Was my DH BU for making the neighbour wash his dog's piss off our car?

[Worriedaboutsmear]

We have a neighbour about 4 doors away who has several dogs and is often seen walking past our house taking his dogs out. He's never spoken to us since we moved here 3 years ago, never smiled back, and if we are outside when he is walking past, he looks at the pavement. He does seem to talk to some of the other neighbours

A few weeks ago both DH and I were at home during the day, when said neighbour walked one of his dogs past. We just happened to be looking out the front window (as you do when you notice someone walking past), when we saw the dog lifting his leg and pissing against one of our rear car wheels and the bottom part of the bumper . The neighbour didn't seem to make any attempt to tug at his collar, he just carried on looking at the pavement, and so the dog carried on until he was finished. The neighbour then proceeded to carry on with his walk.

DH's instant reaction was to knock on the window to stop the neighbour from walking on, and gestured to him (like a "what are you doing" kind of gesture), he then went outside while I stayed inside.

I saw them have a few words, which was DH pointing at the car and not looking very happy, the neighbour appeared to be shrugging but apologising, and then went back to the direction of his house.

DH came back in and said that he politely asked him to make sure his dog doesn't do his business on our car again and that he wants it washing off. I'm not as assertive as DH so I told him that it wasn't necesssary to get him to wash it off, as long as he tries to not let his dog do it again, but DH's view was that if he was someone that actually acknowledged us from time to time rather than ignoring our existence then he would've taken that view, but why should we when he clearly doesn't like us etc etc

The neighbour appeared about 2 mins later just with his wife now and a bucket and brush.
Whilst washing it off they didn't look up.

Ever since then, the neighbour has gone from not much acknowledging us, to now grimacing at us, staring across at our house when he walks past, and furthermore, making a point of crossing the road just before he gets to our house and then crossing back to this side once past our house.

Could I kindly just ask for the general consensus of who WBU here, should my DH not have said anything and/or not asked him to wash it off? I said to my DH that maybe he felt humiliated but DH said that it's arrogant of him to think his dog can piss where ever he likes and not accept the consequences if it's against someone else's personal property.

I can't believe the DH in this story is supposed to just sit there smiling benignly

Could you not be arsed reading the thread then? Just wanted to rush in and post? Because quite clearly the majority have posted that asking him not to let the dog do it again was fair enough, telling the guy to go home, got water and wash it off for no reason other than he thinks the guy doesn't like him because he doesn't say hello is what people have an issue with,

Hope the summary helps. Next time read the thread.

Another thread where op gets a volley of shit. Ffs.

Saw this cartoon and it made me think of this thread

This cartoon reminded me of this thread. Angry man is the neighbour.

This is hilarious 😂.

I think a bucket of warm skin soapy water would have done it, no need for brushes & an audience 😂

Aw I feel really sorry for the neighbour. I've lived in my house for 2 yrs and often look at the pavement while walking the dog instead of talking to people in the new environment, might sound ignorant but I'm just anxious and shy in general. Dogs pee on cars, lamp posts fences, houses ect ect..... as long as you clean up the poo it's not hurting anyone surely. Your husband is BU and sounds aggressive and threatening. I'd cross the rd too. Sorry OP.

A bit different , but our NDN was cleaning mud of his work van using one of them jet hose things. Our car then got covered in muddy water.
We all park on the road.
My OH went out and had a Mexican stand off with neighbour until the neighbour cleaned our car.

Think your OH was not unreasonable. Dog urine causing corrosion , this is why wooden telephone poles have tar painted around the bottom of them. You NDN shouldn't of let his dog wander onto your drive either

Haven't RTFT but it's disgusting for someone to let their dog pee over someone else's property and of course they should put it right. A quick wash of the car is not an unreasonable thing to ask.

I think your DH needs to calm down a bit - he has left the neighbour with nowhere to go but conflict or going with a completely unreasonable demand. This is not the way to deal with your neighbours.

I would probably ask DH to hose your car down for the sake of neighbourly relations but we would both be embarrassed for you and avoid having anything to do with you again.

So much hypocrisy in these posts - calling the OP and her DH bullies whilst openly bullying and ganging up on her themselves.

The guy was in the wrong to let his dog go onto someone's property and piss on their car - (actually it could have been quite a way down the drive because some leads are pretty long) - the OH was right to pull him up on it but getting him to wash it off was too far- instead perhaps he could have said that if it happened again the dog owner would have to clean it off.