable. When we visit his grave and make it pretty, I FB message the picture to 2 or 3 special, close people, I would never put it on my wall for my broad circle of 'friends', many of whom I know through a hobby unconnected with my children.

I like to keep my private life fairly private, my children's lives very private and my grief is deeply personal and not for the world to see. That is me. Pictures of children in hospital distress me greatly for obvious reasons but non of my friends would do that in any case. Pictures of adults with injuries I can handle.

Here u go

Are you in the UK Vanilla?
I would be amazed if a public hospital could legally prevent a parent taking a photograph of their own child or bar a parent from seeing that child for taking a photo.

How would they police it? Do they have security guards in there?

Yep uk . It's a good thing they have this policy . Not everyone woukd be happy having pics of themselves ventilated etc no matter what age they are . It's about respect and dignity to others

Right so no one is allowed to take photographs without permission.

Not 'no one is allowed to take photos of their child and will be removed if they do'

I hope your dd is on the mend

Whereas DS "likes" looking at the photos of himself when he was really ill. It helps him deal with the ongoing problems he has as a result.

It also helps me deal with things.

Like I said I was actively encouraged by the staff to take photos. I chose not to share the ones of him at his worse but that doesn't mean I would judge someone who made a different choice.

The way you chose to grieve should be respected thelumineries
I have no issue with you not wanting to post photos of your children.
I expect you would find it deeply upsetting to read regular threads saying that you were wrong for not doing so?

My ds was admitted to intensive care. I uploaded a video of him before we went. It certainly wasn't for attention seeking I wanted family to see what the situation was. Ds was in hospital for the first month of his life. We were hours away from home. I only have family on my f.b not random people

I don't like it. my sil quite often posts pics of her DS when he has been hospitalised with diabetes related complications. On some occasions he has been very very ill and I just think it's wrong to post pictures when he is so vulnerable. However her son is a teenager and doesn't seem to mind so it's up to her I guess.

We have a no photos policy at the hospital I work at too. It's to stop other patients and staff ending up plastered over social media.
It's applied with a light touch though so if you were only taking pictures of your relative and you had their consent staff would turn a blind eye.

I assumed that was what it was for gamer
People can be inconsiderate about the wishes of other patients in hospital.
I would hate to think there were hospitals preventing parents taking photos of their own kids.

I guess that its such a big part of his normal life he doesn't see it as weird or distasteful gamer
If you spend a lot of time in hospital it might be seen as odd to stop posting/fbing every time you were in.

I agree with MrsDV, these threads are awful and, sadly, far too common.

My DD has frequent hospital visits and asks to be photographed. She shows the photos at school and talks about the experiences, we post them in the FB page of people with the same rare bone disease as her and she really enjoys the messages of support, we also post them on my page for friends and relatives to communicate with her.

Stop judging the way other people deal with very difficult situations.

I was one of those sick children ...well bordering on teenagers during a time when social media was in its infancy.

During my hospital stays I can't imagine a time my parents would have thought it appropriate to take a photo of me in my drugged up state.

And neither would I have wanted them too. Outside of hospital I spent alot of time on my appearance before I left the house or took a photo, every photo of me on social media was carefully posed. I would have been hysterical if anyone had seen me in that sort of state.

"I cannot budge in my opinion that posting pictures of ill children on the internet is wrong. Sorry but there it is."

Could any of you who feel that way about it, please post it now on your Facebook? Loud & Clear. Then hopefully I will see your post & unfriend you. You don't want to know about my life, anyway. Cheers. X

Your post says it all Rawhh